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True love, Romance, how did your dh propose to you?

122 replies

Helenemjay · 09/01/2006 16:34

Do these things exist? did you get the romantic proposal you dreamed off? or did you settle for a less romantic one???

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Feistybird · 09/01/2006 16:35

In Paris and I didn't deserve it as I said thanks for asking but do you mind if we don't - have never wanted to marry and god bless him, we're still together 16 years later!

Merlin · 09/01/2006 16:36

Mine was on a plane enroute to New York! Had an inkling before boarding cos he was being very cagey about 'something' in his pocket! I did forewarn him not to totally embarass me and get down in one knee in the aisle .......

MaloryTowers · 09/01/2006 16:36

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mummytosteven · 09/01/2006 16:39

I proposed to him on Feb 29 2000 (otherwise I think I'ld still be waiting!!!!)

munz · 09/01/2006 16:39

erm well I had a clal sayin if u come up we'll get together, moved up in his bed rom and he said so how about it then sat on a table and gave me a ring! not a huge diamond but a nice solitare one, think it was about £300 ring was perfect fit as well

blueteddy · 09/01/2006 16:39

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Rhubarb · 09/01/2006 16:40

He suggested he buy me a ring for Christmas after we'd been going out for 3 months, I said no as I don't like jewellry. Then a year later I proposed and he said no! A month after we moved in together I said how about we go into town and buy that engagement ring, he said ok, then I changed my mind, then I changed it back again. We bought the ring and celebrated with a pint and a burger.

Gizmo · 09/01/2006 16:46

Day three of skiing holiday: I am bruised, with black eye, knackered, a bit drunk and slightly tearful that I can't bloody ski and I don't know what I'm doing here and I don't know any of the people we're with and they can all bloody ski and I HATE IT. Drunken giggling DH drags me out from nice warm restaurant up a bloody mountain in THE FREEZING EFFING COLD AND DARK and I'm just wearing walking boots and the snow comes in over my ankles and I can't see what I'm doing because it's too dark (there's just enough light to reveal the warning - steep fall tapes very close to where we are).

Then he drops to his knees giggling like a loon and I think 'excellent, he's dead drunk and I shall leave him to sleep him off in the snow - I'm sure when they find his frozen body in the morning it won't be manslaughter but a verdict of reasonable self-defence when they hear my sorry story'.

And he says 'will you marry me?'

That's how I found out what it is like to truely want to murder someone you love very much. I look upon it now as useful preparation for married life

Miaou · 09/01/2006 16:52

I proposed to dh apparently. I remember nothing about it! I wasn't even drunk either!!! Neither of us are very romantic though. I have a vague feeling we were walking down from our student house to the university but I could be wrong

We had been seeing each other for about three days at the time though - so does that count as romantic? (or just plain mad?)

NotActuallyAMum · 09/01/2006 16:56

My friends DP had been working away for quite a while (he's self-employed) and on his return said "Do you fancy getting married? Cos if we get married I'll pay less tax on the money I earned abroad" AND she said yes!! I know what I'd have told him.....

They're divorced now tho

alexsmum · 09/01/2006 17:06

it was valentines day and we had gone 'up west' (as they say in eastenders) for the day and as we were really skint we had taken a picnic lunch with us - cheese rolls and a bottle of fizz!
we were in trafalgar square in front of the fountain and he whipped a rose out of the rucksack and said will you marry me?
i said yes without hesitation among much giggling and tears! we had a celebratory lunch of our cheese rolls and plastic cups of fizz sitting on the embankment and we got a street sweeper to take our photo! Then we went to the shops and dh bought me a plastic ring with fake diamonds in make do until we could afford a real ring!
it was really romantic!

alicatsg · 09/01/2006 17:07

First time in the student union car park at throwing out (up) time on a Friday night at top of his voice in front of all our friends. I chose to ignore him that time. Second time in the supermarket, again with the stony look of ignoringness and third time he got out of bed at 4am turned on the lights, got on one knee and proposed and said he wouldn't let me go back to sleep till I answered.

I know, I know. The kind of proposal teenage girls dream of. Still we've been married 11 years so he must be doing something right!

fastasleep · 09/01/2006 17:09

Mine was quite boring, sat on the sofa one evening I said nonchalantly 'hmm I really love you, do you reckon we should get married..' DH's reply in an equal tone 'Arright then..' next weekend we bought the wedding rings lol

Hulababy · 09/01/2006 17:11

DH proposed on Christmas Day. He had gott the ring and it was all wrapped up. I unwrapped it first - as DH desperately wanted me too. I had no idea. As soon as it was opened, he asked me to marry him - no one knee or anything though. We were sat round the tree, in PJs drinking champagne. Was nice though We had been together for 6 years, and had been living together for 3 months (after finishing uni) at the time. The ring was lovely - a perfect diamond solitaire, costing him however much of his salary at the time.

His mum had actually helped choose it out, and they had found my ring size out previously. MIL had been showing me some old jewelry belonging to her mum - and I'd tried some rings on. Had no idea at the time the purpose of that activity, other than me being curious!

Hadalifeonce · 09/01/2006 17:15

I was cradled in his arms in the Indian Ocean off the cost of Zanzibar, when he asked if I'd be prepared to spend the rest of my life with him and marry him. After questioning his sanity, said 'Yes yes yes' then had to wait about 15 mins for someone to appear to photograph the moment. He apparently had told everyone he knew he was going to propose, I didn't have a clue!

jac34 · 09/01/2006 17:27

On a sailing boat in a bay in Tenerife.
It wasn't planned we had only known each other for 3 months.I said yes and have never regretted it. We didn't get married straight away though we lived together for another 18 months.
He proposed in the August but we didn't officially get engaged till the March,we went away for a weekend to Bath and stayed in a lovely Georgian hotel.
However, no ring...I designed my own and the shop didn't have it back in time for the romantic weekend.

serenity · 09/01/2006 17:30

After 10.5 years of listening to his diatribes against marriage and his rants on how he was never going to given in to parental pressure (his, not mine) I was highly amused when he proposed. He swears it had nothing to do with the fact I was pregnant and his parents were starting to freak (he's Cypriot and they were quite old fashioned about some things!) Iirc I laughed heartily and called him a big wuss before saying yes. Very romantically I was driving us back to his parents (where we were living) in my red Mini when he casually threw over 'I think we should get married, don't you?'

He is not a romantic!

MeerkatsUnite · 09/01/2006 17:35

DH proposed to me on the observation deck of the Empire State Building in New York. He said to me beforehand, "You know I really love you don't you?". Then he got down on one knee. My "yes" was accompanied by much cheering and clapping from onlookers.

Clayhead · 09/01/2006 17:39

He didn't and I didn't either. Just decided to get married somehow, not sure when or where!

shellybelly · 09/01/2006 17:45

in the back garden, i had a fag in one hand glass on wine in the other and was wearing an awful grey coat, knew it was coming at some point coz i had chosen the ring, definitely a proposal to remember and we laugh about it now

foundintranslation · 09/01/2006 18:01

I proposed on the eve of my 23rd birthday. It was rather of the unromantic why-don't-we-do-it sort, and not planned at all. But it was wonderful, as was announcing the engagement at my birthday dinner. We'd been together 2 years. I'm sure he would have proposed at some point, but I just did it first!
We've been having a bit of a rough time lately, with hurt and frustration on both sides, and remembering things like this helps.

Radley · 09/01/2006 18:02

We went out one night, got pissed with the lads and we decided whilst drinking a bottle of bubbly on our patio in the early hours of the morning.

We were married 7 weeks later.

meggmoo · 09/01/2006 18:07

In bed.
He came home from work really late one day, I was dozing in bed listening to music. I used to have a ring which I wore on my engagement/wedding finger and he laughed that I left it all over the house and could never find it.

He used to come to me and slip it on my finger. This night he did the same and I knew instantly as it was a perfect fit (the other was a little loose)

I leapt out of the bed screaming "turn on the light, turn on the light let me see it!"

I won't tell you what his reply was!

Medea · 09/01/2006 18:26

I never got a proposal at all. . .we just sort of decided and announced it to our families (ring came later; I picked it out b/c dh wanted it that way) and tho dh has turned out to be an exceptionally good husband in most ways and, even though I'm not generally sentimental, I've never really gotten over the absence of a proposal. . .and 9 yrs on (nearly) I still get a bit irritated when I think about it.

Tortington · 09/01/2006 18:34

one knee, middle of the street.