ow sending my dh birthday card

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Back story here
m.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1366841-what-do-I-do-now?reverse=1#thread

After going through a complete breakdown of our relationship, we've managed to put that stuff behind us and are slowly rebuilding our relationship.

I unpacked the car and ow had given him a birthday card at work. Fairly uninteresting message about being old.

Why? Does she think that's ok?
Why did he even bring it home?

Are you and your husband communicating well right now?

Have you asked him how he feels about the affair and your relationship now?

Is he willing to put the effort in to make your relationship work?

FFS it's only a card! I presume he didn't want to be rude by leaving it behind and didn't want to put it up on the mantelpiece for obvious reasons.

Things are fine between us.
Just trying to put it all behind me. Again.

I'm glad she's leaving and that is about it really.

Our relationship wasn't in a great place before and it has been much better. I just want to continue as we're going.

Minus her.

I think he will hurt you again but its your choice to stay in the relationship. Please remeber we are here to listen to you and help with advice when you need it or willing to hear it.

Good luck and take care of yourself

Thanks for being here!

Fwiw, I have taken on board a lot of the advice here :)

That is the problem though, Higgle. He was thinking about his OW's feelings, not his wife's. If he didn't want to hurt either he just had to take the card and then bin it on the way home.

Just wondered how you were OP? Are things ok?