18&pregnant how do I break the news??

[Nayy93]

RIGHT here it goes im pregnant it was a MASSIVE shock bcoz I have the coil and dnt kno how to tell my parents!! I am Shitting myself arhhh!! So stressed

My parents do not approve of my boyfriend of three years they fink he is a waste of space blah blah blah da main reason is bcoz he gt me preg at 16 had a termination by force and guilt that my parents put on me. I?m determined not to go down that road again!!!
I beg someone help me plzzz!!

Do you want to have a baby? Is adoption something you'd consider if not, and if you don't want a termination?

If you are sure you want the baby then you will have to tell your parents - if you can't say it can you write it all down and sit with them as they read?

Do you have any other family who you could ask for support with telling them? Aunts, uncles, siblings or family friends?

Hopefully you'll find once they get used to the idea of being grandparents they will be happier but it may come as a bit of a shock at first.

Who do you live with?

Are you a student, working or doing something else (and if so, what)?

Tell us a bit more about your boyfriend. Why, exactly, do your parents disapprove of him?

well Im a student nurse first year in uni my parents are so proud of me! I have a Saturday job in greggs!

I want to keep the baby I cant cope with having another termination its to heart breaking. Every one in my bf family knos whats going on there are happy for us but also concerned at the same time. I know this is going to be hard no one said it was going to be easy but I want to do it.

im currently living with my dads gf bcoz its close to my uni he recently had a bby with her he is now 8 months.

I have loads of family members but its about telling the right one i dont want them to judge me and jump down my throat.

im thinking of sending her a text is that to harsh lol ???

btw only found out i was preg y.day

main reasons why my mum dnt like him is bcoz

he good 4 nuffin , he hasn't got a proper job and he hasn't got his full stay in the country even though he getting that sorted out .

They only look at the bad things they don't see him like I do he treats me like im a queen he will do anything for me he even sells his things if I don't have money I believe he is a keeper I have no intention of breaking up with him.

he proposed to me on my 18th bday last year parents wasn't happy they said he using me!

mind all over the place.!!

How will you both support baby ? Will you continue to study? Also will issues with your bf being allowed to stay be resolved? I wonder If having some thoughts about how and where you will live might help
Deal with family not being pleased as you will show that you have thought about how you will live with a baby.

Sounds like you know deep down what you want .. it will just take a bit of courage to tell your parents.. but you know .. time passes and people change and they'll get used to the idea.
Yeah it may not be what your parents want for you right now but I'm sure if you can stay true to what you want (ie to keep the baby) and hang in there for 9 months then when they see this precious little life they'll just love it and be very glad you kept it.
You do what you feel is right for you and, if you can, try not to be influenced too much by others

Is he Turkish?

It's YOUR life. It isn't up to your parents how you live it - though I'm sure that they think they have your best interests at heart.

Don't have a termination that you don't want.

First thing, take a bit of time to get used to the idea yourself, so that you can speak more calmly when it comes to telling people.

Don't feel pressured into telling your parents anything until you're ready.

Talk to family members who will LISTEN to you first. Not necessarily agree with you, but those who will respect your point of view and let you discuss things with them.

Re your boyfriend, it sounds like you don't have many illusions about him! You can see why your parents don't have any faith in him. That's good, you know. Keep your wits about you and just remember that, at the same time as seeing the good in someone (as you do with him, he's a lucky man!) it's ALWAYS best not to let what you want to see get in the way of what's actually there. If he treats you well - that's brilliant. But if he starts to let you down, don't feel you have to stay in the relationship to be a good mother, or to not let your parents be proved right.

If you keep your baby, as it sounds like you will, I'm sure you'll do fine.

well i kno my nan will be very supportive she has a five bed house and no one lives with her OR i can get a flat from the council. I can take a year from uni and continue with the next intake. his stay is being sorted so I'm not worried about that.
after all these problems go i kno money will be the biggest issue
my bf has set up a clothes company and hes getting loads of money in but you never kno how long that will last.

loool no his not turkish his jamaican

I feel so much better already just talking to other ppl thank you guyss

How about telling your nan first then? BUT only when you're ready .. there's no rush .. you've got loads of time.

Fuck me, sorry, but you're a student?

yhh I probably got 4 months b4 I start showing if im lucky loool

yes I'm a student is there a problem?

Oh, and just in case nobody else says it...Congratulations.

lool thank youuu that will probably be the first and last xx

I am surprised you have a coil. Why a coil, if I may ask?

And congratulations.

Thank youuu

well I was on the pill and they gave me terrible headaches and there was some days I forgot to take them.

I didnt want that thing in my arm bcoz it has a bad rep in the area I live in.

you are a student nurse and they let you have every saturday off to work at greggs?

I am more surprised that they let somebody so young have a coil fitted. My gp did not want to fit a coil on women who had not been pregnant and given birth. Maybe modern coils are different.

I'm surprised you are able to do a degree with such shocking spelling and punctuation.

There is no maternity leave/pay for student nurses. You may be able to defer a year but you won't be paid for it. you will need very supportive family to go back and be able to work long hours or shifts. It is do-able though, I know plenty of people who have.

ow do you break the news?

In person. Over a cup of tea. 'Mum, I have some news. I know you will be disappointed and upset but I am happy. Please support my decision.'

My spelling and punctuation is not important! This is an internet site not an
essay my life will depend on.