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Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

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hatesponge · 10/04/2012 21:22

Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy Blush and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc Grin

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

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TimeForMeAndDD · 16/04/2012 23:21

Grin you just enjoy the moment MrsKL, I'm really pleased for you, it's lovely that you are having such fun and enjoying such happiness. I will be here for you when it all goes tits up and I promise not to say I told you so Grin

MissKeithLemon · 16/04/2012 23:22

Notsure firemen are all usually bastards. hth. Don't wear the dress. That is just weird, what will he insist ask you to do next??

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hatesponge · 16/04/2012 23:23

Time you're right. The reality of the Scotsman is he went for a wee within earshot on our first date. And one night (and a morning) of lengthy but not overly rampant sex has given him a bad back.

It can only go further downhill Grin

That said, I still would Grin

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TimeForMeAndDD · 16/04/2012 23:24

Sponging cups of tea off you already!! Shock

No MrsKL, you aren't being a fool Smile. Go with your gut feeling while ever it is giving you nice messages. If it does happen to start giving you warnings, then is the time to stop and think. I'm really pleased for you Smile

But I don't envy you Grin

MissKeithLemon · 16/04/2012 23:24

Thanks Time > If/when it all goes wrong will you provide the Wine please?

TimeForMeAndDD · 16/04/2012 23:27

Notsure I don't like that he is asking you to wear a dress. Don't wear a dress, see how he reacts. MrsK is right, it's weird.

sponge he really is in a bad way isn't he? I bet right at this minute he is laid up in hospital, on traction, with his phone on his bedside cabinet, unable to reach it. Grin

TimeForMeAndDD · 16/04/2012 23:28

We will be here MrsKL, with either wine for the commiserations or champagne for the celebrations. You just enjoy the lovely bubbly feeling, cos it's the best bit Grin

ChaoticAngel · 16/04/2012 23:29

Been playing games on fb.

Another one here who's really pleased for you MissK. It gives hope that there are men who are worth it in dating land.

ChaoticAngel · 16/04/2012 23:31

notsure I'd be a bit Hmm at someone who kept asking me to wear a dress. Him keeping going on about it is a bit weird.

Tollysfolly · 16/04/2012 23:45

yep I think that's what I'll do, say for first time meet I will meet him there. because of my job I knew what he had had done and he was telling truth about his hip (I work where he had his operation bizarrely, although I had no direct involvement his name was on my theatre list lol) he could hobble slowly to the local pub, which isn't as nice but still somewhere to meet.

I don't dare go on POF at moment or fear of the weirdo watchin for when I'm online!

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hatesponge · 16/04/2012 23:47

Lol at traction!

I can hear my dad's voice in my head 'what sort of man makes a fuss about a bad back?' followed by something about him not being good enough for me. Grin

There would be more swearing, my dad was not a man to mince his expletives. But he was usually right. He thought I was the greatest thing in the world Blush And you know if the Scotsman is too thick, too much of a player, or too concerned about me making his back worse,to pursue me, then he is not the man for me. I deserve more.

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hatesponge · 16/04/2012 23:49

And my dad would be appalled at men farting or weeing in front of me.

He thought it was bad enough if I ever went out for an evening in male company (not even a date as such) and had to buy a drink!

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ChaoticAngel · 17/04/2012 00:02

Your dad sounds lovely sponge :)

Now, I need to do what I've been procrastinating about for the last couple of hours and go to bed.

lovesineffable · 17/04/2012 00:50

the baggage reclaim blog is interesting if paradoxical.
EG
www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/stop-obsessing-over-how-men-communicate/

she urges us to 'Use the brain power for more productive things'

but hold on!
her blog/ books/workshops consist predominantly of 'obsessing-over how men communicate'
Confused

TimeForMeAndDD · 17/04/2012 07:08

Sponge I agree, your dad does sound lovely Smile

loves I quite enjoy the Baggage Reclaim website, it's not the best I've seen but she does focus on Mr Unavailable quite a bit and speaks sense. I do find there's a lot of waffle to get through though before hitting on the key points Grin

ChaoticAngel · 17/04/2012 09:46

Maybe she gets paid by the word Grin

TimeForMeAndDD · 17/04/2012 09:57

Grin That could explain much of the drivel inbetween the facts.

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hatesponge · 17/04/2012 10:08

My dad was the greatest man ever, and was/is my hero. I still miss him every day. If I ever get a man half as amazing as him I will be very happy :)

Re BaggageReclaim I think the overall message is good, but agree Time it could be expressed far more succinctly. Mind you I know plenty of fellow lawyers who have that problem - why write me a one line letter when you can witter on for 4 paragraphs and actually give me no more info?!

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TimeForMeAndDD · 17/04/2012 10:16

Sponge it sounds like you have a really good role model in your dad and that could also explain why you have such high expectations when it comes to men, you are aware of how you should be treated, and that's no bad thing Smile My dad was lovely too but he was weak controlled by my mother and did anything and everything to please her. Seems I took after him.

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hatesponge · 17/04/2012 10:27

My dad certainly wasn't without faults, he was a total player for pretty much most of his adult life til he met my mum who was someone finally worth settling down for Grin. I think because of that, he brought me up to think that most men were full of shit, and not worthy of my attention(hence my little princess complex!).

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AndLibbyMakesThree · 17/04/2012 10:34

Notsure - it would really annoy me if someone told me to wear.

MrsKL - it all sounds lovely.

I have a 4th date with the man I've had 3 coffee/lunch dates with. This date will be an evening date with alcohol. If there's no spark this time, I'll probably call it a day...

MyLittleMiracle · 17/04/2012 10:39

I was texting just friends last night and I am sure there is more there. For first we both need hugs and a cheeky kiss, on the cheek, where does that lead to. Well at any rate I had some very sweet dreams last night. And at least he is a decent guy. Which makes a change.

Some men seem like complete arses and only want one thing, he doesn't. There is no groping in the hugs, just genuine feeling. Aaah well, I see him tomorrow night, he is coming over, so something is keeping him coming back. And its not the coffees. LOL

TimeForMeAndDD · 17/04/2012 10:40

Sponge it's maybe because of his own 'experience' as a man that he brought you up like that Grin I however, have come to my own conclusions that men are full of shit, my dad had nothing to do with it Grin

Libby I hope date 4 goes well and I look forward to your update. It's just got to be different this time, being an evening date

MyLittleMiracle · 17/04/2012 10:44

Have to agree though your dad does sound amazing sponge and I am very Envy cos I never knew and never will know mine, but I miss him. I miss having him around to grow up with. I was 15months when mine passed. Sorry for your loss.