I knew this was going to happen and I shouldn't do it but I did so there we go.
Found out about husbands girlfriend about three weeks ago. New this girl was around but he said she was a shoulder to cry on and a friend. She said they had been boyfriend/girlfriend since December which hit me like a hammer as he has been telling me he loves me and hasn't even looked at another woman and was angry when I said another man had approached me and said I was despicable to be talking about dating so soon etc.
Then found out they moved in together at end of February and he didn't tell me (didn't tell me he had moved in to his own place at all. I thought he was still at his mother's). He then asked her to leave a week later so something went wrong....
Anyway, I spoke to her on the phone the day I found out and she confirmed they had been living together but that he had asked her to go and she was the one who told me when they had got together.
To cut a long story short - I went into a massive downward spiral. Reliving all his lies, thinking about what they were doing together while I had thought my marriage was salvageable. I called her a lot and texted her a lot and asked her to pick up so that I could ask her some questions as that was the least she owed me as she had broken my marriage knowing that we were married with a little baby. Now I know it is ultimately him who has done this but she knew months ago that we were married and having a few problems and I told her myself not to get involved.
She has now reported me to the police for harassment. I have a visit from the police at end of week. Great. I think i knew this would happen but could not leave it and could not stop myself. I wanted to upset her and wanted to make her see what she had done and that this was not a game. She has got her father involved (she's only 24) and is now playing the weak and pathetic card which really gets my goat as she was brazen and confident when sleeping with my husband.
There is no point having a go at her really apart from that it made me feel better and I have never felt so bad over the last few weeks and months.
What will be my punishment from the police? Police officer said he wanted to wrap this up on the phone so I guess I am going to be warned off from ever contacting her again and told that if I do I may be prosecuted?...
I wish I could say I felt remorse but I don't. I am just stupid for putting myself and more importantly my daughter in this position.