DP keeps doing something I don't like

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My DP keeps touching my bellybutton. I've told him I hate it but he still does it. Sometimes when I get upset about it he apoligises but then still does it again. He makes me feel silly for getting upset about it as well. I don't think he understands how much I hate it. Any advice on how to make him stop?

Well if it's for attention. Ignore the twat and walk away/ out of the room. What a plonker. Hopefully the novelty will wear off soon

I think its sad that your DP does something to deliberately upset you, its sadistic. Making fun of you for not liking it is vindictive.

Maybe, he honestly doesn't appreciate how much you hate it. Based on your recent post, I think it has been blown out of proportion slightly based on not much information in your post.

I dunno EclecticShock...she's told him she hates it, she's shown him a thread she posted saying it upsets her. If he can't take it seriously after that, when will he?

Eclectic. She's told him several times. Apparently, pigeon's learn faster

Pigeons. Don't know where that apostrophe came from

He sounds like a nasty piece of work sorry

Fair enough. I do wonder how you sort out other differences between you, if you're having trouble with this one.

Sometimes you have to be more than crystal clear when setting your boundaries, to ensure you're taken seriously.

How much more crystal clear can you get than starting a thread on here about it?

My DH kept swearing when DD was a baby so I took to poking him in the neck every time....he soon stopped. Why don't you do something back to DP?

When one person does something to another "because it's funny" but the person it is done to is not laughing and they continue doing so regardless, that's bullying.

Ask your DP why he feels he needs negative attention, when there is so much nicer attention you are more than happy to give him?

It might be really really thick skinned and immature... Not saying he's not in the wrong of course but if this is the only thing he does that op has a problem with, I'm sure he's not "sadistic" :)

What is "more than crystal clear" ?

Yes, he does sound immature, or it's a way kfor him to act out nasty attacking stuff he doesn't think would be acceptable otherwise.

Is is assult if you don't like it.... And you have said, NO.

My DP when we are laying down, will PAT my belly, just to have it jiggle.. I HATE that! Like a basketball... So, I know how it feels...

Glad he doesn't do it much... but it is never okay to insult/assult someone even ONCE.

Everyone has different opinions on what constitutes being crystal clear and vocal. I simply meant wrench your disapproval up a few notches.

I can't believe that if my partner said he didn't like something I'd keep doing it "as a joke." And if he then wrote about it on an internet forum, I'd say he was being silly.

I would be mortified.

But you take your oh seriously... Maybe ops partner has not taken it seriously for whatever reason... Immaturity, being the first one that springs to mind. He might think he's being cute and funny, he might have a really crap sense of humour and not many functional techniques for getting attention. Maybe, this whole thread is a little tongue on cheek. I really hope so...otherwise op has serious issues she needs to address, but she hasn't given that impression.

Every time he does it scream as loudly as you can, flick him on the head and walk away.

Are you serious Eclectic?

OP has said she doesn't like something and her "D"P continues to do it "for attention" and "because it's funny". There is NO excuse for his behaviour. I don't think OP "has serious issues", but this is a genuine point she is raising about her OH not respecting what she says.

They are not in the playground ffs.

If she can't get her point across that she doesn't like it... Then she must have serious issues in her relationship. IMO.

I think her partner is the one with the issues if he can't listen to her when she says she doesn't like something.

How can you have a successful relationship if you can't handle a situation like this? Serious question. I think this thread is a wind up, personally. That or op really needs to find her voice. We are not all victims here, it's up to the individual to protect themselves and set boundaries. Just because someone does something you don't like, doesn't mean it's always their fault.

I think it probably is their fault, actually.