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So, he accidently text me from another phone ...

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OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 07:36

Last night about 11.45pm I receive a text off an unknown number. I read it and it's DP (I know this because the message contained an in-joke that only me and him know. The message was obviously meant for me, and nobody else.
What is concerning me is - what's with the strange number??

He has recently changed his phone but I have both his old number and his new one. This number was totally different. I played dumb and text back saying "who is this??" and he has not replied again.

He does have form for lying, sneaking around, dating sites etc. If he can't explain this one it will be nail in the coffin for us. Am I being harsh?

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Original poster
OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 07:38

Oh, I've just had a text back saying "who is this??"

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usualsuspect · 09/03/2012 07:40

Just ask him?

Lueji · 09/03/2012 07:41

Are you sure the injoke is only yours?

AllShiney · 09/03/2012 07:42

Big red flag I'm afraid :(

What other reason would he need another phone for really?

But if he's text your number then he might not have an actual phone- just the sim card as your number might be saved to the phone IYSWIM?

Hope it goes well.

Lueji · 09/03/2012 07:42

I'd be tempted to reply it's your ex wife.

Once a liar...

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OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 07:43

Asking him is fine but as I said, he has form for lying so I'll never totally trust what he says if my own doubts are justified. Are they justified?

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wem · 09/03/2012 07:43

Why not call the number?

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OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 07:45

I did Wem, nobody answered

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AnyFucker · 09/03/2012 07:45

why are you still partnered up with a known liar that you don't trust ? Confused

poppy2133 · 09/03/2012 07:45

Where do you think he was last night ?

MMQC · 09/03/2012 07:46

A friend of mine recently changed phones and was issued an interim number during the changeover process. Which meant she was sending out texts and none of us knew who they were from. There may be an innocent explanation!

YankNCock · 09/03/2012 07:46

If he has form for lying and you'll never totally trust him, why on earth are you with him?

The innocent explanation would be that he changed numbers again, thought he told you, and is now worrying that he's texted some random person a text meant for you.

But if your automatic instinct is that he's lying, cheating, and untrustworthy, ask yourself why you are bothering trying to catch him out and not just walking out the door!

LiarsWife · 09/03/2012 07:47

You don't trust him anyway.. why bother?

poppy2133 · 09/03/2012 07:48

Would he normally text u at that time ?

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OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 07:50

He's skint and has just gone out and bought his first smart phone. He has bee texting me from it for 3 days - it doesn't make sense for his number to change now. He'd never buy a new phone without telling me, especially not 3 days after he receives his "new baby".

I think he was at home last night (we don't live together but live nearby each other). He told me he was going to bed at 11.30 (as we were talking on skype) and this text arrived at 11.40.

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Boston2Step · 09/03/2012 07:51

Did you text back again?

Where is/was he when it was sent....be ready for the excuses.

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OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 07:51

no he wouldn't normally text at that time, the contents of the text suggested that it was in reply to something else - mid conversation.

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OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 07:52

I text back saying "who's this?" and he replied "who is this??" Hmm

I have just replied again saying "you text me last night". No reply as of yet.

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YankNCock · 09/03/2012 07:52

Just bin him, there is no point living your life with this level of suspicion. You don't live together, so should be fairly easy.

wem · 09/03/2012 07:57

You could waste a lot of energy figuring this out. Why would this be the nail in the coffin rather than any of the previous incidents? Maybe this has just highlighted the fact that you can't trust him, and you could consider what that means for your relationship whether or not there is an 'innocent' explanation.

Snakeonaplane · 09/03/2012 07:59

I would say the fact that he didn't text back or answer the phone speaks volumes, he is panicking. The in joke bit is puzzling though.

coffeeinbed · 09/03/2012 07:59

Could he have used Skype?
When I call on Skype the number that appears is compelely random. I know - have never used it though, that there is a Skype app for smart phones as well.

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OrangeFace · 09/03/2012 08:03

But coffee that doesn't explain the follow up texts which all came from the same number (and hours later).

Another reply. I text "you text me last night" and he's replied "did I??"

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squeakytoy · 09/03/2012 08:04

I find it really odd to be honest. Ring the number and see who answers.

swallowedAfly · 09/03/2012 08:08

try ringing from a number he doesn't know is yours.

shame you replied as you did as you've alerted him.

i'm confused though as first i read you as saying this was definitely a text intended for you re: the in joke, then you have said it appeared as if it was mid conversation with someone else.

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