Pregnant after fling.. what to do?

[teardrops]

I have just found out I'm pregnant after a brief relationship with someone who lives a long distance from me. He is engaged to be married to someone else and I suspect he won't want anything to do with the baby if I keep it.
I feel so stupid and have no idea what to do.

also x-posted with your last one - sorry

Timetosmile has a very good point. We never know what the future holds. You just need to decided what to do in the here and now.

Damn sorry wrong thread

I just want to echo timetosmiles observations we can never second guess the future. My best friend had a abortion at 16 assuming later she could have children she can't. I'm not saying that this would be the cases with u just that nothing is certain. And the very fact your heart is telling u something at all means in my opinion u shouldnt just ignore it-u just have to be sure. I was unable to go through with a abortion ultimately my heart just screamed. I hoe u are doing as ok as u can be. Probably of no use at al sorry just reflecting on the comments

He called you to reinforce the fact that if you continue this pg you will be doing it alone. The fact he says he does have feelings for you , isnt relivent as he is not going to be there , he will marry someone else.

At least hes been honest about this. (shame this honesty didnt kick in as soon as you had met him).

So now you have a clear choice .

Continue , and be a lone parent ..or terminate and continue your life as you know it now.

Neither choice is the easy one , do what you feel is right.

Teardrops I think this site is just confusing you further. I think you should step away and do what you feel is right for you. I know you have been able to "talk" to people which has helped you but now I think you need to step away and do what you feel is best. Best of luck whatever you decide, remember It's your life and it has to be right for you.

It is possible to do it alone. I have raised my daughter alone (as well as my older son) after a pregnancy from a fling. It isn't easy going, but the alternative for me wasn't an option.

I think that you need to step away from the computer to make this decision, a lot of people will tell you how they feel, or how you should feel, and will unwittingly be unable to give you advice without bias. From talking to my cousin, who was in the situation of being very young and pregnant, a lot of people giving you advice is overwhelming and can make you feel pushed either way, even whilst trying to remain unprejudiced.

Take a few days. You will look at the practical, but remember that there is the emotional side to it too, and not just the immediate emotions, in a similar situation when I was very young and I got so focused on the facts, and with being shocked and upset, that I didn't really examine my emotions for the long term and made the decision very quickly.

Make the right decision for yourself. Take care. x