When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

i only reply if someone is speaking my language..and my languages is not txt spk, or pidgin english:0

seriously, if there's so much as a 'u' in place of 'you' it puts me off

I just don't go for the sex crazed ones.......most therefore face immediate exclusion.

How much to include in an initial message is an interesting point. I try to pick a few things from the profile and write at least two paragraphs, but then sometimes I just write a few lines. The success rate is the same. I think if someone sees your photo(s) and profile and likes what they see then they'll either send a message or respond to yours, regardless of what you've written.

i suspect most of them are really after casual sex (if they can get it) but the 'sex crazed' ones are just too dumb to effect a more sophisticated approach

Most of them are let's face it. I like it when they say I read your profile and I like x too or we both have y in common. But atm not particularly interested.

Again Poppa you are right. I would reply to 'Hi hun' if he was really fit .

WTAF I have a hole in my window I was in the kitchen and heard DD say "What's that?" When I went back into the front room she had to blinds parted and was staring at a round hole with about 3 cracks in it.

Yes, 'Hi, hun' is just about acceptable if they're drop, dead gorgeous

Although they would be told, in due course, not to call me it.

I dint like the sound of your window Chaotic .

My thermostat is now happy with nice new batteries :) There is heat again.

Have had a message from someone on OKC who wondered if he had seen me on other dating websites and that he wouldn't forget a face. And ended his message with Best Regards. Might reply on the grounds that he used sentences and punctuation and everything. And didn't call me hun .

Can't think why I am getting into thus dating thing when I am getting v busy at work at this time of year - do lots of jobs for different places including going down to London for a couple of weeks. I have a spreadsheet to organise myself . Not sure I can insert a line for dates as well....

No, neither do I but I'll have to wait until tomorrow to report it. Bright side it won't cost me anything.

Miranda you really attracting them atm. Lets hope this is another good one.

No

and

No

The first...hi good looking do you want to chat with me

The second...Hi hope your enjoying your Sunday and staying dry!!!! lolo

Well my most original of the day was "do u suk dik" spelt like that. I suppose he didn't tiptoe round the subject though. Prick.

I rent as well so if thermostat had gone wrong would have reported it. Although with my general worry type brain would have thought it was somehow my fault.....

I rent too. It is one of the plus sides. I don't like being a pain though so try problem solving myself.

Everyone who was out last night was about 12. Grrrr.

For those who have kids, when do you mention it, how much do you say about it? I tend to bring my daughter up in conversation ASAP, but wonder if it might be the wrong way to go about it.

I mention the fact I have two DC straight away as they are at the moment at least a lot more important to me than any man and anyone I date needs to know that tbh. Would rather miss out on someone who might be ok but would then turn round and not be able to cope with the fact I have DC.

Will keep them separate from anything I do ie I don't want anyone coming round when they are here, even asleep until there is sonehung more long term going on but I am lucky in that xh has them quite often and appears sympathetic to my current dating status . probably makes him feel better about his GF although I think heis also a but genuinely pleased too.

AndLibbyMakesThree In answer to your question, we have been intimate.

I'm already starting to feel like crap as it will be a big deal if he isn't as much into me as I am into him.

Oh well, I guess there is nothing for it. I'm going to have to broach the subject and see where it goes. Thanks everyone.

Feedback you did say, and I quote "emotionally stunted, pertrified middleaged woman that feels she has met her soul mate but gives off the opposite signs?" so maybe you do actually give off the opposite signs and he too is wondering if you have deeper feelings for him. There's not getting away from it, it's time to have The Talk.

Good luck and I hope you get the answer you want. And don't forget to report back!

Feedback, I agree with both of Times replies to you. At least if you talk to him, you'll either find he feels the same, which will be wonderful, or you'll be able to move on and think about seeing other people.

Years ago I was in a similar situation and, after agonising about it for ages, I told the man how I felt. He made it clear he didn't feel the same, and I was mortified. It still makes me feel a bit sad now! But despite that, I'm glad I asked him, as the uncertainty was even worse, and at least then I could start to deal with it.

By the way, does anyone else keep getting messages saying Mumsnet is offline, or is there something wrong with my computer?

I'm getting those messages too Libby so no, it's not your computer

Hi all, thought I'd join in, have just started using dating websites again but having no success. Plenty of offers of N.S.A from men at least 6 yrs younger than me, alright if you fancy that but I'm not at the minute. I did just click on someone's links to profiles on pof and I was logged in so one of them just mailed me....oh dear!
I had 1 mail from a guy who explained he was not very bright, what is that about?! I'm losing faith already

Definitely mumsnet offline.

Just finished stripping all the colour out of my hair and will put a 8 wash temp colour on soon just to even it out as you have to wait a while before putting a permanent one on. I was going with a light chocolate brown but after reading a thread on AIBU I'm so tempted to try a red again. Haven't been red in years.

Got another message on POF from a 25yr old. No idea what he looks like athough he is in good shape For anyone who's interested

Mumsnet goes down regularly.

Men and their feelings, bah! I do think it's similar to the 'should I ask him out ?' scenerio they generally don't hold back when they want to go out with someone and don't hold back with their feelings either. So if you are left wondering, you probably know the answer. Sorry to be the voice of doom. Guess it's like anything, we can only draw on our own experiences. Not everything is black and white.

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