The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

Hello?

Oh god. Most embarrassed. Have never done this before..... Am not sure if anyone will see this but wanted to introduce myself and think I could do with some help.
My name is Helen.
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Evening Helen I have only been on the bus for about a month but if you are looking for support whilst either trying to cut down or give up the booze then you really can't go wrong with the bunch of babes that ride this bus or apparently the sidecar of shame that tags on :o

MsGee :o :o :o for the words we love and you are not alone with struggling against the wine this evening,I have been battling since about 5pm and had to take it minute by minute :( still will go to bed in a while to stay sober

actually helen I will call you blanket if you don't mind :o

Hi blanket (hope that is ok!) - what made you decide to post tonight?

Quiet - I am still here not drinking, I am so cross with DH - he is not answering his phone so I am really worried now. He said he'd have a quick drink after work - he cannot hold his drink (oh the irony I know!) and has to cycle home.

MsGee when he gets in give him a damn good telling off for not keeping you in the loop,his phoned has probably run out of battery and he has a flat tyre,let us know when he returns and tell us home bosy you were please

He has no excuse on the phone front - one is ringing and the other is turned off (probably no battery).

I don't really do bossy. I do passive aggressive sulking. If he isn't home in ten minutes, DD will be in my bed and he can sleep in the spare room. Harumph.

He shouldn't cycle drunk. He doesn't even wear a helmet FFS.

I would make him sleep in the spare room anyway,gie him time to think about his actions being thoughtless and you are right if drunk he should not be cycling,police do stop people,he should think of this and tell him from me,helmets save lives,end of.Don't worry.

Hello blanket - I'm new here and won't be much help to you I fear but you have come to the right place, there are some wonderful people here.

I've still not had anything to drink since I stopped a week or so ago but would love a glass while i sit here typing at the laptop!

Reading back over the thread I realise drink plus AD's = bad idea. Well I've been on AD's for 11 years now and drank all the way through those years. I wonder what that's done to me. today I bought some B-vitamins which include Thiacin but now I can't find them. Might be in the car but I'm not going back out to have a look til tomorrow!

Quiet night -

Blanket welcome and sorry you arrived just as I am throwing a strop.

He has been texted a very stroppy message. He will know he is in trouble. If he reads it. At least its stopped me drinking. I need to be sober for my moral high ground

Anyway, I am off to bed, will no doubt worry all night until the git is home.

Night lovely babes x

Sorry - Quiet - meant to put you are right, not sure what happened.

He is normally a lovely man, which is what makes me so cross.

Hello everyone and welcome blanket.

He just called apparently he texted me an hour ago ... Still not come through. He asked if he should cycle home ... Perhaps he thought I'd kick him out !

isinde no form really, he is lovely, considerate but this has happened a couple of times recently.

Right DD off - post properly in morning xx

Hello lovelies

Have been drinking for the 2nd night running. I'm working from home tomorrow and trying to pluck up the courage to tell my dr how much I've been drinking. Wish me luck.

Welcome blanket you're in the right place.

Am fair to middling, thank you isinde - and counting myself very lucky to have few major worries in my life atm compared to other babes on this charabang.

Am on day 15 now, I think, and its possible I might have lost a couple of ounces of weight.

I am still a bit irritated with myself that I keep fancying a glass or three of wine. I'm confident that I'm not going to crack and have one, but I wish the cravings would go away. Cravings is actually too strong a word - its more like thoughts about wine. I wish they would go away.

Morning ladies,

I hope everyone slept well,

not MsGee and me though!!!

My Dh came home from a conference "do" at 1pm (he was lucky to catch the last train), and fell asleep on the sofa until 4am, I heard him come in, and thought isn't he coming to bed?, and then I fell asleep, until, obviously I was woken at 4. You would have thought he'd have had a bit of sense and gone into the spare room!

Very unlike my Dh too MsGee.

Have good days everyone
xxxxx

Morning and welcome to blanket. Do come back and chat with us when you have time .

Bibbity you are doing so well, stick with it. I promise it will get easier. I have experienced the same as you. The cravings, at first so strong, are now more like the 'thoughts' you describe where you know you're not going to drink but still have 'the thoughts'. Good description. However, these are habits and they do change.

Every working day I drive home past a garage that sells alcohol (because you need alcohol when you buy petrol ). Anyway, stick to the story. Most Fridays I would stop and buy wine. Sometimes Thursdays or, hell, any day I felt like it. I would promise myself in the morning that I would not drink that day but something compelled me to pull in and buy wine. Since stopping I've still driven past but held my resolve and managed to resist.

Yesterday, as I drove past there was a giant advertising coffee cup and I thought 'Mmmm a coffee would be lovely right now'. A coffee!! . That was in my mind, not alcohol. And I suddenly realised that this week I have been driving past, checking the soaring price of the petrol, without a thought of alcohol.

Someone on the diet thread said it takes six weeks to change a habit if you stick with it. It's been 8 weeks for me, but it does change. You do not have to spend your life thinking about alcohol and fighting to resist it. You just stop wanting it x

Morning... do you know I have a bit of Boing! today...

I realised that this morning I have drunk for one night out of the past five. Which is a nice feeling.

DH got home not long after my last post - he had called me from the local train station so just had to cycle home. He wasn't steaming drunk, in fact he seemed quite sober - it was work drinks and he said he didn't know how to make small talk so kept getting stuck with the wrong people. Bless him. He realised I was worried and said in future he will make sure he calls me every hour when he is out.

Isinde he is a lovely man and luckily I didn't need the talk as he came up with the ideas himself. I think he is under a lot of pressure at work and having to Politik a bit more in his new job which he struggles with. He doesn't naturally do the networking and ass kissing sort of thing. You were right about the moral highground - I quickly moved to the middle ground where DH and I could keep each other company.

LittleMissGee is great - she slept right through in her own bed last night (big news!) and nursery are happy with her, so all good. She is Very Clingy at the moment but I figure its the tail end of the illness. I also think the hallucinations scared her a lot, it must be horrible to have the world of dreams and scary things come to your waking hours.

Thurso sorry you had a crap night too - I have to admit that once he was home I slept very well - hope you get a good night tonight. How is DH this morning?

Mouse ((( ))) what can I say - it sounds utterly shite sometimes. I hope that the warm weather comes soon and then at least you have a break from worrying about the winter bugs. Give Nemo a cuddle from me.

Morning all :)

Thank you so very much for your kind words yesterday, Isinde, Bproud, Venus. I cannot express how wonderful it is to have a place like this where I can confess my innermost thoughts and feelings. I have had good, close friends in my life and we have discussed so many important and sometimes difficult issues in our lives, yet some things I have only been able to share with you. As difficult and draining as it is, I feel a little bit lighter afterwards, as the support and understanding all the Babes show each other is incredible. Thank you everyone for your time and energy. What a wonderful bus this is :)

Rain, I hope you are feeling OK today?

Blanket, welcome aboard. Please come back and talk to us!

Mouse, you have sooo much on your plate. What's new eh? :( Hope Nemo gets better soon, and that the other decisions can be made without too much stress. If you are in touch with Saf please say hello. Hope she's OK.

It was interesting what you said about habits, Faire (and well done for fancying a coffee!). Yesterday was a particularly shitty and triggery day and I was tempted by the evil wine. When I was reading DS his bedtime story I was contemplating (and craving) wine. Yet after I'd said goodnight and gone downstairs, I automatically put the kettle on for a brew. I had FORGOTTEN that I 'needed' wine!!!! It was only a couple of months ago that I would have been counting down the seconds (literally ) to when I would be opening the wine, and running downstairs straight for the fridge. I actually forgot about drinking...habits really do change :) And I never, ever thought I would be writing these words! If I can 'train' myself to actually and honestly fancy a cup of tea instead then I believe there is hope for everyone :)

Have good days everybody. Today I am going to be getting out of my head. In a healthy way. Not sure how but I will do it :)

Morning MsGee. You do sound boingy! :) Your DH sounds lovely. And well done LittleMsGee for sleeping all night in her own bed! DS decided that today should start at 5.30...it feels like lunchtime already. Chocolate is called for. Lots of it, and at regular intervals throughout the day. I will blame DS.

5.30 starts are the pits - DD normally wakes at that time and it makes the day very loooong.

I am going to train myself to prefer tea to wine ... I do like fennel tea. Good for the ahem digestion