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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - BOINGing Into Spring, The Jesus(WhatNext) Way!

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Mouseface · 02/04/2012 20:43

Hello, tis me, Mouse Smile

I'm one of the Brave Babes aboard the Battle Bus, on the journey to sobriety.

We have drinkers, non-drinkers, inbetweeners, notquitesurers...... which is all fantastic. Smile

No matter who you are or where you're at in your personal quest to get where you want to be, come grab a seat and join in the natter, just jump right in. Smile

And, if you'd like to see where we've been up until now, HERE is a link to the last thread and the ones before it

See you soon.

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Silver66 · 05/04/2012 15:29

sky?????? Grin

Saf me old mucka - where've you been - we missed you xxxx

Silver66 · 05/04/2012 15:30

self ?

samosa ?

smelly feet ?

smorgasboard of cheese ?

Silver66 · 05/04/2012 15:31

silence ????

Greyhound · 05/04/2012 15:41

stinky bum?
samosa?
Sasquatch?
satsuma?

Apologies if I am repeating anyone's guesses!

venusandmars · 05/04/2012 15:58

stupid?

(us for getting involved with faire's game)

Now I have to go out, and I might never ever find out [stamps foot petulantly]

SarahRT · 05/04/2012 16:40

Well done Blanket, half is a start. None would have been awesome!!

Greyhound, you and me both, I was a right Milk Monitor when I was younger. My Father died when I was 13, of cirrhosis, brother was away at school, and I was constantly trying to please my also alcoholic Mother. I let rip in my 20's, total rebellion, everything I had been taught to be I decided to dump. Ironically the only thing my Mother didn't bollock me about was my drinking, for her it was acceptable Confused.

By the time I got to my 30's I ended up drinking in a cupboard/wardrobe in my bedroom, my secret stash was everywhere in there. Stayed in that cupboard for a week before my lights went out completely, I fell out actually, dirty, stinking of booze and desperate for more. I had fooled myself for so long until I saw what stared back at me in mirror that day. Dying for a drink took on a whole new meaning!

Stay safe over the weekend babes, I'm hopping off again, this stop is for a rest, I think this week has been the most arduous yet. xxx

Greyhound · 05/04/2012 16:50

God Sarah, it sounds as though you didn't have much of a chance to avoid becoming alcoholic if both your parents suffered. My cousins, I remember, did all they could to behave impeccably in order to dissuade their father from drinking and/or their mother from leaving him. They are still suffering the emotional fallout as adults.

It's the lies you tell yourself - I told myself that because I didn't have a secret stash, that all my bottles were on the rack in the kitchen (or in the fridge, or chilling in the freezer, or on the table next to me every evening) that I didn't have a problem. I didn't drink in the day, so I didn't have a problem. It was 'only' wine - not cheap cider, lager or spirits - so it wasn't really heavy drinking. I could go on.

dementedma · 05/04/2012 17:16

blanket how CUTE are they?? Love the little fleas - gor juss!
saf so good to see you again. Plenty of room on bus, sidecar or roof-rack.

FAIREif you don't tell us the answer I will set horrid baby doll on you !!!

MsGee · 05/04/2012 17:38

saf lovely to see you (if that makes sense)

Bad news here. The refuge I work with has lost funding. That's one, possibly / probably two refuges closing in a county with already too little provision.

I know we did our absolute best but I still feel I have failed them.

Greyhound · 05/04/2012 17:38

Can't talk about this to anyone online (eg Facebook) so need to let it out here. My lovely MIL is very ill in hospital and they don't know what's wrong. She was taken in yesterday confused and distressed. She has not had this before. She is on strong painkillers for osteoarthritis and is more or less wheelchair bound, following years of pain and illness. Her symptoms may be a reaction to some new pills but may be far more serious.

So worried. So glad I'm not drinking as I would be a mess and unable to support dh and ds.

Greyhound · 05/04/2012 17:52

Ok update - seems she has severe chest infection :( Hope that isn't too serious.

Silver66 · 05/04/2012 18:26

Faire

I think that if you do not spill soon, you will be cyber kicked in the head -

Silver66 · 05/04/2012 18:30

did you get it Grin

Silver66 · 05/04/2012 18:32

sarah - please ignore the last question x

ilovemyelectricblanket · 05/04/2012 18:54

MsGee - thats awful. Im so sorry. What refuge? Why?

MsGee · 05/04/2012 19:05

blanket thank you. I can't say where just in case it's known to people - I'm guessing we don't want it to be public knowledge yet. We knew one would go but hoped we could keep t'other. We didn't get the tender and as we ran the only refuge and the tender didn't specify refuge provision...

I'm worried I was too upbeat about our bid and should have been preparing them for this. Oh it's horrible. I keep thinking of women in the future with nowhere to go and that it might be my fault.

ilovemyelectricblanket · 05/04/2012 19:16

Oh no no no.... NO! Dont you see? You cannot (must not) blame
yourself???? Thats the too easy route! To carry it all on your shoulders I mean. Its not your fault and you already know that you did your best. :) Oh MsGee. I am sorry. Are we talking a womens refuge? I feel your pain (because you care) tho of course I cant say I fully understand as have never needed one or woked in one.
Its fecking awful that money is needed for so many vital and essential shelters.....
You are just one person. And I guess what Im trying to say is please dont carry the burden of these closures on your shoulders and yours alone.

Because that would be wrong. x

dementedma · 05/04/2012 19:35

greyhound is MIL going to be ok? So good you are sober and able to help your DH. You should be very proud.
MSGee don't beat yourself up. I am sure the survival of the unit is not your responsibilty alone. You did your best. What will happen to the current residents?

Greyhound · 05/04/2012 19:47

Thanks MA the drs say she will come through this but ATM she is in a lot of pain and delirious, which was hard for dh to see :(

Thank god I'm sober. Just drank a wine bottle sized bottle of M&S black current soda. It was quite nice. I'm so dehydrated, just shows the effect years of heavy drinking have had.

I'm planning to have wine tomorrow - will I manage to not drink to much? Hmmm we'll see...

MsGee · 05/04/2012 19:50

Greyhound ((( )))

blanket and ma thank you. I don't work directly in the refuge, just do the fundraising (not very well as it seems...). I worked with the CEO on the bid but just feel perhaps if I had done something differently.

The current residents should be ok - I assume that there will be a wind down period and as of tuesday I am going to work hard to find alternative sources of funding so we can keep at least one refuge open. We should have a few months I think.

Bleugh. DH gone out for a takeaway. Shitty as today has been, I will not be drinking tonight.

dementedma · 05/04/2012 19:53

MSGee I have some knowledge of funding for charities and social enterprises, as does venus I think. Can I help?

ferfuxake · 05/04/2012 20:06

Sorry, been out all day with Dh and DDs so not responded to some posts. Anyway..., I guess that would have been a great idea Fairenuff, but sadly it's not happening this time... Thanks for supportive posts though.

helpyourself - we're in tonight - no babysitting available sadly, so it's basically dinner (which lovely DH is cooking right now) and booze. Won't be a massive night - we're also starting sleep training (mega-gently!) with DD2 tonight - we really know how to do romance, dont we?!

lolabelle - congrats, you're doing brilliantly - I hope to be joining you soon. You too Greyhound. I am following your progress (in an entirely supportive, non-stalkerish kind of way) and hope to emulate you very soon.

Blanket - yes, I was a ridiculously unrebellious teenager, so maybe this is a much delayed and more painful version of the rebellious adolescence I should have had.

Anyway, I should really chat to DH a bit, what with it being our anniversary and all.. Good night all. Tomorrow is another day. x

ferfuxake · 05/04/2012 20:11

Sorry MsGee. I also meant to say it sounds like you have been doing great work at your refuge and you must not blame yourself about this. This fecking government has cut so much money for so many invaluable services, It is outrageous and so many are losing out as a direct result.

MsGee · 05/04/2012 20:19

ma thank you, I make take you up on that offer. We've done well getting funding from trusts and BLF but replacing Supporting People finding will be tough. We have a new outreach programme which is funded so its not all doom and gloom. Any ideas appreciated though.

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Mouseface · 05/04/2012 20:36

No time to catch up, so sorry. Hope everyone is okay?

Madness here, no kitchen still, lots of intense stress and agro, no bloody spark, he's let us down yet again so the builder is now behind. The kitchen can't be delivered until Thursday...... [skreetch]

Nemo is still full or snot and struggling to breathe, it's cold one minute then sunny the next.... his immune system can't cope Sad

So much to try and sort out but I'm sober. I'm going to bed at 8.30/9PM every night to try and get some rest before Nemo wakes.

I'll try to catch up properly over the weekend.

Nice to see familiar faces back on the Bus again Smile

Back when I can, mwahs x x x x x

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