The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

ma hugs from me as well, do you want to talk about it? Try to look after yourself.

RIGHT YOU LOT

There is nothing else for it- strap in - we are going to......

xxxx

I was just thinking, while I made my nice cup of tea, that I have been on this thread since October 2010 and have been sober all that time.

Sometimes I think I don't need it any more, but here I am nearly every night (mostly lurking), finding out how my friends, the Babes are doing, looking forward to hearing about Nemo and the DTs latest progress, cheering on the runners and dieters, and of cause selfishly gaining more resolve and strength for myself.

I was going to say this thread is addictive, but that would be too ironic wouldn't it

Big hug to you Ma How's tricks with Dh, I won't even start....

Hmm, now I'm not quite sure what I'm going to write down, but if you can bear it, I'm not going to preview, and just write from my heart.

I upset a lot of people the first morning that I joined this thread, (Mouse [kiss and love icon]), I don't excuse myself, but I was forgiven (Mouse kiss and love again), and welcomed, and have found this the place to come when there is no-one in RL that i can share some things with.

I am a bit wimpy and non-confrontational in all things apart from work, and so I just stopped posting when I found SarahRT's messages really quite disturbing, and to be honest doing what I do, really very unprofessional. I am sure that this has occurred to everyone on here. I can only hope that in RL SarahRT that you come across with much more empathy and less distance than you have done here. I certainly am not going to pm you, as I don't think anyone on here needs me to protect their feelings.

Miflaw has, in the time I've been on here, put peoples backs up, but somehow not in the same way (And we miss you Mif!!)

I suppose what I'm really trying to say, and believe me, this is me being brave and confrontational, please don't leave JWN Isinde and Venus, this, to paraphrase SarahRT, this thread is my lifeline not hers, and I don't want to let you go without a fight.

Lots of other things I want to say, like, Isinde Congratulations , another Babes wedding this year!!!, how about a meet up in Brighton before the big event, I don't think JWN is very far away, we can talk weddings .
Silver how are things with you sweetheart?
Right am going to press the button...........

P.s Hello Greyhound I'm not always this wordy . Welcome!.

thurso I'm not far from Brighton and would love to meet up if anyone's up for it?

Sorry, formerly Onesunny...

Mahoosive congrats Isinde

hey thurso yes it is DH related as always. Plus unpleasantness at work and father being ill.
thanks all for the hugs...silverloved the backflip. Cool! Could we perhaps go to Normandy to eat fabulous food and visit my friend Elisabeth?
And sit under the apple trees in full blossom, admiring the lush countryside and sipping cider applejuice?

thurso - I wouldn't have you any other way than honest. Thank you for being so tonight. Massive love and hugs to you too my very dear friend xx

I'm so pleased that you stuck around following our first ahem, exchange . This has become a really 'safe' place for me to be and you are one of the Babes who makes it that way. I know that we all have our troubles away from the Bus, life goes on away from here, this thread is my lifeline too, I know that I can come on here and instantly get support.

I love this thread, that's why I keep it going. Even if I was the only one here, talking to myself, which is highly likely at times, I'd keep doing new threads. New journeys. New Bus routes!

Thank you all dear Babes I'm off to try and sleep whilst Nemo is. DH is fading fast so must be due some medication bless him

Goodnight lovelies xx

Oh, and I've not had a drink today

Hi All,

Id so like your help and support (sadly not doing great here) but I now just dont feel able to ask for help/post as I just feel sorry for Sarah. Im sorry. I just do?!

It seems like the BBB have turned on someone who works hard all day helping others (jobs like that are TOUGH and people in them really do deserve some appreciation because they really dont do it for the money), then she spends her 'free' time ? supporting/following us Babes on the Bus.

To the newby - its like you have turned on someone that has only ever offered support and help for people that are here and looking for it.

If you find her patronising - then ignore? If she isnt warm or funny enough - so what?? She still offers someone/everyone something? Surely?

If she offends ? then an instant message has got to be more appropriate rather than a very public show down/hoo har!?

I imagine Sarah must be feeling very sad and a tad vilified.

I realise Ive probably burned all my bridges speaking out. So I guess Id better get off the bus. Gutted. Ive only been here 2.5 weeks and now after speaking out about Sarah ? I guess Ill have to go.

Blanket.

Blanket you really don't have to go. There are lots of babes here who can offer help and support. Tell us what is happening, why you feel you are't doing well. This will all blow over and we will still be here, trying to help each other.

Hello babes

I am a lurker (a 2 year lurker) who is delurking to say I am rather distraught at the fact that the founder member and CEO of the Brave Babes is leaving, without JWN, the inspirational isindie and fabulous venus I am going to feel lost! Honestly, you lot sometimes are the only thing that keeps me on the straight and narrow.

Thanks to all of you I am getting to grips with my previous bottle (and sometimes a half on top) of wine a day and have had months off the stuff
(with relapses in between of course)

Thank you all of you and selfishly, I really hope you come back.

Love to you mouse you are a hero!

What has happened to the bus??

This was a safe place. Now there is tension and drama and sadness. We have enough of that in real life.....

I am gutted. Gutted for myself and for anyone else who feels a little lost now. I miss the support and the humour and just knowing that the Brave Babes Swat Team was out there . Not just for me but for lots of us who have been helped in some way or another. Can we find a way back??

Bproud. :) Thank you. x

With the support of this bus (and my electric blanket) I didnt drink for a week. 7 whole nights. Now with the excuse of Mothers Day, playdates and my birthday Ive started drinking again.

I will go to AA if I cant get a grip and Im aware that this is nobodys problem but mine.....

This Amazing Bus felt so brilliant. So safe and united and now it feels a bit upsetting. All divided and finger pointy.

Because it appears of one girl who rightly or wrongly has been deemed patronising.

I hate it. I hate all of that. So much so that I had to speak out and now I feel too awkward and a bit frightened of the backlash to speak out and ask for help with me boozing!

I have never ever posted on a forum in my life. And Im bloody well turning 41 in 3 days.... and its gone from wondeful to ghastly. :(

Thank you Calypso

Blanket - I have said my peace regarding Sarah and will not be drawn into justifying my feelings to anyone. Stay, you've not burned any bridges. No-one has to leave.

The doors are open here.

X posted Blanket - I had a feeling that you had a drink tonight, I'm sorry that you feel that way about myself and the others on the Bus.

I'm going to bed. I hope that you don't feel bad in the morning, you need the support of this Bus and those who post on it, so stick around. Maybe PM Sarah and ask for her help directly if you found it helpful.

I havent had a drink tonight.

I knew I would be made to feel this way.
Awful.

I am going to sign off for tonight as well, but you know what, this happens sometimes, in families, in friendship groups, in AA, in therapy groups.

We have had difficult times on this thread before as well, feelings run high, because we are all here struggling and trying to find our way, a lot of us have really suffered in the past and spats are hard to deal with because we are naturally more sensitive, struggling, drinking.
I will be back tomorrow, mouse and ma will be here too, lets just keep on keeping on.

Mouse you said it! better than I could!

SSMum I hate all the divided feeling too, but, I just really need JWN Venus and Isinde to be back, I am sorry if my message made you feel uncomfortable. By the way, at 41 you're still a girl , I wish I was!!

Bloody crikey, typing doesn't ever convey proper feelings does it ?

Sorry, Blanket you're the one who's still young

Isinde me too!

Now, about those wedding clothes, and Brighton................

blanket I agree with you re sarah and I also agree with lots of others too. i get a sore arse from sitting on the fence all the time. Please don't feel bad, there have been fallouts before and there will be again because we are human, vulnerable, defensive and sometimes pissed. this bus is like Hotel California - you can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave
indie you are going nowhere babe - suck it up
venus jwn we need you. You have been strong enough to fight the demon, are you strong enough be here for the Babes that need you? We have newbies crying out for help and wondering what the hell they have walked into...
We will NOT be destroyed by alcohol and our different approaches to dealing with it. this bus is too special a place, as are all the Babes and Boybabes who journey on it and contribute. Don't let the demon divide us.
blanket stick with us. The rest of you fasten your seatbelts and shut the fuck up ....
silver DRIVE!!!

Mouse thank you for asking after me - I'm ok. Had a RL falling out with someone I thought was a friend, I am still unsettled by it. Then there's all this..... I know it will be ok again soon.

Lots of good things going on, DD (9) having a ball with horses, DS (12) enjoying his footie, work is busy - another self-employed person here - busy is good!