No make up no bragging, no kissing, no shagging, no tumbling hair, be a maiden fair. And you definitely won't see him for dust! Dating thread 14

[ChaoticismyLife]

Chastity belts at the ready...

Extra strong padlocks required...

I asked because I'm one of 10 and in the past some people have found it abit weird. He asked how many siblings I had and didn't reply when told him.

Waves. Taken me forever to catch up - again!

Not enough hours in the day to feed my MN habit sometimes.

Nothing very exciting to report. Next date with MrMusic not until 30th May - so in a lull. He is an enthusiastic texter, which I'm finding slightly trying.

Glad to hear there are lots of dates in the offing.

That wouldn't put me off SP. Not in the slightest

Hi Post

I have one, which quite frankly is one too many, but I don't really ask things like that, that's for when you get mote serious tbh. Just my opinion and no it wouldn't put me off.

miranda putting your birthday in his diary means he is planning to do something for it. All good

I am looking forward to Saturday, come on Chelsea!

That's good then. I don't often get a good response but he replied just asking about them so that's good.

Also got told my ex wants me back err NO NOT HAPPENING . I have been strong and I will bot

MLM Tell him to go fuck his self

MLM does your ex know where you are? Are you safe? I wouldn't be happy with these messages being relayed from him. Can you trust the person who is obviously liaising with him?

SP I'm one of four. Where in the pecking order of the 10 are you? I can't believe you get a negative response just because you are from a large family. That's not nice!

I can trust the person I am getting them through. He has no idea where I am living anymore thank fully. He won't sign the divorce which doesn't bother me, cos I will get an affadavitt and get it anyway. It has shaken me to be honest. He has no access to my Facebook either, and no phone number. Just as I was thinking life was ticking along nicely. Nice house, financially stable, happy son, why does he always have to pop up. It's not helping him either. I won't go back. The mutual friend told me that he would never let me.

Brain is mashed, ended up shaking and vomiting.

MLM I agree with Time...again. Be careful.

SP Someone having siblings wouldn't bother me per se. Now if one of them was nasty to me and he allowed it that would put me off but that goes for any situation beit with family or friends iyswim. It's not the amount of family or friends but how the person you are with deals with any bad behaviour directed at you that matters.

Off topic, I'm sat here filling in an application form which has to be handed in today... so something in my life is heading in the right direction.

I would suggest that you tell the mutual friend to stop passing messages from him. This is still a form of contact and it's not healthy. I would also be questioning what kind of a friend can remain mutual after my ex had stabbed me and put me through such a vicious assault that I had to go into hiding. I couldn't maintain a friendship with someone who stood by my ex.

MLM, I SECOND What Time says.

Time I'm the oldest. 3 I don't really see often are my real dads and my mum as 7. Youngest been nearly a year. He said he was shocked as he only has one.brother but just asked about them.

MLM - very good advice here. I don't think you should be having contact with anyone who is passing messages from your ex to you. All contact should be through professional channels; mediators, lawyers etc. Friends, however well meaning, can get it wrong sometimes or get drunk & let something slip etc. Be really careful what you stick upon Facebook too. Make sure you don't ever do that location tagging thing.

chaotic - good luck with the job application.

He didn't know (still doesnt) how bad it was. I told him it needs to go via the solicitors and he said he understands and doesn't want me to do anything I feel uncomfortable with.

They both play the same online poker site cos I checked and they aren't friends on Facebook.

To be fair this mutual friend told me I needed to stand up for myself and stop him talking to me like I was worthless. I am glad I sent no photos.

The mutual friend knows I am in London somewhere and now have my own place (where is not disclosed) the last thing I put on Facebook was about me having belly ache, headache and breaking my diet, then this morning I pit
"yesterday is dead and gone thankfully, tomorrow is out of sight, so I am going to enjoy today, tomorrow can wait"

Made sure only friends can see my Facebook anyway and what I post on others too like a mate said they had a great night out so I put, always good to have a good night put, could do with one myself.

You shouldn't have to live like that though. If your ex was as violent as you say then you need to cut ties with all those who remain in contact with him. You are still effectively being controlled by him. And, you are not entirely safe.

It's easier said than done. The mutual friends partner is my best friend. He seems to have cut ties and was well meaning. My bestie doesn't know where I live either I always go to see her. It's a,mess. Mutual friend said the ex kept on and he messaged me to shut him up. My ex also owes him a substantial sum of money too. He is caught in the middle.

I am sulking as despite the fact it is nearly 3pm I have still not heard anything from him. Meh.

:(

Oh sponge I hate it when people don't message me. Wait and see on Saturday whether I get a message or not from just friends.

Another question from the Dating Novice

What to wear on a first date? We will be going for something to eat and a few drinks.

Imagine that you are just going to have a bite to eat & a few drinks with a friend & dress accordingly. Fairly minimal effort - that way if he is a dud - you won't feel like you wasted time & energy on him!

Skinny jeans, and a nice top works for me. Freshly applied make up and I always re straighten my hair.

Slight effort but not much lying cow I go all out on hair/make up when just friends comes over

I feel better now. Been chatting to my non potato.

Application form completed and handed in.

Thank you, Post :)

I messaged someone who was in my contacts on Oasis last night. I added him and he sent me a message but I haven't seen him online since. Anyway he got back to me to say he's been working nights so hasn't been around, tbf neither have I really so I sent him my dating email addy so he can get in touch if he wants. He isn't as tall as I would normally like but I don't want to rule him out just because of that, besides I'm messaging him and possibly agreeing to a date not marriage. So we shall see.

SP what you feel comfortable in that's also suitable for where it is you're going to eat.