Well done Peeps, well done mumsnetters for absolutely brilliant advice on here. Peeps, you probably are a brilliant GP, daughter,mum, friend.
If you had debts wouldn't you be anxious about paying them off? Would you borrow someone's credit card and lie about spending it on emergencies when you clearly are not?
Please Peeps, why do you accept such terrible treatment when you would not treat another person as badly as this?
Your dc absolutely depend on you and need decent role models in their lives so that they have a happy and emotionally healthy upbringing.
You have severe self esteem issues and rock bottom self worth if you want to introduce such a dreadful male role model into your dc's lives so soon after another dreadful and abusive male role model (their father).
Please, a worthy partner/friend/lover would never ask for your credit card or do any of the things you have said on here. My worry is that your warning bells did not go off immediately after the request for the card. Why didn't it?
You are actually unable to protect yourself and that has huge repercussion as you are not going to be able to protect your dc if another charming, low level guy comes worming his way into your lives.
Please put your dc's welfare and happiness first, they need it as they would have known how miserable you were with your abusive ex no matter how young they are.
You are a very bright, intelligent woman but that doesn't protect you from scammers, in fact, it makes you even more vulnerable to them.
Please try and meet men through people who know you but because of the ages of your dc (and solvency,) remember you are all very vulnerable to predators like this.