The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year, New Start And With A Firm Resolution In Their Hearts.

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Hello, I'm Mouse and I have an ever changing relationship with alcohol.

This is the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a support thread for those who feel their drinking habits are not what they should be, or even those of another.

Sober, drinking or somewhere in between, come take a seat.

And for those who would like to know where this all started, HERE is a link to the threads before this one.

Make THIS year THE year that you change your life, for the better.

Have a Happy New Year, full of memories to treasure, not to forget.

BOING!!!

got my lovely sil coming for lunch today, really looking forward to seeing her

christie, personally i would kick him in the knackers! (actually, i think men like this need speaking to 'one-to-one', quietly, in a low voice, ask him what his fucking problem is and then say if he dosnet want to play ball you will have him removed from the team - jobs are hard to get these days and there are many who would join your team and participate with gusto!

Hello

I hope you have all had good Mondays, Silver how is your Mum today?

Mouse how is Nemo?, and how are you, is your pain any less?

I retrieved the weekend after a horrible Friday evening with Dh, and it was ok for the most part.

Venus What you wrote to me is so true, and is so much what is happening with me. I am truly grateful for your empathy. Sending you love, and hoping that DD is recovering well.

I hope you had a lovely lunch JWN, was the talk of weddings ! Is it this year that DD is getting married, I'm sorry, I can't remember whether it's this summer or next. Also, can I pick your brains re: smart London hotels? DC1 asked me what Dh and I wanted for Christmas, and I said that all we love is to spend time with him, and on Christmas morning, he gave me a card that said he has booked for afternoon tea at Claridges with him!!!
Now I have looked at the dress code, and it says "elegant, smart, casual" (groan), could mean anything.

I am wondering if you, or any other Babes have been there recently, and can you tell me what people were wearing?

Inde Did you hear about the contract you were after?

Sorry, this is a very disjointed message , I'm rushing , but really wanted to write a quick post to say hi to everyone.

Much love
xxxx

Christi it may be worth starting a thread about this to get lots of advice from others who have been in the same situation. There was one recently about a colleague really attempting undermine someone at work and the advice they got was brilliant, but I can't remember it all now.

SSM you are doing so well, 22 days, wow. I bet you never thought you would be in this position. Feels great doesn't it . Diet's going well thanks, I've lost 6lb so far.

Hi to all - back later x

Hey Babes

Hi Thurso - she's brighter today - just been to visit, but they have said that they won't be giving her any more chemo as she is reacting so badly to it - not sure if that is good or bad news tbh - at least she may get some quality of life, albeit less time with us. She doesn't know yet - when she is over this infection her consultant will see her and break the news.

One day at a time very much applies to my situation with DM - things can change drastically in a few hours.............

Anyway - still taking the tablets and have definitely noticed a drop in my consumption - not as dramatic as last time but I think slowly and surely if I stick with it - DP bless him, wakes me up at 7.00am to take the tablet and today I said

"could I possibly have a fresh glass of water, not the one that's been on the bedside table for three days and has a layer of crud floating on the top of it "

Men eh!!! Can't live with em can't live without em

Talking of which

MIFL xxxx

Oh and Isindie if you go into 'customise' you can highlight your posts in colour so that you can find your place again easily...................x

Bloody Hell just had another bird-gate

Bloody feckin cat

Had to get neighbour round to get it out (still alive)

Cat flap locked you little fucker and if you think you are getting back in the house tonight you can think again - there's a shed out there - USE IT

Thanks Isindie

he is - too lovely for me

I am a very very luck laydee

Thanks for the tips on coping with the work neanderthal, it made me feel better just that you were all here for me.

Hve to go to a very posh dinner on Wednesday somewhere renowned for its wine cellr with my clients (it's their wine cellar). D i let them pour me a glass but just not drink it?

Nope Christie

You say

'I'm driving thanks - can I have a soft drink'

End of

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hi. just a flying visit to say i finally had my day one. today i have not drank hoping i sleep.

Hello, tis me, Mouse.

Just popping in to say that I'm in hospital tomorrow. Not looking forward to the injections, it's not under a GA as I thought, but I'm hoping for sedation. I'm scared that something may go wrong, but I may be a bit of a worry wart?

So sorry not to name check everyone, I'm away to bed as I've got to be in the hospital by 8am.

I'm hoping everything goes as it should as much for a poorly Nemo as for me.

Take care Babes, back soon xxx

Yay Saf, woo hoo! Try not to think too much about how much sleep you'll get cos you know what'll happen if you do... Feel good about going to bed alcohol-free though

Christi, I'm with Silver. Wouldn't trust myself with a glass of wine in front of me. Also it would spoil the evening/meal or whatever, the whole event would feel like some test or battle of your willpower. Can you drive and use that as an excuse? How is DH tonight?

Faire well done on the weight loss. I'm stuffing my face again. Oh well.

Hope everyone's having good evenings.

Sorry Mouse, I missed you then. Good luck for tomorrow, lovey. You're just worrying unnecessarily It's completely understandable though. Come back and tell us how you're doing when you can. Do the injections start to take effect quite quickly? Hope so.

On a less serious/important note, is anyone else watching 'Celebrity' Big Brother? Jeez, tonight's show might just put me off drinking forever... What a mess! I'm embarrassed and disturbed for them.

Just popping in to say goodnight. Don't know where the evening went really .

Mouse best of luck for tomorrow, be a brave mouse, it will soon be behind you.

Silver grab all the good days you can get with your DM cos the rotten ones really are horrid. So sorry she is so poorly with it but hopefully they can make her comfortable. You are doing brilliantly, stick with it x

Well done Saf hope you get a good rest tonight .

well it was hard to get to sleep but i did some relaxation and finally got to sleep only to be woken up by ds at 3am. he said his head and his neck hurt, the neck pain thawed through my sleep and go back to sleep mumbles with meningitis paranoia. gave him some medicine and he instantly said he was better now and we have been up ever since

i guess at least i can say i would have felt worse on three hours sleep if i'd have drank yesterday.

hope everyone else slept well. morning babes.

Hi everyone, thanks for the wine advice, will follow.

mouse good luck today

Speech is going well for Friday.

Things not good with DH. How can it be that things depend on his mood so much! We had such a lovely Saturday night, he was feeling ?normal?. But since then?

He forgot to do loads of stuff yesterday, but went off and did his own thing, didn?t make the bed, didn?t take the stuff out of the freezer I asked him to, didn?t tell nanny what kids should have for dinner so DD1 and DD2 had exactly the same meal twice in a row (I know that?s not the end of the world, but nanny made enough for leftovers for today?s pack lunch, so that?s 3 times in 24 hours of tuna, pasta and sweetcorn for the kids). I had spent a while ironing on Sunday while watching Bridesmaids (hilarious!) and had hung shirts up in spare room so as not to wake DH during his ?slump? on Sunday. Yesterday he moved them, didn?t bother hanging them up, just bunged them at the end of the unmade bed.

I know all these things sounds silly and petty and small but it is not just this ? it?s bigger things too ? forgetting keys, forgetting children to pick up and drop off, all that stuff.

He went quite bouncy yesterday but only in reference to himself. I am so sick of it. I know it is his depression but my life is being so ruined by it. He is meant to have made an appointment with his therapist for the last week but still hasn?t got it sorted. I feel I need to see someone too. Not sure how to pay for it though.

How do I get things better between us? When will I be able to rely on him a little bit? This is too much of a burden, I?m tired and I?m bored of it. I need a holiday.

Cristiane that would try the patience of a saint. Keep posting here and prioritise your needs and your sobriety.

The repeated meals and trashed shirts (after you'd ironed them- I'm cross for you!) are really annoying, but put them in a box marked 'done' and try not to dwell on them.

Look after yourself today. Remember HALT.

SAF you survived a dreadful night, as you say it would have been so much worse with a hangover.

ODAAT

helpyourself thank you

SAF sorry you had a crap night. Imagine how much worse it could have been - if i had been drinking I wouldn't be able to snatch sleep either in the moments when i could. I worry terribly about meningitis too - I had the viral version three years ago, and it was very scary during time they tried to establish whether it was the bacterial kind.

boing!!!

i well remember the 'has got she meningitis'? nights - why are things so much more scary at 2 in the morning? i remember putting on the light and asking dd to look at it and then running glasses over her legs, all she needed was a dose of calpol and a cuddle dosent seem so clear at the time the though does it?

thurso, i have never been for tea at claridges although i have heard its lovely, ,i would wear my new tight waxed black trousers (a nice modern alternative to leather, which can look a bit mutton at my age ), a white silk shirt which i like (it sort of 'wafts' when i walk') and my big vuitton lepoard scarf and a pair of high black wedge heels (i like shoe boots in teh winter) and possibly a nice big handbag in a vibrant colour, top it all off with lovely big gold bangles and earings - hmm, i might just join you now i have my outfit sorted!

Christi forgive me if I'm being a bit dim, but how can your DH be fine and bright and bouncy when he's doing 'his' thing but depressed and forgetful when he has to deal with the dcs or housework, all in the same day . Are you sure he's not pulling a fast one here? Claiming depression to get him out of activities which he doesn't really want to do .

Blimey, I find housework tedious and depressing too sometimes but I don't slope off to bed and leave it all to someone else. I do appreciate that he is genuinely ill and am not mocking him, but you know him best, do you think he's milking it?

Hi Ladies, I've been lurking a long long time and finally feel brave enough to post!

Have battled with the booze for a fair few years now and have empathized with so many of you brave babes. Last year was a disastrous year for me culminating with me being homeless and jobless. All due to the demon drink

Nevertheless, I am DETERMINED to get my life back on track and hope to gain strength from those amazing babes who are embracing a life of sobriety.

I threw away my wine infused crutch on Jan 2nd and have been following you all avidly.

I am determined not to have a year like last year, and that is what is spurring me on.

Thanks for Reading X