Confusion

[WeCouldHaveHadItAll]

Well...where to start. Was married. With kiddies. Had affair. Feel in love BIG TIME. Got very scared. Affair off. Then on. Then off. Then on. Now off. Felt so right. But on-off nature meant trust was low. Anywaysup. Back with family now. Lovely to see kiddies. Wife is very keen. But I am uncertain. Very. Can't stop loving my RiRi. What to do?

Uh oh......so you're back with your wife only because the affair didn't work out?

Do your poor wife a favour and leave. Sounds like you've messed her around for far too long. Can't believe that is good for your children either.

Affair turned into "will get divorced, etc. and so full on relationship". But at the mo back in family. Think I need to divorce. But scared. chicken me, puk puk"

oooh. your lucky wife! you sound a real keeper.

is your wife an mner? hope she reads your thread...

Why would a full-on relationship scare you more than leaving your family?

Reality of leaving kiddies was too much to face. Didn't have that in lifeplan. Very sad. Made GF sad too. Went back. Is that bad? Could it work?

You sound like a complete wanker. Do the decent thing and leave your wife - she deserves way way better than you.

You nasty pathetic little man - you are playing with your children's lives. Just leave and do them a favour ...... and the biggest favour to your wife.

Would I say the same to a woman doing the same? I bloody well hope so.

Can you. Write. In normal. Sentences.?

As it's hard to understand what you are needing help with.

Any chance you could write in complete sentences please?

Although, from the gist of it, it sounds like your poor wife needs all the help she can get

Only you know if it can work, but I doubt it if you love someone else.

You will have s better relationship with your kids if you leave your wife and set up decent access rather than let them see you and the wife in a loveless and ultimately destructive relationship.

Grow some balls, admit if you do not want to be with your wife you need to leave. If you still love her and she is keen as you said then work on it - talk to her, not us.

Unlikely to work with either woman. Your reason for being with each of them appears to be groundless.

Impact of me leaving is massive reduction in lifestyle. Is that ok, then?

No, it won't work. With either women. They don't trust you and never will. They both know that you cheated. Staying with your wife under these circumstances is possibly the worst possible situation for your kiddies. How many, btw and how old?

Didn't. Come. For. Grammar. Lessons.

They are better off with emotional stability rather than material wealth

Not sure you can help. I know what I need to do. And if I needed advice I might actually ask people that went outside, etc.

Impact of me leaving is massive reduction in lifestyle. Is that ok, then?

Yes this is ok. They will manage without you. It will be a big adjustment for everyone and of course the lifestyle will change. But ultimately you will all be happier. You and your wife will both be free to find another partner, when you are ready, and hopefully will find happiness again.

OP, are you real ?
'We could have had it all' ? ! (Adele, you have a lot to answer for)
Do yourself a favour and grow up.

How does your wife feel about all this? How much does she know?

Wounded.

You sound very bitter and angry. Is there more to this than you are telling us?

Aaaggghhhh