DP keeps doing something I don't like

[illuminine]

My DP keeps touching my bellybutton. I've told him I hate it but he still does it. Sometimes when I get upset about it he apoligises but then still does it again. He makes me feel silly for getting upset about it as well. I don't think he understands how much I hate it. Any advice on how to make him stop?

Tell him to bloody respect your boundaries. DH has a thing about his belly button. I tease him about it rarely but would never touch it. We had serious discussions as I was interested and he has a genuine sort of ph

I would do it back to him harder. I dislike having mine touched it makes me feel sick.

I've tried doing it back to him but it doesn't bother him at all. I just showed him this thread and he laughed :(

Put a massive sticking plaster cross on it and kick him in the nuts

Ignore that!!!!! Clicked post by mistake

Illumine, presumably there is something he hates? Do that.

Ask him why he keeps doing something that you have told him you don't like. Seriously ask him now I'd be quite interested to know what he answers.

:( he laughed?

Does he often ignore your feelings if he doesn't happen to agree with them?

Yes, can you ask him why he does this? My, bellybutton is very sensitive - God knows why - so if anyone touches it I feel physically sick.

Does he think it's FUNNY?

He sounds pretty immature.

I don't like having my head touched, it is just too sensitive. If anyone touches it, I wince.

My partner respects that (even though he likes touching my hair.)

He sounds like a wanker. Tell him to respect your feelings or he's out the door. DH knows to not go near my feet, I told him if he did I would walk away. I feel that strongly about it. You know what? He has always respected that and doesn't touch them. How long have u been together?

What's his answer, OP?

Just asked him: he does it because it's funny, and for attention. I asked him how he'd feel if I kicked him in the balls every time he does it in future. He said that's different, as that would be actual assault. I don't know how to make him take it seriously.

Walk away whenever he does it. Don't enter into a discussion or argument. Just go silent and walk away.

If he's doing it for attention, not giving it to him will stop him doing this.

Blergh, it's just creepy, I hate people that can't understand that you have physical boundaries.

"actual assault" as opposed to...?

Oh my God. I feel very anxious just reading this. Have you asked him how him doing something you hate is funny? I guess you have, but I'm struggling with what a total nasty bloke he is.

Show him this: Matey, stop it. You're upsetting someone you claim to love. Stop it. Is THIS funny?

He just added: "I do respect your boundaries, just not that one, because it's silly". He is also making fun of me for posting about it on Mumsnet.

Touching you in a way you have specifically asked him repeatedly not to do is actual assault too He's a fool and a prat and not very nice person - who repeatedly does something they've been asked not to do by the person they purport to love and care about? Has he any respect for you at all?

It's not the actual act though is it? Or wether its assault or not.

It's that he clearly doesn't cre that it upsets you. That's the worst thing about it all.

Its all well and good doing something back like blowing a whistle in his face or something but he shouldn't need training not to do something that upsets you like a dog!

He's not respecting your boundaries, he's hurting you.

My heart is beating a bit faster with anxiety for you - I know it sounds daft because I don't know you but as mentioned, my belly button is a no go, too. Shudder.

Can you get away this evening, write him a letter about this, anything? Why doesn't he accept your feelings?

I should add he is actually lovely and not nasty in any way, other than this one issue.

What he is doing is actual assault. He is physically touching you, when you have asked him not to, deliberately to cause you distress. I would also imagine there is some kind of physical restraint going on, with you so anti it unless you walk around with it on show all day, this would be assault.

The guy sounds like a prize prick.

Is your navel on display or something?

Right, well tell him that you respect his boundaries, just not his silly one about not enjoying having water thrown in his face.

And then do it. EVERY FUCKING TIME HE TOUCHES YOUR BELLYBUTTON.

Or just ignore him. That does usually work. Nothing an attention seeker hates more than stone cold silence.

He's laughing because he feels awkward. Guaranteed.

I'm not normally an advocate of physical responses, but everytime he touched your belly button I would flick him on the forehead. And if that doesn't stop him then he is being a total prick so you should leave the bastard!