18&pregnant how do I break the news??

[Nayy93]

RIGHT here it goes im pregnant it was a MASSIVE shock bcoz I have the coil and dnt kno how to tell my parents!! I am Shitting myself arhhh!! So stressed

My parents do not approve of my boyfriend of three years they fink he is a waste of space blah blah blah da main reason is bcoz he gt me preg at 16 had a termination by force and guilt that my parents put on me. I?m determined not to go down that road again!!!
I beg someone help me plzzz!!

I can see scant evidence of the OP's 'maturity', horse, and I find it somewhat ironical that a would-be nurse who will become responsible for ensuring that patients receive their medication at proscribed times cannot use the contraceptive pill because she forgets to take it

Sadly, I've encountered far too many cases where young impressionable women have been 'treated like princesses' by would-be immigrants only to find that the characters of their princes have altered beyond recognition once they have served their purpose by marrying or producing a child that can be used to support a claim for the right to remain in the UK.

I find it significant that your bf proposed on your 18th, OP, and I would strongly advise you to wait until his immigration status is resolved before you give any consideraton to marriage.

I'd also advise you not to count on being able to 'get a flat off the council' as the demand for social housing far exceeds supply particularly in cities and large towns. As a homeless single parent, your local authority will have a statutory duty to house you but this may take the form of a succession of temporary accomodation pendng an offer of permanent housing which could take some years to materialise.

If you are unemployed or on a low income you will be entitled to claim HB but should be aware that if you allow your bf to stay in your accomodation overnight you may find yourself on the wrong end of the law.

You've said that your nan who lives in a 5-bed house will be supportive and I would suggest that you have a chat with her to see whether she will help you break the news to your dps and provide you with support and accomodation prior to and after the birth.

It is amazing how strong the unconscious urge to have a baby is. Hmmm, being around a pregnant woman and small child born...

Well, Navvy, you have made some life choices the consequences of which are going to bite you in the arse, but good luck, with determination and not giving up you can get over the difficulties.

Really izzywhizzy? The fact that as a nurse someone makes the responsible decision not to rely on a form of contraception they don't think will be suitable for them, in their own personal life, makes them unsuitable to check and administer medication to a patient? That's what you're worried about?

Izzy - If we all had to wait until we had suitable accommodation before we got pregnant there would be a serious drop in the population in London.

OP, there's one other thing you need to talk to DP about - that is parenting. Jamaican parenting is very different to English parenting. Take a look at some books about this - it could make or break your family.

well, in some ways I agree with Izzy. Ive seen too many young women in shit relationships or left holding the baby the minute the visa comes through. They are usually teenagers so, I think its understandable that your parents are wary of him.

If you are planning on keeping this baby your first and main priority is to inform your mentor on your current placement .
Do that first before you do anything else .

Thank you everyone for your comments and support.

Izzy- I don't need to take contraceptive pill because I have the coil.

btw I only have 4 days left is it still necessary to tell my mentor? Just asking before any one decides to jump down my throat. Plus my placement is a day clinic which 9 till 5 no bed pans included. Patients come in for treatment blood transfusion etc then go home.

wow to the people who are gunning me down about spelling and punctuation I suffer with dyslexia so I'm sorry I'm not perfect!

Four days left to do what? You must tell someone at uni and the place where you are working. You need to have a risk assessment. Please, if you are serious about finishing your course then tell everyone involved.

Four days left at my placement. Thanks Katkitya ill make sure I do that by tomoz.

Make sure yoiu do. Dont be embarrassed or anything.

Can I ask about your bf? is he pleased about the baby? does he want you to finish your course? has he promised to help with childcare?

You need to be aware that some drugs used in chemo can cause problems with foetal development. You only need to come into contact with them for it to be a risk. Please talk to your mentor tomorrow!

He is over the moon but when the nurse told me i was pg wasn't happy at all. Yeah he wants me to finish I was even talking about quitting today I was just thinking about how I would be able to manage everything but he saying he doesn't want me to quit because I have wanted to be a nurse for so long.

He got so excited he told the whole of his family omg!

Realityneedsa....-Sorry I really don't know what your trying to imply.

I hope you're right, otherwise this is very concerning.

Your initial grammar has nothing to do with dyslexia.
Be aware that your nursing notes are legal documents and that no coroner in this country will accept that type of grammar written in notes .

Oh, please dont tell me this is a wind up!!

I have a soft spot for student nurses.

And, my first year girls all work in Top Shop/Bars/Greggs its not unusual.

Ive been had, have I?

TSC, you love abit of Bingo dont you? we will have to go to Mecca one night

nannyplum- You try having learning difficulties then get back to me OK!

Good night x

A chemo day clinic - no bed pans - really ?
Surely you must know by now since you have been on placement that chemo makes people sick ??
You might not be using bed pans but I would be absolutely amazed if you weren't coming into contact with body fluids and handing out sick bowls ...
For somebody that has just found out they are pregnant on a chemo day unit I am amazed at your naivety given that they will have explained the hazardous nature of the drug .

I have worked with many nursing professionals who have dyslexia , correct me if I'm wrong but i didnt know that the grammar of Snoop Doggy Dogg was a feature of dyslexia .
I have also nursed young people with learning difficulties so I have a decent knowledge of them .

is this the modern day youth virtual version of knocking dolly out of bed?

Sorry Kat but I have to be honest .
In all my years I have never known a student nurse with a Saturday job in Greggs, Topshop etc .