Confusion

[WeCouldHaveHadItAll]

Well...where to start. Was married. With kiddies. Had affair. Feel in love BIG TIME. Got very scared. Affair off. Then on. Then off. Then on. Now off. Felt so right. But on-off nature meant trust was low. Anywaysup. Back with family now. Lovely to see kiddies. Wife is very keen. But I am uncertain. Very. Can't stop loving my RiRi. What to do?

If one has kiddies how can bring apart ever be "good"?

Poor lass, she deserves better than you.

"And if I needed advice I might actually ask people that went outside, etc."

So why are you posting this here in the relationship section unless you want advice? And why are you insulting people here?

I'm not sure what you want from us. No-one here can tell you, or any other poster, what to do.

FWIW, I think that children are better off with separated parents who are happy than unhappy parents clinging on to a failed relationship.

Not a bad thing to go back because you were sad about leaving the children- but it's not enough to make it work.

It is sad.

OK so leaving aside the bashing for a sec - you were sad to leave your kids, and went back, but the marriage doesn't sound in great shape and you are concerned about the life change if you do separate for good.

Missing the kids sounds like a good thing. But not getting back together merely for them.

Yes you would have to downsize and so on financially if you did split, but how about the need for love for both you and your wife?

What was the shape of the marriage prior to the affair?

It won't work then. I think I know that. Sad. But kiddies are amazing. Wife too. She can be happy elsewhere.

Arrrrggghh at your sentences.

Maybe if you stayed inside more with your family, op, and kept your dick in your pants you wouldn't be in this predicament, talking to us losers.

The only way it'll work is for you to go no contact with the other woman. That means no replying to texts, emails and not answering the phone, and focusing all your energy on your relationship with your wife. If you can't do that, the decent thing is to explain to her why you can't and leave. Sorry.

Gees. Grammar police. My sentences are complete and fine. You sound like RiRi...telling me off for muddling "few" and "less". Fuff. I am slowly (as I'm a man) seeing that love is the thing. I crave it. I had it. I lost it. I miss it. I miss RiRi.

you didnt lose love, you threw it away. you arse.
Both women deserve better than a knob like you.
Your DC deserve better than a person like you. You do not deserve to be called a father.

Your sentences are really not complete, And it is very hard to leave.

Look. If you don't love your wife then leave her. Do the right thing. Don't leave her in the dark while you lie about your feelings.

It's 8.45pm. Anyone going out? I am. It's a big World out there. Lots to do. Fun too. Bye

Hard to read. Not leave.

Sorry OP, but I can't help laugh
at your posts. You sound ridiculous.

And 'RiRi'?! Unless Rhianna is your mistress (in which case, fair play), calling a grown up that is quite disturbing.

Good insult though. I daresay people 'outside' have already told you you're being a knob and THAT is infact why you're on here looking for sympathy.

OP make sure your mum knows where you are if you are going out in the dark.

Ouch...MN wounds me...

In which case leave your wife. Be honest. You know it makes sense.

It does. I'm a man, though. No sense.

Feel better...a bit. Ranted. Love RiRi. Need to act.

Well I would go outside, but it's dark and I have a vagina.

You are saying that you don't love/respect your wife any more. You only want to stay with her for the sake of the children. What you don't seem to realise is that you can still have a very good relationship with your children without living with your wife. If that is what you want, make sure that you put their needs first. That is what a good father does and that is what your children need and deserve.

Bye MN. have a nice night with laptops, tea and opinions. I will give the real World your love xxx

Fuck, somebody beat me to it with the "did you have an affair with Rihanna?" quip

OP, piss off now

you were interesting for about 2 seconds, then it got all "RiRi" on our ass

And here we have YET ANOTHER self entitled, self absorbed, ubervictim.

Being "a man" is no excuse for being a supremely selfish, self obsessed toddler.

A REAL man is a grown up who knows how to respect all people...yes...EVEN WOMEN!!!!!!!!