No make up no bragging, no kissing, no shagging, no tumbling hair, be a maiden fair. And you definitely won't see him for dust! Dating thread 14

[ChaoticismyLife]

Chastity belts at the ready...

Extra strong padlocks required...

A high neck is like a roll neck jumper, ie no boobage showing. I have a confession. ATM I am really into bad boys with tattoos. Guilty me. But there is just somethin about them.

I'm chatting with what looks like a tree hugger on okcupid. Just letting you know. I'm broadening my horizons and its ok cause his name isn't swampy, although I have in the past had correspondence from a swampy. :) my god, where will it all end.

A high neck is like a roll neck jumper, ie no boobage showing. I have a confession. ATM I am really into bad boys with tattoos. Guilty me. But there is just somethin about them.

I'm going to delete all my profiles, i honestly dont see the point.

Lovely drinks with PM on friday night, lots of moaning about okc; neither of us are meeting anyone nice, so am really not seeing the point. Rolled home at 2 in the morning, rather drunk, having been offered a sofa to kip on. Did get walked home though. :) was all rather clandestine, flatmate was angling to come for a beer with us, we wanted some alone time, so i said i was meeting female friends and PM said he was on a date (...) had to walk down road with flatmate and then double back, christ, it's like having an affair.

So the end of the profiles. No doubt i will ressurrect them at some point.

Will still hang out here and moan occasionally though. :)

watch sounds great! Fab 1st date potential!

SP! Real life!!! Wow! :)

Had very nice time with Mr Nice last night and today. Now on train heading down to stay with my mum and dad so I can work in London next week. Got taken to the station and waved off :)

I do appear to be having a Relationship . Am enjoying it though and am going to keep trying to live in the present :)

Am undecided whether to tell my mum and dad. Mr nice says they may guess from my grin . He may be right :)

I am giving myself a week off. Will be popping on oasis to talk to 1 person. We enjoy a chat and seeing he lives in Australia we know nothing can happen. But good to chat to. I am starving. No food after 7.

watch - your first date thats planned sounds lovely, I only ever go for drinks on the first date. I'm not into rowing but would love to have a different kind of date where you still get to talk alot

betty - what does tree hugger mean?

snape - who is PM?

Marinda - glad its going well with mr nice

and on my side, Mr tall is really lovely and has been messaging me today and yesterday, he is very keen and says lots of lovely things to me. he said he misses me abit today? but I feel like how can you miss me? you only met me on friday??? does anyone think thats weird for him to say that? or am i trying to back away??

I really do long for a happy ending for you and PM Snape, I really do.

I'm fed up with POF but can't seem to bring myself to hide my profile. I've been talking to another seemingly nice, respectable man but today the conversation turned to sex. No matter how much I told him I didn't want to go in that direction he ended up going back there. I'm starting to wonder if it's me, if I'm being a prude. But the truth is I don't want to talk about sex with a man I've never met, and it puts me off wanting to meet them. How can you sit across from someone and engage in 'normal' conversation when he has told you that he can't wait to ravish you from behind while standing up? and thinks about you kissing him while you are wearing heels and stockings? Totally random, not encouraged and not wanted, but I still get it. It seems to be the norm on there, no matter how respectable the bloke seems.

Miranda congratulations! I'm really pleased for you . Telling mum and dad is serious!!

notsure me and just friends text each other that we miss each other a lot. After 2nd meeting. So not weird. We also say we miss each other and need a hug. Etc, and that we had better get that hug etc.

SP thats great you met someone in RL! I don't think Ive ever been asked for my no like that.

Snape I share your sense of ennui re dating sites. Part of me thinks its a necessary evil, the other part despairs of meeting anyone worthwhile. At least you have PM :)

I've spoken to the rugby one. He's very nice and we are going for a drink BUT I don't think he's for me. He has his own co, clearly well off, but he and his wife still live in the same house and he said he is 'not sure' what's going to happen there. Plus he spent 10 minutes telling me about his bad back and he goes rambling (double ). On the other hand he seems to think I am wonderful. I will probably get a second date from him, but whether I want one is another matter...

Sent another 5 msgs yesterday, no reply. I am picking men who in a bar I'd expect to approach me, so really not sure why none have responded - I don't expect all of them, but one or two would be nice!

Pm is 'platonic man', my best friend. Clumsily propositioned him once, a good few years ago, no luck! It actually feels really good to retire from internet dating. Very freeing! Anyway, i've reasoned no point in internet dating. I've tried, it just hasnt worked. It was kind of an attempted distraction anyway and as we both said we'd rather spend time hanging out together than spending a toturous fortune sinking beers with 'others', thee doesnt seem to be much point. Its a funny one. Never mind.

notsure. I think the 'missing you' is quite sweet. I wouldnt read too much into it at the moment...

time. Oh, me too...

Theres a difference between a bit of flirty & too graphic. I dont mind it if its beautifully written, it seldom is... & then youre meant to shake hands with them & drink coffee. Bah!

time - I dont think its anything to do with you, I was talking with a guy who after him keep talking to me about sex and his massive cock?? and telling me how all girls like it ruff etc. He then sent me a video sent me a nasty video of him wa**ing. and he keeps messaging me on whats app.

now he has messaged me saying his friends want to talk to me on pof? freak man.

I feel like I've been groomed today. It started out so nice, just general chit chat, then compliments, then wank fodder! I don't know who I have least respect for, those who just ask for it outright or those who think they are being clever by luring women into it. I don't like a man I've never met telling me I've 'made things rise'. No I didn't mate, your sleazy imagination did that!

I love your relationship with Pm Snape. I want one of those kind of relationships. It's special.

notsure I'm sorry you had to endure that, that's disgusting!! You should report him!

I know. Men seem to think internet dating means we are desperate for sex. Actually I am not, if I was I have 2 numbers I can ring on my phone that gets me some. I want and deserve more than that.

For 'special' read 'incredibly frustrating'... :)

Time, thats horrible. I have honestly started to think internet dating is just full of shitty sleazy fuckwits. :(. I need a rest from my pathetic attempts at trying to find someone else. I just need a rest from potatoes.

notsure thats awful. what sort of man does stuff like that? scary to think you could meet one of them on a night out somewhere & have no idea thats the sort of thing they consider acceptable!

One day Snape, one day, he will realise that he already has what he is looking for

These guys would probably be on their best behaviour if we met them on a night out, it's being behind a screen and their over active imaginations that is the downfall. The kind of chat I was presented with today would have been fine with a guy I was in a relationship with, someone I liked and trusted, but not some stranger on the net. And he was wanting to meet too. They just don't get it do they?

Not sure, that's happened to me before too :( fuckers. Block him on what's app.

Time, urgh. I know what you mean. I now point blank refuse to meet anyone who does more Than mildly flirt before we meet. I.don't quite know when men deemed this was an acceptable and alluring way to talk to women you haveht met. Without a doubt, It's not you.

Snape, hmmm, do you think.something.might be happening with pm?

Sponge, how recently is he seperated? Doesn't sound like.he is.. and you can do so much better..really, you.can.

Miranda, congrats :)

Yes, date.should be good. I like dates where you do something othet than drinking :) it should be fun..looking forward to it, which makes a change!! Also got a pencilled in date with a scruffy builder type for next month. Tons in.common and like the look of him too. Match still hasn't produced anything....

Watch, 6 months he says. He is hoping she will go back home (she is not from UK) to the house they own there. I'm a bit meh about it tbh. But it seems it's that, the soldier, or another guy on POF who I was chatting to before Xmas who has now resurfaced but is far too young, not clever enough (I know thats a horrible thing to say) lives in Essex and doesn't drive - so can't get here anyway. I'd rather one half decent bloke than any of these 3 but there you go!

Your dates sound good, not surprised re match though, it was no better than POF for me, and probably worse if anything.

Thanks watch. He knew it wasn't acceptable to me because I told him, he would apologise, engage in a bit of 'normal' conversation then come out with some random sexual stuff. Knob!

All sounds to be going well for you

I might be taking a screwdriver to my alarm soon.

Definitely won't be meeting anyone who sends sexual messages to me before we meet. Anyway atm there us only one person I am thinking of being sexual with. In a week I will know whether to move on or not. Deep breath.

ok now he has told me him and his friend want a 3some with me? even tho i have been telling him to fuck off from last night! he has now just text me because i have blocked him on whats app.

how do i report him on pof? he is weird and sick.

and this type of conversation would never be acceptable even if i was in a relationship with someone for 50years. to him sex with women is weird stuff which sounds very degrading to me...

That's disgusting notsure. I think the report button is next to the block button in the inbox. I think you have to actually have a message from them. I think.