The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year, New Start And With A Firm Resolution In Their Hearts.

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Hello, I'm Mouse and I have an ever changing relationship with alcohol.

This is the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a support thread for those who feel their drinking habits are not what they should be, or even those of another.

Sober, drinking or somewhere in between, come take a seat.

And for those who would like to know where this all started, HERE is a link to the threads before this one.

Make THIS year THE year that you change your life, for the better.

Have a Happy New Year, full of memories to treasure, not to forget.

Hello all,
Belated Happy New Years all round.
All is well with me, was at my lovely aa group today then had lunch with friends. DH away out to a meeting just now so I'm in the house - have a stinking cold but hey ho- spent years feeling crap every day so not much to moan about really.

My experience tells me that I can't do controlled drinking Mouse, I would get periods where I pulled it all back together and held it there and then the next disaster would happen - constantly felt like I was spinning plates or waiting for the axe to fall (apologies for huge mixture of metaphors). That's why I am completely abstinent ( from drink and everything else mind/mood altering). That's my experience though and everyone is different.

I don't know much about the Sinclair method Silver - my understanding was you would need to always take naltrexone/ have it in your system when you drank or the 'reward' cycle would be reestablished? How would an implant work long term, would you need to get it replaced once it ran out or is the plan that naltrexone is a path to future abstinence? I'd only ever heard of it for opioids until quite recently.

I tried Campari - oh wow! iPad autocorrect! CAMPRAL! Hahaha, but it gave me bad guts - meetings and abstinence a day at a time has been what's worked for me in the end. It gets easier. It used to be my habit to drink at every opportunity and so it seemed like something was missing for the first while, now I have different habits and I've swapped feeling crap and out of control for feeling (mainly) content and ok with things - I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything anymore. In reality when i was drinking I actually missed out massively on just living.

Anyway - ramble over. Happy Monday everyone :)

Hi there, it has been a while but I always follow you ! I'm on day 58 and it thanks to the easyway, it really worked...I was ruining my life because of my drinking and it all stopped thanks to Allen Carr.

Hey enid

It used to be my habit to drink at every opportunity and so it seemed like something was missing for the first while, now I have different habits and I've swapped feeling crap and out of control for feeling (mainly) content and ok with things - I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything anymore. In reality when i was drinking I actually missed out massively on just living.

Totally totally get that. It describes how I feel about my live now.

I think that I get exasperated sometimes, when I know how good live can be for the people on this thread if they would just get the fuck off the merry go round, there are so many people standing at the side watching and hoping that the next time they get off they will stay on the ground with us. And I want to help so much, because I have been on and off the merry go round, and I know which one is better.

That is not to say that I don't think that my stupid head might one day tell me that a little shot might be fun, but I hope that I would speak to people here and in real live, and they would make me see sense .

But today I stand next to the merry go round, hoping that someone will want to get off, and that if I can help when they do I will.

Well done shake that's awesome. How are you feeling about it?? How are your family feeling about it?

Hey Bafana

I was watching those "it gets better" films on YouTube that that project has made for gay teenagers and they were really moving and it struck me that that's what happens at meetings really - someone shares how "it gets better" and passes on a bit of hope. That's what I try and do, because people did it for me and because it keeps me well because it reminds me how bloody hard it is at the start and how different things are now.

The best thing is so far it KEEPS getting better even now :)

It seems bonkers to me now that I was ever reluctant to swap something that made me so miserable(booze) for a much better life(without booze) but it took me a good while to trust what I was seeing around me and believe that that is actually what I would get. I'll just keep sharing my experience cos it's what I've got to offer :)

I'm watching The One show and right after is a programme about 1 month of booze free presenters. Worth a watch? Maybe. The guy who did it for the one show put weight on but lowered his blood pressure and I actually thought he looked much better.

The government/doctors are now saying 2 days off the sauce per week and reduce the binging and we'll be fine. I wonder.

Hello Enid - I'm a huge believer in doing what works for YOU. Whatever that may be; reducing slowly, stopping for a month, a week, a year...... you're in control.

Loving the 'I tried Campari'

I guess I hit a raw nerve.

Apologises if I've been offensive.

shake that is absolutely brilliant! I was just wondering how you were getting on, you must have read my mind .

Some tough talking on the bus this evening - some might find it confrontational but for others it will be a motivation. Horses for courses and all that. All we want to do is help each other and ourselves. Sometimes we do need to take a step back, off the bus, for whatever reasons and that's alright, of course it is.

This is the one place where I feel I can freely express myself and no-one will judge me but sometimes I find it hard to put into words what I really mean. Hence the rambling . So I apologise if I offend anyone, I don't mean to.

Silver I am a middle child too and did try to get my parents' approval through being a very well behaved, good girl like you.

I've been working on a jigsaw puzzle over the last couple of weeks, just putting a few pieces in here and there. It's quite difficult and I was doing so well with it until this evening I discovered that the cat has peed in the box all over the remaining pieces !! Poor thing was caught short and I suppose it was the next best thing to a litter tray .

Oh, and today I am happy to say I am not drinking .

And I think I possibly overdo the smileys

I'm feeling great thank you, as I'm typing I'm sat next a box of 12 bottle of wines which has been offered to us by my dh's job - completely untouched.

I have been out a lot and I haven't been tempted at all and all my friends have accepted the new me. I had a liver function test and it came back normal and I'm really pleased about it as I was really worried.

I really highly recommend this method for the people who wants to stop drinking completely. I have accepted that I could never be reasonnable when I'm around alcohol so it had to go for good.

Fairenuff - that's sounds like one of those "not even" stories - no matter what happens I don't pick up a drink not even when the cat pisses on my jigsaw!

:o

So, there we have it. 2 days off the sauce a week is all you need to cure yourself from illnesses linked to substance/alcohol abuse.

How are we all this evening? It's very quiet on here, have we heard from any of the newer posters today?

Hello all

I'm tired (sleeping quite badly) but had a good day at work today. I didn't feel anywhere near as anxious, and got loads done.

I'm just checking in briefly before tackling the last bits of my UCAS application - I've been procrastinating over the statement.

I hope everyone is okay? Silver I hope you come back.

I am still feeling awful. Children seem to be a bit better but DH and I have been in bed most if the day. Thank God it was a Monday and our nanny came. She is a lifesaver.

Can hardly think of eating, let alone drinking!

silver pm me babe. its ok to be pissed off. Shout at me, I'm here.
Where are all our lovely new babes? Better not have been sneaking off down the pub or we'll send jesus after you in her leopardskin heels
zara onesunny fussyfin baubley - how are you all doing?

Sorry, I always seem to come on to this thread when I haven't got a lot of time to post much or "speak" to everyone individually but I just wanted to say how much I enjoy reading about the great things about being sober!

Sometimes I go on the giving up smoking threads and offer my words of encouragement - namely life IS BETTER without cigarettes, absolutely guaranteed - and hope that they are getting through to some of the quitters who are battling with their addiction at that moment.

One of the many problems with addiction, of course, is that the addict will only hear what they want to hear, if they hear anything at all.

I have two dear friends in my rl who I am absolutely certain are heavily dependent alcoholics drinking at a level which is affecting every aspect of their lives. I can't say anything, though, can I?

Its Monday so back to day 1 for me (am a Monday to Wednesday non-drinker and am committed to increasing my non-drinking days this year. I want to say 4 days a week but am not sure I can rely on myself to do this so am being rather cowardly and not stating that as a goal).

Last week I was booze-free from Sunday through to Friday. I had one bottle of red wine and one glass of port over the weekend.

Well done Hat - sound like you are feeling better about your drinking habits and not letting those who drink around you change your resolve.

Nope, an addict is an addict in any guise.

I'm going to say goodnight Babes.

My Boots sleeping bath box is calling me. It has all sorts of fab potions in it, DH got it for me. So the plan is to use the products and then get straight into bed. Nemo might well have other ideas........ he seems to be cutting a tooth and has such a sore bottom

Stay safe Babes, night night xxxx

Yo demented - I'm up there ^^ :)

Ta da all, must press on. I'm nearly done then it's time for some trashy telly.

Evening all.

Gosh it's been busy today...hope everyone is feeling calm and in control this evening. There are some brilliant success stories on here at the moment. Well done everyone and please keep reminding us how wonderful it is being sober (smile]

MsBojo and Fussy and anyone else who may be back to Day 1 and feeling like they may never crack this...remember that all these people who have been sober for weeks, months, even years, all had a Day 1 where they (probably) felt just as crap and hopeless as you may do now. WE can do this too . Get me sounding all positive when I'm only on Day 8 myself!

Silver I hope you hop back on the bus. People are only trying to help when they post to/about any of us. Whether or not we find it helpful or not is a different matter but I do believe that every single post I have ever read on this thread has actually been written with good intentions. Good luck with whatever you decide to do though.

Mouse hope you and Nemo sleep well. How lovely of your DH to get you all that lovely stuff to help you sleep. Do you know what the ONE present my DH got me for Christmas was?? Anti-wrinkle cream. And no I didn't ask for it...

Day 9 done and dusted! Weighed myself this evening and have lost 3lbs in the last week . . Happy Days:)
still need to kick the fags into touch, someday soon hopefully , been saying that for years.
Silver, look after yourself, I will miss you on the thread!
How has Day 9 been for you Isndie?

Hey Isindie, we can do it! Double figures tomorrow . .

hi just popping on to say alive and fine.

way too behind to catch up. hope everyone is ok. quick scan up looks like there's been upset but don't know what's going on. just hope all involved are ok.

isinde well done! That is fabulous. Hope you are feeling proud of yourself. And dp must be pleased too

Hello everyone else. Still lots of stomach cramps but ate a small plate of pasta and no thought of booze but today doesn't count really- no one could face it in this state!