The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year, New Start And With A Firm Resolution In Their Hearts.

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Hello, I'm Mouse and I have an ever changing relationship with alcohol.

This is the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a support thread for those who feel their drinking habits are not what they should be, or even those of another.

Sober, drinking or somewhere in between, come take a seat.

And for those who would like to know where this all started, HERE is a link to the threads before this one.

Make THIS year THE year that you change your life, for the better.

Have a Happy New Year, full of memories to treasure, not to forget.

Morning all.

Just to say thank you to everyone before I hop off the bus for a while. I have found all your messages really helpful, and have managed to keep myself sober since the beginning of the New Year. I am now managing to have just the one drink if I fancy it, but that is becoming increasingly infrequent, and I am spending many happy evenings with cups of tea instead. I am sleeping better, and feeling much more calm, so want to go it alone to see how things work out. Mind you, I seem to be eating an awful lot of biscuits , so will probably end up needing slimming advice soon.

I will still lurk back to wave as you pass by, and wish you all well. Just having somewhere to reveal your secret fears to people who understand is a wonderful thing, so thanks to mouse for setting this up. You have helped me more than you will ever know.

Well done MaryW no need to hop off- stay and keep tabs on us posted!

Hi Mary. Well done! And you're managing controlled drinking too! Wow. You sound really calm and happy. Hope you're feeling really proud of yourself. Please hop back on whenever you want

Hello Mary - well done. I'm afraid that I can't take the credit for setting this thread up as such, I just do the admin! The thread stems from a thread that the lovely JWN started nearly 18 months ago and I guess I took on the roll of keeping it going.

I'm so very proud of The Bus and all those who travel in it.

I'm pleased to read your news xx

I have survived! I managed to drive through rush hour traffic, up hills, down dales, and along a very crowded motorway without killing myself, the car, or anybody else! :o

I am now going to have a sit down and a nice cup of tea while I wait for my legs to stop trembling.

Well done Theala.

The only time when I really craved a drink since stopping 2 years ago was last year driving in ice and getting that horrible shaky feeling.

Enjoy your tea!

hi. well done to everyone who is still at the abstinence - we're well past the new years flush now so hopefully the new habits are sticking.

still doing the moderation thing here - i've been under guideline limits for the last two weeks so it's working fine at the minute - going with the massively diluted drinks strategy that works for me so i seem to always have a drink on the go but actually consume very little alcohol.

well done to weight losers as well. i seem to have lost a bit spontaneously over christmas but then gotten stuck again - was torturing myself looking through old pics from a couple of years ago earlier when i was really skinny. would like to lose a stone but not very motivated for starving myself or doing anything drastic and non sustainable so going to try the positive thinking diet

sorry for absence - have been a bit 'off' - new meds have settled down but i just don't feel myself, low level anxiety all the time and struggling with anything social. gone into hermit mode. really feel like just getting away for the weekend to snap myself out of it. anyone know any dog friendly b&bs with nice walks nearby?

love to all x

saf my parents stayed here with their dog a couple of years ago.

Your comment about the photos reminds me of a photographer who says that he gets very frustrated when he takes a beautiful photo of someone, and then they hate how they look. He says he has perfected the technique though - he takes the photos then he doesn't show them to people, but suggests they put them away in a drawer. Ten years later he reminds them to look and they all say " oh didn't I look young / slim / pretty / happy etc".

That looks lovely Venus

Things much better with DH today. We are just about to sit down to steak pie

Went for a swim at lunch and it made me feel so much better

Hi Mary good to hear you are doing well, do keep in touch if you can .

Theala well done on getting out there in the car. Keep doing it and you will get used to it and not find it so daunting. I didn't drive for about two years when I lived in London and I lost all my confidence. Now I'm happy to drive anywhere and take the kids all over the place. I haven't driven abroad yet though, that still frightens me a little.

Saf do you think you need to go back to the GP and just let them know how you feel now the meds have settled. Might be worth checking that they have the right dose for you.

Christi glad you had a better day today .

Isinde Day 3 nearly done and dusted, well done. Have you heard back from the Paris clients yet, did you get the work you were after?

Evening all (doffs cap!)

Marking my place and running too!

So sorry not to be of help to anyone lately, I seem to be grabbing at time, not such a great thing when I advocate just letting children "be" instead of rushing them out to endless classes aka tiger mother!
obviously apologies to all tiger mums

DC2 rang and has decided to change his degree, no discussion, he can "just do maths" and doesn't want another subject to get in his way, has been offered a radio show in the county where he is at uni, and
oops Dh in!!

Hello all

Went to doctor today, unsurprisingly there's nothing seriously wrong with me - just my stomach and bowel fed up of the rubbish I stuck in them over Xmas. So I've got 2 lots of tablets and have to go back in a month.

Day 3 :)

so true with the photos venus. i could so go for looking how i did ten years ago even though at the time i probably thought i was fat and still had weird issues about things i've forgotten about now - silly. by the time i was comfortable in my skin my skin was on it's way out

faire i do need to go to the doctors - have been putting it off but i must make an appointment.

what was ds doing with maths before thurso? has he dropped something he was doing alongside? and what's a 'tiger mum'? i can guess just hadn't heard the term before - think it's safe to say i'm not a tiger mum

may have jinxed myself with posting about how alcohol was fine and i was only ever having one or two a day of late. suddenly got a real guzzle urge earlier and feel really drinky. wrestling with whether to have one last drink or stop. did manage to interrupt myself and have a soft drink before my last one (thank you thread) by reminding myself i could have one later if i really wanted it still. not gone mad but i can feel it itms - the guzzly head or mood or whatever it is that i haven't felt for a while.

Hello, just wanted to say hello again. I am still here and not drinking. Enjoying it and starting to get a bit of a boing I think. Found myself voluntarily going out to play football in the garden at the weekend! Usually I take every opportunity going to sit on the sofa.

Waiting for the weight to start dropping off.. but it never has before on any of the other occasions it's supposed to - stress, breastfeeding etc - so I'll not hold my breath.

A bit humbled to read about the shit some of you are having to deal with. Hats off for dealing with the drinking at the same time, although logically it can only help really I guess, but more daunting I'm sure when you have things to escape from.

boing!! quick in and out, had a very nice evening talking 'wedding', the only decision made was this, the first dance will be to 'my boy lollypop' i love dd but, old son, my daughter is a nutter!

laters babes! XXXX

Thurso if you are like me you won't sleep tonight, because you will be mulling and worrying over that decision. Of course, far away in uni land, your DC will be sleeping like he should have done when he was a baby, because he has made the decision and off-loaded to you!
The radio offer sounds very exciting and he is the one actually doing the course so presumably well placed to make his choice.
I wish you a calm and peaceful night if at all possible. x

Boing! Now, I'm on the train for a trip to London and I never normally feel this bright eyed and bushy tailed with a 4.30 wake up...

Wish me luck for my return journey. Will be ordering tea and cakes I hope...

Morning all,

sorry for the truncated post last night. Dh just walked in the door from playing squash, and I don't like to sit tapping away, when he's just got in. I wouldn't like it if he did it to me!

I am promising myself that on Friday afternoon, I will sit down, have a proper read through, and write a proper post!

Thanks for your thoughts BProud, yes, I had a bizarre lot of dreams last night, but in the end I have to trust that Dc knows what he is doing, and at least he did phone!

Saf Dc was doing a double subject degree, and has decided to do a straight one. I hope the cravings went away for you last night, and that you had a good sleep.

Have to go to work now, love to all
xxxxx

Good luck today Christi. If you get tempted will you be able to come back here instead and talk it through. Would be a shame after all the effort you've put in.

Well, it's the Peak of the Week, happy hump day everyone .

Peak of the week... Good phrase.

Checking in and liking the 'peak of the week' phrase too!

i started on a double honours thurso and quickly switched to just one subject as i loved it and felt at home in it and the other was not 'turning me on' as it were. i think i knew i'd have ended up not paying enough to attention to that one as my heart wasn't in it so it was better to go all in with the subject i loved.

glad you've stopped worrying about it

yes i managed not to have the last drink i was craving last night. i think the guzzly head came on from being really bored but having been tired and poorly a lot of late so not really having much energy or oompf for stimulation and enjoyment (sounds a bit oo-er). the easy option then for a change of scene in your mind is to drink your way to feeling different i reckon. change in a bottle?

peak of the week/hump day/half way home. have a good day everyone.

Good morning babes! Happy Peak of the Week!

And thanks Faire and Helpyourself for the driving support. I've decided that I'm going to try to take a proper drive by myself at least once a week until I get more comfortable with it.

Saf Well done on stopping guzzly head in its tracks. I've tried and failed to do that myself so many times, so I know how damn hard it is. I hope you're proud of yourself.

Onesunny Glad there's nothing seriously wrong. Hopefully a few weeks of not drinking and eating good food will sort it out.

Good news here this morning - DP has been to a specialist about his snoring (which is making me want to kill him keeping me awake nights) and apparently, he doesn't have sleep apnoea, as we had feared, but he does have an infection that will need a small operation to correct. While that doesn't sound like good news, him having a small fixable problem is by far the best outcome when the alternatives are that he has a big unfixable problem, or no problem and I just have to put up with his snoring. :o
So between that and the not drinking, I should be getting back to actual proper sleeps soon enough. I am ridiculously excited about this. :o

Have wonderful sober days everyone!

Love peak of the week! On the home straight now here, it's the evening and I'm on the balcony! Sadly ignoring a pile of work, will get to it at some point tonight.

Bottled some work event last night because I knew I wanted a drink. Will that ever go away?

Have been shredding every day. Not shedding fast enough, grrr.