No make up no bragging, no kissing, no shagging, no tumbling hair, be a maiden fair. And you definitely won't see him for dust! Dating thread 14

[ChaoticismyLife]

Chastity belts at the ready...

Extra strong padlocks required...

He knows how you feel and where he stands. You have nothing to feel bad about. Be kept you hanging around so you moved on. Don't even think about heeling bad. He isn't worth it.

i cant anyway - im at work, and then i have to pick DD up from school and take her to swimming lessons, pack her bags for her dad to collect her.
I wouldnt be free until gone 7:30 anyway.

Its not my fault, i dont think its my fault. I just feel wretched.
Absolutley wretched.

I need to not reply. I know this.
Do you even know how hard that is though?

Thats REALLY hard.
because even though i never said anything abouit seeing him today, and hes come off his own back, hes just taken time out, and travelled a few hours to come.
And even 6 or so months ago that would have made me so happy, it was all i wanted for what, 2 years. but now, its just too late and he lies.

But i still feel guilty.

and terrible, that ive messed around somone, who most people would jump at the chance to be with, because of who he is. and there i am just ignoring him.

pah.
bugger.
shit
arse.
cock
it snot even right to text that im sorry is it. i will just end up dragged into it.

By all means text him to say that you cannot see him today - but don't say you are sorry. He is pulling your chain - don't let him.

watch. right.

recount all the lies, every single one. shopping for furniture for the flat he moved into with his gf. his insistance on doing what he wants to do, constanntly putting himself first, ignoring your wishes, attempting to railroad you into a meeting that, for your own protection and emotional well being is not a good idea and contacting you when his gf is moving out because then you will clearly fall into your arms, because you said you wouldn't see him while he was living with the gf.

you havent messed him around.

watch sorry, got waylaid by ykw - i think the meet up thing sounds great. My flatmate went on one on wednesday night, had an absolute blast, ended up sleeping in st james park, then getting the night bus, rolled in at half four in the morning and now has a limp. fab night. enjoy yours, because it is an ideal thing to go to when ykw is buzzing around.

I know i havent.

And i dont want to be with him at all.

I just feel like throwing up and like im being really mean and horrible.
I know im not, but i feel like i am.

I havent replied to either message, but god, its taking everything i have not to.

watch do not reply to ykw.

He has made the choice to get on that train.
He has chosen to ignore everything you have said to him.
He has chosen to put himself and his wishes first.

You cannot control his behaviour only your own. You have done nothing wrong.

You are doing the right thing.

its just who does he think he is, who would even do that? you are right, he just does what he wants, when he wants. Always has done, always will. and i know he bloody gets away with it, because people around him are always fawning over him like hes some kind of god. but hes not. hes just a normal person and a rude one at that. and its one of the many reasons why i would never be with him. I have a family, he cant and never will be my first priority and that doesnt sit with how he is, you know?

meet up thing seems good.. not quite sure this one will be like that, its a country gastro pub! and im driving, but might at least meet some nice people.

But you have the power not to. And you are doing so well. He is clearly used to women jumping for him, and doing exactly as he likes. Yet I know if just friends text right now I myself would drop and go but he hasn't lied to me or messed me around. You are a strong independent woman and capable of saying no so say it. (said in a nice way)

I know im doing the right thing. And it has to be done. and then its done. THE END.

I just feel like puking, this is very very stressful.

I just hope hes not on my doorstep or something when i get home from work.

mlm - not just women. Everyone. famous people jump when he tells them too.
fucking ridiclous.
utterly ridiclous situation i landed myself in.
way to go me for being a dickhead.

although if he is used to people dropping at his feet he is going to find you more alluring because of what he sees as your 'obstinancy.'

If he's on your doorstep, just tell him you're in a relationship now.

snape - oh, i know. Its like the ultimate challenge when he has the world at his feet. he gets his own way with everything, bar me.
but im not doing it to play a game. i bloody mean it.

If hes on my doorstep i shall drive past, pick dd up in the car and then, i dont know, hope he goes?? while panicking like a motherfucker.

i still havent replied.
i guess he must be here now. luckily im in the next town along, but he knows where i work.

Watch he's being horrible. You are doing the right thing definitely. Are there any friends yiu could visit later on if you're concerned he will turn up at your house?

no, i need to get home to pack dds things and to get her changed for swimming. plus the dog will need a wee :)

i dont think he will turn up at mine. he cant do. Hed have to have massive balls to do so, wouldnt he.
No, im sure it will be fine. it will be fine.
do i sound convinced?

yes, last text he sent me was monday at 1:02 am asking how i was, which i didnt respond to.

prior to that, the last time i spoke to him, and hung up on him, was the 30th april. So 11 days ago.

its not me is it? its really, not. im trying to work out if im just a loon or if it really is him.

and breathe! Watch you are absolutely not a loon. Worst case scenario, he turns up at your work or on your doorstep, you can politely tell him that you have somewhere to be and drive away. I know it is rattling & stressful, but you can handle this.

you know what. i suddenly feel ok.
;)

This is a good thing, he will get the message and leave me alone forever now.

Im not a loon, or i am, because i should have not tried to be friends with him and should have stuck to my guns along time ago.
So - while its maybe a little bit my fault, its also not my fault.

im not responsible for his actions, he is, so i dont need to feel bad about it,

It is not your fault.

You do not need to feel bad.

AND - its good because it proves my instincts were right, and i was right to never get involved with him, though he has begged on and off over the years, but it never sat right with me. i held back and couldnt do it.
and i may have been blinded by his looks ( because he is so very very pretty) and his status, and kind of got a bit swept along with that, and maybe liked the security of having some emotional support, because hes not been entirely mean and we do get on well.
but yeah, i was right, my instints were right and actually, while i may have not helped the situaion, well done to me for not settling for something i knew wasnt right, and not compromising and all those things. because, without a doubt, i would rather be single than making excuses for people or behaviour that wasnt right for me, and i certainly wouldnt let DD be party to that.

...and he was perfectly prepared to fuck around on his relationship with someone else...so while he is very pretty and not entirely mean, he is a bit of a sleaze - so the animal analogy is a monkey/leopard hybrid not changing his spots and waiting for a free 'branch' to cling onto. a 'monkpard' is an abberation of nature and must be avoided at all costs.

Oh - its just a perfect example of that, isnt it.
All this time he said if i would comitt,then he would leave her. i refused.

shes now going to be moving out, so he thinks to start dating me, and then ill move when she goes, or in the least hes working towards that.

bollocks to that.
!!!!!!!!!

and like you say, in any case it shows such little disrespect for people that he was prepared to even do that.

Its just another in the long line of reasons......

Being pretty counts for nothing if you behave like a bit of a cock, and while i can sometimes be accused of being a tiny bit shallow, my morals give me a quick slap round the face and tell me to wake up.

I shall have to keep one picture for nostalgic reasons, for ' damn, i cant belive he was so pretty' momments. but also, he knows it. people tell him all the time, which makes it less attractive too.

if it would help, I'm happy to start a general chorus of childish name calling at ykw...

FUCKMUPPET!

as well, you've never slept with him. I shall presume he has a tiny inadequate penis and beautiful men used to worship are seldom generous in the bedroom. :)

yes, i shall join you

WANKBADGER

and obviously, you cant be blessed with both looks and a huge penis, hence it follows he has a thumb sized knob.

;)

a nubbin. more like a third nipple than an actual penis.