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My condoms in his wallet.

33 replies

Stayinsidethelines · 17/12/2011 22:29

That's it. Found condoms in his wallet. Our condoms. Usually kept beneath the matress. Where the rest of them are! Oh... And... Lying about money and naked pic of himself on computer. That are obviously sent to someone else! What do I do?

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Bluebelle38 · 17/12/2011 22:48

Ask him? Why would you do anything less?

colditz · 17/12/2011 22:50

DON'T ask him, because he is quite clearly looking to have sex with other people. Just ask him to leave.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 17/12/2011 22:52

Ask him? Ask him what? You know all you need to know. Tell him to move out. Be strong x

suburbophobe · 17/12/2011 22:58

With Chipping here.

Don't waste no more time on these f*ckwits!

Welcome to the club............

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 17/12/2011 23:01

What explanation do you think is most likely? Act assuming that to be the case, because you won't be wrong.

mummakaz · 17/12/2011 23:01

Personally if my DH done that he would be out but ultimately it's down to you to decide.

As others have said he is either looking to have sex or has had sex with someone else and that's a deal breaker for me. Kick his arse out

OldeChestnut · 17/12/2011 23:01

DON'T ask him, because he is quite clearly looking to have sex with other people. Just ask him to leave.

pmsl!!

CharliesMummyMeg · 17/12/2011 23:02

Ask him to explain himself. Everyone deserves the truth even if you know it already chick

Chin up

Stayinsidethelines · 17/12/2011 23:02

Thing is I'm not even upset it's probably over. Think I have instantly stopped loving or caring about him. Its like I don't even care. Just want it over. I feel nothing about whole situation. Moving forward and all that .

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Bohica · 17/12/2011 23:03

How did you find them?

TheTruthNothingButTheTruth · 17/12/2011 23:04

Better ask him first before you kick him out. Some men use condoms for wanking.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 17/12/2011 23:08

Game over

Tell him to leave, and take it from there

colditz · 17/12/2011 23:09

And I suppose that the naked pictures of himself on the computer, and missing money, that's all for wanking too? And the fact that the condoms are in his wallet merely means that he prefers to wank out of the house?

Stayinsidethelines · 17/12/2011 23:10

Found them a month ago while looking for parking change. Been keeping an eye on them. So next step obviously is to check emails and money. He's hiding money and has rude emails. It feels like I'm not bothered. Get Christmas done and start new years afresh?

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lisad123 · 17/12/2011 23:11

I don't know if there is more of a back story to this, BUT do on the time put condoms elsewhere, of going away or hoping to jump dh elsewhere in the house beside our bedroom Grin

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 17/12/2011 23:11

Fuck that- kick him out now. Why spend Christmas pretending?

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 17/12/2011 23:13

I'm not sure I get your post, Lisa, but do you also post naked pictures for strangers online without mentioning it to 'spice it up'?

suburbophobe · 17/12/2011 23:15

Yea, really, why spend Xmas cleaning and cooking for him?

You are so much better than to deserve that!

Stayinsidethelines · 17/12/2011 23:16

I'm not bothered about having him here for Christmas. No emotions either way from me. I had terrible childhood so more bothered about it becoming a sad situation for kids. Am firm believer in not pretending! Kids always notice!

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MyChildDoesntNeedSleepAtXmas · 17/12/2011 23:16

lisacould you say that in English now please?

EnjoyResponsiblyIfSleighFlying · 17/12/2011 23:19

Remove condoms from wallet.

(Resist childish urge to stick pins in them and replace.)

Replace condoms with note bearing map to place condoms should be.

Have his bag packed and ready.

Make appointment to have hair done, nails done, buy new dress and move on.

Stayinsidethelines · 17/12/2011 23:19

My Christmas won't be spent cooking and cleaning for him. Lots of peoe coming that I love and want to spend time with. Including his people. He is not foremost in my mind.

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lisad123 · 17/12/2011 23:19

Sorry stupid iPhone Blush
Was just saying I sometimes put condoms in purse or pocket if going away or hoping to jump dh elsewhere in the house. Blush

I dont have any naked pics of me, wouldn't inflict that on anyone!!
Did he post pics online??

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 17/12/2011 23:19

You've got your head screwed on, my love. Thank goodness. You'll be ok, but I'm sure it will fucking hurt like hell at some point. But you WILL be alright- much quicker than the people who put up with this shit that post so often.

Stayinsidethelines · 17/12/2011 23:20

Oh... I meant people! Honestly

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