Husband's horrible fumbling

[EasyToEatTiger]

My husband fumbles around with my genitals when I am asleep. He does not seem to understand that I HATE IT. I really hate it. I hate waking up with him fiddling about. I want to scream and run away. He does not say anything to me, he does not touch any other part of me, and he does not seem to care that I am trying to sleep.

"The people that say he isn't are making excuses for sexual assault...are you one of them ?"

I don't know AF. I wasn't there to witness it and have only seen scant details here. Therefore, I thought it best to ask the person to whom it's happening. Radical approach huh.

Op I know what you mean. I can't say what's going on in your situation, I can only talk about mine. Dh has not been abusing or assaulting me, he's been a bit of a twat. I did have to say something and he is completely different. He also thought it was a nice way to wake me up (i have put him straight on that!) As he loves it if he wakes up with me fumbling him .

It really depends on whether your dh has listened to you now you've made it clear or whether he carries on regardless.

She has told us, Yogii, so no, not that radical really

You simply have to read what she has written

Most sexual assaults are not "witnessed" and sometimes people minimise what has actually happened

I know I did, that is why I know it happens

If that's your interpretation go with it AF.

Being kind is bringing someone a cup of tea in the morning, saying 'sit down we'll have a takeaway,' 'step away from the ironing board - let me do it.'
In what universe is groping a person awake being kind?