DW Doesn't 'fancy' me anymore.

[balotelli]

We have been together for 13 years and have had our problems in the bedroom area which have been discussed on this wonderful forum.
After much talking and 'soulsearching' we agreed to go to see a counsellor. During our first session my dw 'confessed' to not fancying me and not finding me sexually attractive and cant ever remember having done so. Apparently I make her feel safe and loved and that is why she is with me. she says she loves me but not in a way to want to have sex with me.
What makes it worse is that I fancy the M&S underwear off her, she is my perfect sexy woman, physically, emotionally and intellectually.

Not sure where we go from here......

Any ideas??

Pandrm, I too have just joined interested to see how Balotelli is getting on. Hopefully he will see this and update, hope his life is good now.

My DH is no oil painting and me even less so but I still see the guy I fell in love with, the extra pounds (stones) on both of us are invisible to us both and after 14 years of marriage after previous failed marriages I am proud (even big-headed sometimes) to be with a man I know inside out, a man I trust 1000%, a man who still gives me goosebumps with that smile and a hug that I yearn for all day long and who tells me all the time how sexy and beautiful I am.

I hope you can 'get back on track', nobody can help their feelings and if that is how she feels then I hope you have the strength to get through it. That sort of pain should not be felt by anyone, been there - done that - got the t-shirt, so my thoughts are with you and please update soon.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

ZOMBIE THREAD ALERT Part 2:

Pandrm's thread here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/$thread.Topicoptname/1620373-my-wife-of-28-years-admitted-she-no-longer-fancies-me

Thanks for that. You guys are very lucky to feel the way you do. I think my wife admitting she doesnt fancy me has actually answered quite a few questions that over the years I haven't been able to answer. We will stay together I am sure but it is clearly going to be at the cost of any intimacy between us.