Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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phoenix that sounds like a great date! I'd love a night like that

Lubey, sounds good.

Phoenix, must be a different rig man. Was this date number 1? Sounds a bit over the top for a first meeting but glad you enjoyed it.

Typical, I delete my profile then become single the next day, my decision as it was never going to go anywhere . I need a break anyway.

Sorry Phoemix, I realise that sounded a bit negative. Laughing together is good and very important ime.

It was our first date and really something so decadent would not normally be on the cards for a first meeting, but he is obviously away often, he lives 2 hours drive away and I just thought sod it. We were just originally planning a few drinks but I am not complaining it was fun, couldnt have wished for a better night. If I dont see him again least he has made me smiley today and I got a nice meal shag out of it :)

that sounds like a first date to make up for all the bad first dates Phoenix:)
I'm thinking oil rig workers and deep sea divers might be the ones to go for

Adams, what happened? You were so happy a few days ago?

Phoenix, sounds fab...

And I haveht heard from him, so don't think I'm likely to now, can't lie and pretend I'm not disappointed...

Watch. It is disappointing. I met this man once and we had a great night out. On the way home he text to say it was great to meet me and I was more than he expected. Blah bloody blah. He then said next time we should go for a curry. Then nil. Zilch. End of communication. It's happened more than once.
So now unless there is a committed mention of a second date during the first date I don't bother. It gets so difficult to decipher someone who is genuine with all the chancers out there.

Well, I've just had a text from an old fwb telling me he is visiting his family in the next town but is seriously bored so could he come over. Thing is he isn't even a brilliant fwb and I'd rather watch the tv.

how bloody rude of him, why cant he think of something else to say other than he wants to see you because he's bored??

reminds me of a bloke I saw a few times who got back in touch with me, I replied to his message with 'how come you're so keen all of a sudden'
he replied 'I'm just bored'
so I ignored him
ffs

Well in any case tonight i saw my first date from POF for the second time, and we have spent the last 6 hours just chatting and chilling, and it felt good, he has a good hug as well, strong and open, we chat about everything, and you know what maybe just maybe we will get to something more......

I feel comfortable with him, and he is a good friend, there was nothing sexual just a good tight cuddle with the promise of seeing me again when everything that is going on settles down! It feels good, however i also, got an invite out on a date, umm not sure though, seems nice enough, and small old world, the chap i saw tonight knows i am on other dating sites and talking to other people, one of which was actually his mate! He happened to see me the other day, and his mate was apparently showing off what a "pretty and funny" girl he was chatting to and hoping to meet soon, when his bubble got burst, my first date happened to go, I know that face! I wondered why he stopped chatting to me so suddenly! He apparently deleted his profile, cos after all i am a mates possible GF!

Is it me or do the Easter bunnies look almost Luke their ears ate horns? X

Watch, I'm sorry you haven't heard from your date. It's so bloody hard to read these men. He might re-surface in time. The only last guy I really fancied that I met online disappeared after a second date and after I'd got stranded at his house and it all went too far physically. I was in contact with him 6 months later but he didn't bother to make an effort the second time.

I decided to call it a day. He is probably my dream guy in every sense except being emotionally unavailable. A relationship that's worth it should move on not stay the same. I gave him chance to put it right but he didn't make the right noises. We could have carried on on a casual basis for x no. of years, but it's too draining when you really like someone and will inevitably want more the long term. I will just try and get out an about and maybe go online in a few months when I'm desperate ready. Feeling a bit atm.

'I'm bored can I see you'? Two words one is off.

watch but....but... he can't blank you! he's a buddhist! that's negative karma, right there.

MLM i like the bunny ears - they especially cheer me up in the feminist section.. [bugrin]

oh, adams I'm really sorry. these emotionally unavailable types are so draining. proper energy vampires. hope you're feeling better soon. :)

I had a blinder of a night! I've been doing costume for a play, last night was technically my last night, as i have loose plans for this evening, we all went to the pub, it was an absolute hoot, especially one of the cast a beautiful manboy hitting on me slapping me on the arse and sticking his head in my cleavage it was incredibly flattering, will obviously go nowhere (he is precisely half my age) but one of the joys of costume is seeing glorious actors running around in their pants and then having them chat you up.

I could teach him a thing or two. ridiculously beautiful manboy.

italicisation fail. you get my jist. :)

Snape, am ridiculously Jealous, esp if it was the scruffy boy from your fb pics.

Adams :( sorry, I know you really liked him and that must havr Been hard to do. Be gentle on yourself.

Yeah, it would be bad karma. LOL. I don't know, he didn't seem like that kind of guy, and why text me immediately after... Esp when their had previously been no text contact. I don't know if in his.head hes like ' yeah, we Will do it again, so ill contact her in a.few days' or if its just a blow off.
I want to text him something casual and.witty. but I know I shouldn't and it makes fuck all.difference.... Because if he wanted to be in contact.he would.

Fucking men!!!

Also, after an.almost constant two day phone conversation with ywk, I text.him this morning to tell him I.don't want to do this anymore. I shall not respond to him again.

yes, but he's possibly sitting there thinking, 'if she wanted to be in contact she would' and he's a Buddhist, I presume he's evolved enough to not be all 'I'm the man, I do the running...' I think you should text him. Tomorrow. Maybe.

ykw has to go now. I am irritated on your behalf. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE MEN?? I haven't spoken to pm for two weeks (yesterday, not that i'm counting... ) it's horrible, but necessary. I feel quite which is why, yes the scruffy 22 year old was allowed to chat me up - the one with longer hair, looks like a young Paul McCartney. (i don't even like paul McCartney) it was a stunningly great chat up.

scruff: So... where's your husband tonight?
me: I don't have a husband.
scruff: where's your boyfriend?
me: I don't have a boyfriend.
scruff: fiancee?
me: do i look like the marrying kind?

scruff: girlfriend?
Me: then, reader, i quoted Shakespeare 'Man delights not me; no, nor woman neither - though by your smiling you seem to say so.'

he licked my lips at one point and i pinched his nipple. this is normal adult behaviour amongst casual aquaintances, right?

No, no Snape, he will be in touch if he wants to, men don't sit there wondering, usually.

Watch, I do really like him but like with ykw, I don't want to do it anymore. Of course, if he promised me the earth I would reconsider [bugrin].

i just hate this sitting round waiting for some bloke to do something. it's the waiting that is the sod, rather than the end result. At least you then know the lie of the land rather than spending good 'moving-on' time glaring at a silent telephone.

It is the waiting, not knowing Thats a pain, not the result as such. I would just like to know one way or the other, so I can either sulk and move on, or get excited. Its been 3 days today, I know he has his de this weekend, so I'd wait till Monday. But then, honestly, if I've not heard from him by tgen, I can't see I'm going to

Snape, he sounds lovely, a bit of flirting is fab, revel in it :) well done on the no pm thing too.

Adams, he was promising me the world. If only I issued him an ultimatum. And then waited until his gf moved out. I.don't need that..... I'm better than that. As as much as he.might tell me he loves me, it means jack, because he won't.jump unless I.push him. I'm too old for such stupid games. I don't want to do it anymore.

Fuck it, I text him. Would rather be put out of my misery sooner rather than later........

Snape, was he the one with the longer hair, paint splattered costume?

He looked lovely :)

The waiting is crap, gives them all the power too, but it's them that initiate relationships in the main. so has to be got through at first.

Watch, it should be simple, he can contact you again when he is actually single.

[bugrin] Was going to add you could always text to see what reaction you get.

As yet, none.
At worst it Will just confirm.it for me.

Adams, how did he take it when you ended it?
Well done, i know its not easy.....

No, I.dont want to date ykw, too much water under the bridge.

fingers crossed for the buddhist. i demand you get on here the second you hear from him -and if you don't, come on here and we can all have a good moan with you.

yes...mmm... i feel like an utterly disgraceful old hag. he is 6 years older than DD. :) he is arguably quite slutty i may have called him a slut. to his face. actually I might have called him a whore. he's auditioning for my next show, which is gothic regency style, so I'll get to dress him up in breeches and a flouncy shirt. Hello Mr. D'Arcy.

see, i don't get this men do the initiating-rubbish. it isn't fair it's not the 19th century. why do we have to wait?