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Would you continue seeing a guy if he had no ....

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ChickenSkin · 10/04/2012 12:39

Willy? Say you really, really liked him and could imagine a future together, everything else was perfect apart from this one problem. Would you continue?

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FateLovesTheFearless · 11/04/2012 10:56

I couldn't give a shit what penis size a bloke has. There are plenty of ways to enjoy sex, other than penetration.

As for no penis, in the hypothetical sense, if I liked the bloke enough I would not be bothered. Just do a bit of Ann summers shopping! Grin

larrygrylls · 11/04/2012 10:57

Vivian,

Surely if I said I am only turned on by a woman with big tits and long blonde hair, you would consider me shallow (and, IMO, rightly so)? There is zero physiological need for a man with a willy for a woman to orgasm, so it is purely a psychological "need", if a need at all.

If "deep" and "shallow" is to have any meaning within a discussion on relationships, they signal the difference between a connection which can last over the years and goes beyond the physical, as opposed to the opposite.

I am not saying that Haribo cannot demand a big willy to be satisfied. However, it does make her a shallow person.

ChickenSkin · 11/04/2012 10:59

The funniest thing about the development of this thread is the way 95% of your have continued using the term "willy" Grin

childish

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Milkandlotsofwineplease · 11/04/2012 11:02

Speaking as someone who once had a boyfriend who was nearly a whopping 10 inches Shock I can safely say that, for me, bigger isn't better.

I find an average sized penis much more satisfying. When they are huge it can feel rather stretched, and uncomfortable Blush Plus quickies are a no no, as you don't have enough time to get aroused, and it just doesn't work.

My (sort of) fwb at the moment actually has a slightly below average willie. Yet the sex is mind blowing. I find him so ravishingly gorgeous that I'm on fire from the moment he touches me quite frankly >

I think it's a case of horses for courses. We are all fully entitled to choose our sexual partners according to whatever criteria we want.

Lueji · 11/04/2012 11:10

I'm sure he might want less sex (unless he had found an alternative way of orgasming), would be much better at cuddling and satisfying each other in other ways, plus there are always strap ons.

Personally I don't get orgasms (or very little) from penetrative sex, so if you find one you can send him my way. :D

GnocchiGnocchiWhosThere · 11/04/2012 11:17

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Milkandlotsofwineplease · 11/04/2012 11:38

Vivian Ouch, I'm wincing for you. It really isn't as much fun as people make out is it?

My ex made me bleed once, that was fun. Really puts a crimp on your romantic evening in.

MadamFolly · 11/04/2012 12:38

I've had a few, most average, some very large and one very small.

TBH didn't notice a difference once the small one was in but disliked the large ones

I concor with others on this thread that if DP was to lose his willy I would stick by him but a new bloke I would have to think very hard about.

daisydoodoo · 11/04/2012 13:36

bigger isnt always better and can be painful, i would have to agree. One ex it took a lot of lube to make it anywhere near comfortable as he was huge.
The other it was a one night stand, plenty of alcohol, condoms and was ok, but made me ache the next day?

ohdobuckup · 11/04/2012 14:12

I was a nurse in an old style psychiatric hospital some years ago. A long-stay patient, male early thirties, who had lots of girl friends in the hospital, decided to lop his full undercarriage off in the bath one day. Another nurse and myself managed to fish all the bits out of the water, rush him down to A&E, where he could have had it sewn back on but he refused.

He was a slim man , and once we had him back on our ward we had to give him salt washes to aid the healing of his groin. He was catheterised, and where his scrotum was he had just a small tag of skin, so he looked like a pre-pubescent girl.
It gave our male staff a few disturbed nights..as one sensitive soul said, ''really gives me the Willies..hur hur ''

The patient was visited by a number of his girlfriends, one of whom wailed''What you go and do that for..you had such a lovely winkie''

We asked why he did it too, and all he said was, ''Just fancied a change really''

He still had girlfriends, but things were not really the same , apparently.

ToscanaBambina · 11/04/2012 19:32
Shock

Speechless.

BizzieLizzy · 11/04/2012 19:47

This is a funny thread...

Men are so sensitive re size of genitals. I was with a guy once who had quite big testicles. I pointed this out and he said 'thank you'. I said, 'thank you? It's not a compliment for fuck's sake, it's an observation'.

Technoviking · 12/04/2012 10:44

Bless us, we do tend to get a bit paranoid about it. No point really, it's not like it should be an issue.
I suppose it shows how immature we are that we put so much stock on size.
I don't worry about that stuff, if works and if she doesn't cry after, that's a bonus. Grin

dogfish · 12/04/2012 11:16

Hang on Bizzie & Tech, we've just had around a hundred posts by women, many about, er, todger size and how it can be an issue. Silly old men, getting so sensitive!

DizzyKipper · 12/04/2012 21:26

If anything happened to OH's willy and he suddenly no longer had one I could never leave him, I love him too much.

Flanelle · 12/04/2012 22:23

It's definitely about the skillz, not the penis size. And the enthusiasm. And the connection. Lust.

Solo · 13/04/2012 01:18

Yes, but when a little one is thrusting away and then (often) misses and jams into my your unsuspecting sphincter... ouch!!! IME

Technoviking · 13/04/2012 10:37

I would have thought, if he were that small, that he'd be ploughing away at thin air, no?

fuzzpig · 13/04/2012 10:49

I always thought girth was more important than length.

KittyAnne · 13/04/2012 12:48

My ex had a tiny, cigarette sized Micky. It was dreadful. I never felt 'fucked'.

But he also was suffering from PE.

Imagine 2 seconds.

Part of the reason I broke up with him was his crap sexual technique but had he been good in other ways and not jizzed on my thighs all the time then I probably would have got over his small willy.

Jelly15 · 13/04/2012 14:10

I would be disappointed but so long as he had good tounge action I could cope.

Technoviking · 13/04/2012 14:29

I can imagine jizzing on thighs not being something you'd rave about to your mates!

I read tongue action as lounge action and wondered if it meant he brought lots of tea and biscuits.

Solo · 13/04/2012 19:08

Thin air? what are you saying?! that I have a bucket fanjo? Shock Well, I probably do now, but back then, I was TTC child free, so didn't have a pail for a fanny. Wasn't fun though :(

marathonrunner · 13/04/2012 22:42

I think that thin willies are the worst of all, they just look horrible Confused

verytellytubby · 13/04/2012 22:50

Can't read this thread. My 6 year old was born with hypospadias and has numerous operations on his willy. At the moment it's tiny. Consultant said it should grow in puberty.

Fingers crossed he gets a kind understanding girlfriend SadSadSad