Do you think he will hurt me?

[singlemum2012]

I am newly and unexpectedly single, separated for a while but ex-dh only moved out 6 months ago so I am fairly new to dating. Ex-dh was first boyfriend so not very experienced.

Have started seeing this guy. Sex is fantastic, we began the relationship as a friends with benefits thing as he is a bit younger than me and doesn't want kids, fine with me and scratches an itch till I find someone more suitable for long-term. But this guy is a bit of an oddball and has been doing more and more things and I can't figure out whether he is not safe to be around or just messing with me. I only see him on weekends when I don't have my kids, he has never been to my house and does not even know my address.

A couple of times he has hidden behind the bathroom door so when I come out it makes me jump. Another time I was coming out of the bathroom and he was brandishing a hammer. He said he was putting up pictures, and there were pictures on the floor, but he never got around to it and I didn't see any nails, I just had the feeling he was doing it on purpose to scare me. He has cooked for me twice and both times has loaded the meals with as much fat as he possibly can, food fried in stupid amounts of lard, with gold top milk and cream and alcohol added. He told me one of his girlfriends put on two stone in six months when she lived with him. He's skinny and I noticed he ate less than half of his portion. He makes a big deal over the fact that he likes offal, raw meat and black pudding and is a huge attention seeker, when I am with him he is really wearing, he wants my attention all of the time, even keeping me awake most of the night and not letting me sleep. If it wasn't for the fabulous sex I would have run, would like to stay for this but I can't figure out whether he is a harmless attention-seeker pretending to be a dark and dangerous guy or whether he is actually dangerous. He drinks like a fish as well, has no friends (he says), wears black all the time and has decorated his house with weapons (he has good job and own house). He texts me all the time when I am not with him. I feel I don't have enough experience to evaluate him...my head says run but my heart wants the attention / the intimacy / the great sex.

Your opinions please??

Oh dear God, who said Dark Overlord of Mince? I wee'd.

Enough for me.

You either listen or you don't.

Back to AIBU for me. Relationships is a silly place.

So to re-cap

You're quite worried for your own safety regarding your 2 visits to have sex with a slightly unhinged, weapon obsessed, hammer wielding, black pudding eater that knows nothing about you....yet was willing (after 2 shags) to pay £300 in order to tempt you to have sex with him, without a condom?

But you don't want to ditch him because he has a 9" cock and is rather good at the old jiggy jiggy.

My suggestion is you both pay a prostitute of your choice.

For you, it's got to be worth a few quid just to be able to relax and shag someone safe in the knowledge he's not going to jump out of the wardrobe wielding a black pudding to bash you over the head with.

For him it's got to be cheaper than paying £300 to prove he hasn't got a dose of crabs.

Please come back and let us know how you both get on.....

Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! I did Dark Overlord of Mince

you take a risk with every date you go on. I'm sure there are many many mothers who have taken more risks than I have. The first date he seemed rather eccentric but I didn't feel unsafe. It was only the second date with the hammer incident that I got worried, hence my post on here.

AF you are being a grass now though,just because you got caught out doesnt mean everyone has to

Bup, I have a paranoid persecution complex

they all havitinferme

Worra

I always wait untill the second date to wield a hammer at my partners.

Yeah but no but tbf if on the first date I got jumped by a member of Cradle of Filth brandishing a hammer, I'd be offski. Not posting reams on here asking if he is operating on a full set of batteries.

it was on second date

I would get back on POF, op there are plenty more like him, you will never be lonely

first date he seemed eccentric but OK

I love you Buppers.

And you too, AF. Discrimination sucks.

I'm quite partial to a bit of blood sausage being wielded at me

It was the second date Bupcakes, keep up.

I love everyone.

no both were on second date. keep up!

ledkr, I am dobbing everyone in

when i get the email suspending my account, I'm taking you allllllllll down with me

I have a hammer, and I know how to use it

I don't like kidneys though

they suck

you can test me. I'm for real.

But not by someone with sharp pointy teeth, dressed in black, eh Worra.