The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To............... Amarillo?

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.............. sorry, ran out of ideas tonight!

Hello, tis me, Mouse and I have a very abusive relationship with alcohol, vodka in particular.

Welcome to the Battle Bus, full of totally Brave Babes all on their own personal journey to sobriety. Some are there, some are still on their way and some aren't quite ready yet but stay on the Bus for a good old natter

Wherever you are in your quest to get back control of your drinking, we've all been there too so you're not alone, not by a long shot.

Come take a seat and say hello.

If you'd like to know the history behind this amazing journey, you can follow the links back HERE

See you soon x

Hi pix I have always been obsessive about food, I had control issues as a teenager due to earlier abuse, so probably not the best to comment. But I think a lot of planning goes into 'problem' drinking EG making sure sufficient supplies are in, checking what time is acceptable to start drinking, how much can be consumed without others noticing etc, so some of that planning goes into other spheres, such as eating, when the drinking is under some control.

I certainly ate my body weight in treats for about the first 9 months of giving up the booze but I have got it under control now and lost a significant amount of weight in the last 9 months.
It is best to tackle the most dangerous habit first < channelling MIFLAWs wisdom>

Hello lovely, so fab to have you back in the fold as it were, how are things with you? I hope that you've had a better day as the day's gone on IFKWUM?

Bed for this little mouse

Have a safe evening babes, wherever you are xxx.

Mousie a hug right back atcha.

You and yours are always in my thoughts x

Thanks guys! I had issues in my 20's with food - and I think it just rears its when I have more emotional space and time, but am not sure how to deal with it.

I'm trying not to worry about it, just to eat healthily, and to prioritise the not drinking - I could prolly put on half a stone and be OK - but I wouldn't like it!

Still better that, than losing 7 and a half stone through not being here! :o

Ma I know! I have never before been so extravagant with underwear and £22 for a bra probably is a bit ott but (and this is what I told myself at the time), it cost about the same price as six bottles of wine. I have saved at least £150 this year alone because I drink nothing like I did before.

Ok, I haven't actually saved it because, as usual, it's gone on something else, but it hasn't been wasted on doing nothing except fuel my hangovers.

I am now saving up for some ghds, another great expense that I would not normally lavish on myself. But now I think I'm worth it

Faire great advice! That is something I tried to do as well, it is a mind set as well as a financial matter, to prove to yourself that you are acheiving something and you are worth it.

faire decent bras are part of the families basic budget needs - you deserve decent bras. if men's testicles were the size of breasts they'd have titanium framed, designed by nasa, lined with velvet type gadgets to carry them around in. do not feel extravagant for buying a bra that fits!

morning babes hope everyone got some sleep. it is gales and lashing rain here - ds is panicking that i'm going to make him go to football in it - i'm hoping it settles down in the next couple of hours. i had a stick them up the chimney moment earlier when the dog got tangled around the water but tap with her long leash - sent him out in wellies and raincoat to untangle her

Morning everybody peeps - it's me, The Other Proud!

This rain really is Biblical stuff isn't it?? I keep expecting a plague of locusts or Noah to sail past....It's sooooo loud on my bedroom windows (loft conversion) but suppose it does add to that 'cosy in doors with my coffee and laptop' feeling.

Just catching up with all the stuff said about the wobble on Friday/Sat on here.

Made me think about the name changing issue.

When I decided to post on here it crossed my mind to name change but I thought 'well isn't the whole point to come clean and stop hiding?'.

I've been on MN for years and in the same way I have never namechanged after a big disagreement or whatever or to say anything really. I think Mumsnet in general, not just this thread, has in turn made me more assertive and strident but more tolerant too. I think I am more well rounded and have a knowledge and understanding of things I didn't before - eg abusive relationships and feminism.

Anyhoo no idea what I'm rambling about really....

actually I have NO idea what relevance any of that has to anything ^^^ !!

Re bras - I think it's a false economy to get a cheapo. My view is go as expensive as you can. Can change your whole body shape, not just your bangers.

Morning All. Morning SAF. Lashing down here. I quite like it! Whats wrong with me???

Lovely, long sleep. And after bricking up the air vents (we live in a 1930s house) - the DCs have been sleeping in till 8am! HAPPY DAYS!

No booze. And a lovely BOING to boot.

Coffee anyone?

x

Glad you slept well Blanket. Me too.

My heavy drinking always resulted in my waking up early in the morning. Somewhere between 4.30am and 5:00am. I'm on day 3 today, and managed to sleep until past 7am. It's amazing! I cannot remember the last time I had more than 5 hours sleep.

I hope all the other Babes are sleeping in.

Hopefully - me too. It was always 3am that I woke up thirsty and with a thumping head. Then used to lie awake suffering till it was time to get up and get going.... Awful.

Its wonferful how well we can all feel when we havent poisoned ourselves the night before....

Great news on your Day 3! Im really pleased for you.

Ill shush now... dont want to wake anyone else! :)

Hello. I've been thinking this for a while, but I think I need to join you.

I am very shamefaced about a recent drinking incident, and I think I need it to be a wake up call.

Is this the place for me?

I'm up blanket. DD2 phoned at 8.30 to ask if I would collect her
That would be a no, then! . I work full time and it's Sunday morning ffs. Why do teenagers think the world revolves around them?
So I am having a peaceful coffee and looking at the sunshine - yes, really. A rain free morning.....DH stayed over in work last night, hence the chilled vibe

Anon this is the place for anyone who has a problem with the Demon alcohol.
Welcome - join me and blanket in a coffee?

Ann - welcome to the bus

You'll get loads of support and advice from the Brave Babes, without any judgements.

We are all at different stages of the journey with alcohol (as you will have read) but all believe that there is some sort of fundamental problem with how much/how often.

Do you want to change?

Hi Anon. Do you want to tell us about it. I too have half an hour to myself and a coffee in hand.

coffee for me please Ma - about to brave the human soup that is our local swimming pool

make it a tea and I am in.

I rarely drink large quantities but have noticed me wanting to drink more and more often, and this has been vaguely unsettling me for a while. So I reckoned two drinks a night we still within guidelines, even if I felt I really NEEDED those drinks.

However, on a recent night out I had a lot more than that, and blacked out. I frightened people as they couldn't rouse me and ended up in hospital being checked out, in case there was something more going on.

Scary.

anon did they put the blackout down to alcohol and have you been thoroughly checked out if this is an unusual occurrence? I think we all understand the "wanting to drink more and more often"...the slippery slope.
I was up to a bottle of wine a night. Going completely dry is not for me so I try hard to cut down, but not very successfully. Ideally I would like 3 or 4 AF nights a week, but it very very rarely happens. i drink pretty much every night.

Morning everyone. I started posting here a couple of weeks ago but then stopped though I've been lurking ever since. I just wanted to let you all know how much I get from reading all your posts even though I've decided not to partake.

I still haven't decided what to do about my drinking - whether I can control or finally need to stop. Currently I'm drinking a bottle of wine about twice a week and not doing anything crazy. But the main thing is the guilt and the secrecy around my drinking. There are some great discussions going on here at the moment and lots of new faces amongst the amazing women who started this community all that time ago. I suppose I'm a bit like someone at an AA meeting who decides for one reason or another not to share but I'm getting so much from it nonetheless! Huge gratitude to you all.

Yes, I think I need to own up and say it was the alchohol. Apparently i had various tests done.

I drank five large glasses of wine - big big glasses - and effetively fell sound asleep. I have no recollection of most of the evening, only about two hours in, though I didn't slump for another twoo hours or more.

I dn't know if I can/need to give up altogethr, but I do need to cut down.

Hmm, there are all manner of drinking 'problems' - if you think you have a problem and are worried, then you have one iyswim.

My 'problem' is/was simply too many units per week, now I've drastically cut down and it seems to be working.

I have a friend who is not compelled to drink that often or heavily - maybe once or twice a week, half a bottle of wine. But when she goes out to an event like a party, she gets absolutely hammered and blacks out (she's told me a curtain comes down and she can't remember anything from that point). She thinks she just passes out and dh carries her into a taxi. But she doesn't just pass out at her point of black out - she wets herself, says awful things, falls over, once she ended up in A&E. I don't know why this happens to her - whether she simply drinks massive amounts when she's out or whether she has a lower tolerance. She doesn't think she has a problem as she doesn't drink every day and is actually quite judgemental about 'drinkers'.

Proud, I get what you are saying, if things are bad enough that you wonder if you have a probem then you probably have a problem,

Whoops , hit post, not return.

So, how do I handle this? Do I just try stopping altogether?

Cutting down might not be wise, as I will still be drinking.

Work is very stressful at the moment, and I think that is the root of the problem.