The Brave Babes Battle Bus - On Their Way To Giving Up The Booze For Lent (or just for today)

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus where you'll find a mix of drinker, non drinkers, those who has been sober for a long time, and those who are getting there One Day At A Time.

Come and say hi....... we won't bite

And if you want to know how this all got started, HERE is a link to the previous threads.

books seat on bus for tomorrow.About time Gerald got on the road again.
have been having some stress to deal with but keeping the drinking down to about two glasses a night.
Waves to all

I haven't been drinking for a while, but I am well into the biscuits and sweets! I would love to be less addicted to that kind of stuff but i suppose it's baby steps all the way....

i have a vague idea where blackpool is silver! i think i may have been once! there where a lot of men in vests, if my memory serves me well!

im thinking that swapping booze for lsd is not the best idea ive heard in a while! tbh, i dont give a great deal of thought as to what 'makes' us alkies, i just focus on staying sober and living life, too much navel gazing is not good for me, so i stick to the 'kiss principle', works a treat!

Could be something in that bibbity. I've heard others say that they crave sugar when they're not drinking. I thought it was just that the body had been used to getting lots of sugar and it was the sudden withdrawal which caused the cravings. But it could be the other way, as you said, that the alcohol is fulfilling the existing sugar craving.

Ginger sorry I missed your post earlier. Don't be too hard on yourself, try to learn what it was which made you take that first drink. You were going to change some of your routines to avoid the triggers, what happened there? New habits take a little time to become habits so just keep trying.

Silver looking forward to the trip tomorrow. Just what we all need I think.

JWN what does one wear to a beach in northern england in the middle of March? I'm guessing heels are out .

i have no idea about 'northern beaches' faire! hopefully they are more sartorial than 'southern beaches', they are usually frequented by ladies of ample bosom and reubenesque bottoms who decided that adding a tattoo will enhance their natural beauty! miaow!!!

Oooh well, apart from the tattoo, I will fit in quite well then.

Hey, JWN you would wear a Kiss me Quick hat (in keeping with your kiss principle) and just to get your money's worth, you could wear it again to the wedding .

faire! i will run that money saving idea past dd!

Morning!!!

You southerners know nothing.... Lytham is the posh bit of Blackpool. You all need slightly purple / silver rinses and a look of distaste at being mixed up with the louts from Blackpool!

I'm from ooop that way and have had some lovely weekends in Lytham. There is a nice Greek restaurant there. I had a lovely sober meal there the night I found out I was pg 2nd time after DD. Was yum.

I am tired this morning. I have to finish a bid for work, pack, shop for everything I forgot to buy, run errands, sort out transfer from hotel, sort mothers day cards, pick up DD after lunch, pick up friends DD for play date, repack and oh .... Lose 4 lbs.

But then I am on holiday fly out tmrw lunchtime. I cannot wait.

Have a lovely time MsGee, see you when you get back x

I know what the trigger is. It is me going into the kitchen to cook tea. I had my alternative all lined up, a nice tall glass of San Pellegrino with ice and a slice of lime, but that sly little bastard in my head had me reach into the fridge for the white. I told myself I'd have a glass while I cooked then stop, it didn't work.

I really need to find some will power somewhere and tell that monster that I am in charge and I will call the shots.

Back to the drawing board!

Have a good day all.

Morning all. JWN oh how I wish I could use the KISS principle with my clients! Nothing is ever simple with this little shit in a bottle.

Isinde is right Wrath, if you have made your mind up, for today, not to drink, get the stuff out of the house. It will seduce you at supper time. One of the most ticked boxes on my CV for women drinkers, particularly Mothers.

My Auntie Peggy lived in Lytham, and yes, she had a blue rinse and pearls, talked to strangers and professionals with a posh accent, but lapsed into her Lancashire twang after a couple of gins with the family. I really liked her.

I am across the border, but I think today we need to be in camel coats and jacqmar silk head scarves, sensible brogues with a squirt of Estee Lauder Youth Dew perfume to kill the smell of well anything

Happy holidays MsGee xx

Have a fab holiday MsGee. Although I feel a little envious of you jaunting off tomorrow, at least I can console myself with a fab bus ride to Lytham St Anne's with all these other babes!

(Am half way through my complete abstinence for Lent. 23 days down, 23 days to go).

I am a Lancashire lass born and bred but then moved over to the dark side (Yorks ) and then even further South

I am enjoying a trip to Blackpool!

bibbity yay go you! It's a long time isn't it. Well done . I am still sticking to my diet but really looking forward to a few days off it over easter so 23 days to go for me too.

isindi - i have pmed you!!!

I'm sorry to be gloomy, I do feel my role on this bus is positive cheer-leading but I need to tell you about a conversation I had last week.

I have a work acquaintance who I knew was a lone parent, anyway we were chatting and I made the assumption that she is divorced but she told me her husband had actually died. Once I had apologised about 100 times she shared some details with me.

He died because of alcohol. For a number of years he was a 'functioning alcoholic', he would stop drinking for months at a time then lapse - drink in secret and deny, deny, deny...... They separated and he moved out. He died because his pancreas gave up but his body was not found for 3 weeks after his death. She had to tell their kids (8 and 6 at the time) that 'daddy is dead' but they don't know the cause. She is now bringing them up by herself and dealing with their grief. I think she had done her grieving before he died tbh. He was 39......

It has made me really sad - what a waste..... Sorry for the gloomy post from me but I needed to share.

I hope everyone is safe and well tonight xx

That is a terribly sad story Horses.

I personally do not know anyone who has died of alcoholism but I do worry that, amongst my generation and my peers, it is only a matter of time.

Sorry, that probably sounds rather negative. I'll get me coat.

Please don't Bibbity, like the rest of the lovely babes, you are amazing, and strong to talk albeit in cyberspace about this problem.

I try to steer clear of sad tales here, just because you all might think I am trying to scare you. But what happened to your acquaintance Horses is very much a sign of the times. The incidence of death from alcohol related illnesses in women particularly has doubled over the last 20 years, that is excluding accidents caused by it. Each week there is at least one day when I just am left distraught at devastation that unfolds in front of my eyes. The consequences have such a ripple effect. Sometimes the situation is too broken to mend.

But everyone here has a real desire to stop, before it gets out of control rather than just unmanageable, and that has to be a good thing. xx

I think it's important to acknowledge the very real dangers of alcohol addiction. All these tragic deaths and illnesses started the same way. At what point do you stop? Everyone has their own 'enough is enough' point. We are all different, but we are all treading the same path. Thankfully, there is a way to beat it. Thankfully, this bus and all the wonderful, supportive babes on it are heading in the right direction. One day at a time .

Isinde I am sorry that it may have come across in that way, I would never patronize, text is a difficult medium, particularly with such an emotional subject. Please accept my apology for that. One thing I have learnt on my journey, is never to assume anything about anyone, I am sure you show the same courtesy.

I learn of a new twist or turn, sometimes joyous, often sad every day with my clients. I have treated over 6,000 over the last 12 years, with a 78% success rate of sobriety. Each one has taught me something new.

Have a safe evening. x

Just popping on to say I have packed my case, finished my work and am ready for hols!

I am drinking but it is not the reason I feel light and joyous. I can't wait for my holiday. (did i mention that).

Nice to see other Lancashire lasses on here.

Love to the babes x

Another Lancashire lass here. And proud of it All this talk of lovely Lyrham is making me very homesick. This is quite surreal! Better shut up before I out myself...

Have a fab holiday, MsGee. You deserve it.

Ginger, how did you get on tonight? Did you manage to resist at tea-time? It's tough, I know.

Horses, what a sad story

Hope everyone's doing OK tonight. I've had a couple of glasses but am now on the hot chocolate so am pleased with that. Sleep well Babes