This is both depressing and vindicating at the same time. I'm sitting here like a nodding dog!
Early protestations of undying love. Overly generous for no reason/Presents he wanted to give rather than I wanted to receive.
Over-bearing, aggressive, misogynist father with major persecution complex. Passive aggressive, professional victim mother. Yet described weird disfunctional childhood as "idyllic".
Over reaction to any perceived criticism real or not, hence the "egg shell" problem. It would be obvious if he was in one of those moods so I used to watch every word waiting for him to start ranting about some imaginary slight.
Both exes apparently completely unreasonable.
Major sex ishoos.
No friends of his own, just aquaintences.
Lying constantly about insignificant things.
Had to win every row. Would just shout louder and louder, wouldn't stop til I cried. Then would sulk for a couple of hours before becoming overwhelmed with remorse and self-hatred.
Never listened, ever! Lived in the same house together for 5 years and always put the bloody heating on wrong even though I explained how to use it at least once a week!
Never once took responsibility for any fuck ups, always someone else's fault.
No idea of normal social boundaries, would say really inappropriate things/make rude jokes etc. It was obvious from day one that his parents had never once pulled him up on this sort of thing, lauded every word he said.
Bullied in school (had to move when dad was released from prison), so took on the persona of "the funny one" in order to fit in. Don't think he's ever been himself since. Not sure he even knows who he is.
Maybe we should write an MN book!