What's a M.I.L.F?

[desparado]

Sorry, please excuse my naitivity, have heard this expression many times used in context and figured it what it must mean generally, but what does it actually stand for?

[Essene]

Mother I'd Like to Fuck.

Sorry, you did ask.

[desparado]

Thanks for clearing that up! DH has been searching for them on the internet and just wanted to be sure

[ToryLovell]

Vile term used by disrespectful men

[Essene]

I'm sorry.

I take it to mean in porn terms, an older woman, but ime they are rarely that old, just not girls.

[TheRhubarb]

Your dh has been searching for them? Uh oh, is he in trouble now!

[desparado]

Thanks. He's on his way out the door anyway - just doesn't know it yet! And you're right Tory, it is vile. What I can't fathom is why he would chose to use this term to search for, unless he was looking for something older (I'm already 5 years older than him)....

[RoxyRobin]

He'll be looking up GILF next.

[TheRhubarb]

Perhaps he was just googling it to find out what it meant? After all, there are plenty of Mumsnetters who have googled dragon button, blue waffle and pink sock thanks to Mumsnet, so imagine if they had their internet history revealed!

If he's been in on a conversation at work, you know usual blokes banter, then he might out of curiosity looked it up.

[desparado]

I love your optimism Rhubarb, sadly there were a number of them inc interracial milk, pussy, wet pussy etc. I've already tackled with him and he has said it's my fault for not giving him any - nice! This is just the last straw on a long list of stuff and I've had it now. Just v. sad that what DS will have to go through.

[TheRhubarb]

So sorry. It's shit how they try to blame it on you isn't it? It's a recurring theme on Mumsnet, someone finds their bloke at it, either cheating with them via a webcam or with someone else and yet the bloke always always always turns it around to blame them by saying shit like that. As if they are unable to control their penises if we aren't at their beck and call every minute of the day.

This could be the point where your life turns around you know? Don't look at this as something ending, but a new beginning where your son will get to find a good role model and not one who thinks that blaming other people for their actions is acceptable. This could be the start of your happiness. Free from this low-life idiot you may now find someone who gives you the respect you deserve, who will adore you and your little boy.

Don't waste your love on someone who is unable to give it back. Save it for someone who deserves it. Your ds and you will be happy, much happier than if you had stayed in this destructive relationship. Best of luck in your new life xxx

[desparado]

Thanks Rhubarb. I know you're right. x

[AnyFucker]

Desparado, I think you are making the right decision to kick his (metaphorical) arse to Kingdom Come

[RoxyRobin]

Oh dear. I had thought that Rhubarb's explanation was quite likely. DH didn't know what it meant and if I had not enlightened him he might have googled it. But it appears not.

Yes, it seems that a woman's place is in the wrong for the cheap-thrill-seeking man. It's amazing that it never seems to occur to them to discuss the issue with their spouse if they feel there's a problem.

Don't care what some posters say, I reckon internet porn has a lot to answer for in the breakdown of relationships.

Best of luck xx

[AnyFucker]

Lots of us agree with you, Roxy

Don't believe the hype. Many of us don't buy into the notion to that to be a "cool" wife, you should embrace porn

[TheRhubarb]

Hear hear.

[chipsandmushypeas]

I've known my DP to search for that too and videos of 'mature' women :(

[TwllBach]

AnyFucker is fast becoming my favourite mumsnetter.

I'm sorry Desperado that's really sad. But as another poster said, this coudl be the start of a new life where you find a DP that respects you and other women and give syou the life you deserve, without making you feel at fault for not being 'in the mood' 24/7.

[flatbellyfella]

I totaly agree with Ruhbarb & AF ,I hear young imature men using that expression often, and hate it.

[doormat]

sorry but as a nanna i like to be called a GILF..20 yrs ago i would of been offended but have mellowed with age...

as for internet prn..grrrrrr

[AnyFucker]

I once asked someone who used that term "how would you feel if some oik was using such sexist and objectifying terms towards your mum?"

he looked at me like I was the stupid one, then said "I'd punch his fucking lights out" < sigh >

[SquaredUp]

Maybe he was using internet porn for a bit of harmless masturbation. Is it really such a crime?

[AnyFucker]

I think you should read the rest of OP's posts, squaredup

[SquaredUp]

The rest of OP's posts on this thread or other threads? If he had cheated or been violent, then I completely agree, out the door he goes. But for finding material on the internet to allow him to masturbate to, isn't it a bit extreme to kick him out for that?

[AnyFucker]

OP said he was already "out the door" ie. this was the final straw

He also blames her for his inadequacy (men who need porn are inadequate, IMO)

So, it appears from a few short sentences it isn't just a "bit of harmless wanking". I have read enough of these threads to conclude it is not "harmless wanking" when it upsets your partner

So, if you are fine with porn, why would you try and tell someone they are over-reacting if they are not fine with it? Because that smacks of rationalisation to me.