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Would you continue seeing a guy if he had no ....

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ChickenSkin · 10/04/2012 12:39

Willy? Say you really, really liked him and could imagine a future together, everything else was perfect apart from this one problem. Would you continue?

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IAmBooyhoo · 10/04/2012 14:02

"Good job men don't get put off by wizard sleeves, messed up fanjos, droopy post baby boobs, saggy skin and stretch marks then."

they do. that's why FHM et all are full of tanned, toned, tight and perky 16 year olds.

ameliagrey · 10/04/2012 14:03

Chickenskin is this someone you have met on the dating site- or are you asking "just in case"?

You are strangely absent now- why???

FWIW surely you mean a man with a small willy?

Houseofplain · 10/04/2012 14:03

I don't know many men that read FHM. Maybe you are all mixing with boys.

hariboegg · 10/04/2012 14:03

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daisydoodoo · 10/04/2012 14:06

a small willy is totally different to no willy though?
a small willy you could work with and try different positions, pelvic floor exercises just in case its your slack fanny that means you can't feel it (does that even up the bloke bashing??) etc etc

IAmBooyhoo · 10/04/2012 14:07

you dont know many or any?

FWIW i dont know any either but the top shelf seems to be filled with that sort of shit so it has a market. you can't deny that.

HepHep · 10/04/2012 14:08

Well, no willy is better than small willy as you can ask them to wear a strapon and/or get really really good at oral sex. Small willy you often just have to put up with it, which reminds me of the bit in sex and the city with samantha and the guy with the smal dick and her bursting into tears about it

Seriously, it would depend in the circumstances and how much I liked them. I'm currently dating someone who is trans, and it doesn't bother me that when she has her op she won't have a pecker. But then, I'm madly in love, and was getting pretty sick of men anyway - so as a questioning/possible lesbian, I'm probably not the best person to ask

Ilovedaintynuts · 10/04/2012 14:09

Small willys are a shame really. I think size matters...a bit.
Has anyone tried to have sex doggy style with a small willy? It keeps falling out all the time. Embarrassing.

LunarRose · 10/04/2012 14:10

Depends on the size of your insides if you know what I mean. For a me a short one just wouldn't work, but depends if you two can find ways round it...

Houseofplain - Really it isn't shallowness. If your sized wrong for each other in the first place and neither he's not prepared to work round it, is it shallow to say I would like a healthy sex life and this isn't going to work.

DinahMoHum · 10/04/2012 14:10

i wouldnt like it, but if he was amazing in every other way and had a good tongue it would be ok

Houseofplain · 10/04/2012 14:20

Oh I don't deny there is a market for it. Just that generally men, good men rather than boys aren't into FHM levels of shallowness. I'm lucky I kept my figure and fanjo after csections. Just luck. But most of the MEN I know don't expect nor want that rubbish.

Those that do read FHM that I know of are early twenties and yet to grow up. As long as they can use their tongue and were pretty amazing like mo said. Wouldn't be bothered.

puds11 · 10/04/2012 14:24

vivian i have a good eye for size when it comes to that sort of thing
However i have measured my DP's (not the first time we met obviously, that would be wierd )

SkinnyVanillaLatte · 10/04/2012 14:25

Yes - it wouldn't bother me

Figarello · 10/04/2012 14:31

This thread shows just how varied people are - in looks, tastes, opinions. There are those for whom size is a very important factor; those for whom size really doesn't matter; those for whom a non-existent penis is fine; and those who would get upset about anything.

ionysis · 10/04/2012 14:31

I guess it might be an advantage to be small if you were gay. Huge penis up the bum sounds like a recipe for piles to me. Tiny would mean less prospective sphincter issues.

IsitJustAFantasy · 10/04/2012 14:32

In my experience it's been how I've felt about the person that's determined how good the sex was. The size of his penis was irrelevant (and I've had both ends of the spectrum). The largest penis was the....er largest 'dick'!

puds11 · 10/04/2012 14:32

well said figarello

LesAnimaux · 10/04/2012 14:38

There's a big difference between no willy and a little willy.

Especially if you want children.

Are we actually talking non-functioning willy?

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ChickenSkin · 10/04/2012 14:40

Well! thanks for the opinions guys. I was simply curious - sat there daydreaming and wondered about how I would react if a new guy had no willy. Say it had been amputated or something?

I wasn't on about little willys but now we come to mention it, an ex of mine was built like a brick shit house, he was 6ft 4in and weighed around 18st. He had the shortest willy ever and he used to make jokes about it - which was awkward.

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PleaseChooseAnotherNN · 10/04/2012 14:42

If DP suddenly lost his then I would continue in our relationship. If I were dating someone new who just didn't have one I would not continue in the relationship. I would feel selfish being pleasured in other ways if I couldn't reciprocate at all and I have a very high sex drive, some kind of release is important to me.

If we are talking small penis then I would be happy to work with it.

Helltotheno · 10/04/2012 14:44

'and those who would get upset about anything'

I don't think it's appropriate to slag people off about personal attributes they were born with. That's what was happening on this thread. You need to learn to differentiate between people expressing an opinion and people just being insulting.

ElusiveCamel · 10/04/2012 14:48

houseofpain, are you aware how thoroughly nasty your 'Wonder how many are single' comment is?

Houseofplain · 10/04/2012 14:51

Elusive camel, no nastier than some things which have been said in this thread. It would explain a lot. In all honesty if that's the way some people talk about men.

What no said.

ErikNorseman · 10/04/2012 14:52

Seriously, do you mean no penis (Accident, congenital disability, trans man) or very small penis?

No penis - hmm. I'd struggle. I don't know if I could get to 'that place' with a trans man anyway, and if he had a vagina I would not find that arousing. A born man with no penis, if I fell in love with him and he was excellent at the rest of sex, maybe.
If he just had a small one, likewise, if I fell for him and he was great in bed otherwise, fine. I freely admit to being hung up on good sex and my partner has to have a working penis that gets and stays hard, a healthy sex drive and a good imagination. Men without any of the above need not apply.

(Must add I'm married and if DH's penis stopped working properly as he got older I know he'd more than make up for it in enthusiasm so it would be fine, but to start dating a man whose dick is dodgy, no I wouldn't)

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ChickenSkin · 10/04/2012 14:55

literally no penis at all. Lets say he lost it in an accident, was bitten off by a bear or he had it amputated. No willy man.

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