True love, Romance, how did your dh propose to you?

[Helenemjay]

Do these things exist? did you get the romantic proposal you dreamed off? or did you settle for a less romantic one???

ours was in St Lucia, on the end of a pier which was underlit so you could see all the fishes swimming around. Fab!

loving all these - sophable's is especially amazing

i'd met dh in feb, started going out in march and was pregnant in april [slapper emoticon]. I rang dh to tell him and he was chuffed and asked me to marry him pretty much straight away. i couldn't deal with it at the time, but a few months later after I'd moved in we were planning a holiday in France, standing in the kitchen, and he said 'why don't we make it a honeymoon'. he let me have the ring i wanted and the wedding i wanted and to me that was v romantic.

I suppose I should have known my life with DH wasn't going to be wine and roses when he proposed - "Well I'm not having chilfren with you unless we are married, why don't you sort it out" - no engagement ring.

Referring back to a much earlier ring thread, no eternity ring either, despite 2 gorgeous dd's.

And in the 10 years since, he has bought/sent me flowers twice. Firstly when we had a massive humungus earth shaking row, and secondly last week when he went to tescos with the girls and the eldest said "Mummy likes those flowers". Bless her, but they died in 3 days of course.

FFS when I had the girls even my grasping flinty hearted swines of employers sent huge bouquets.

He doesn't see the point in romance once you are together - and that is a straight quote. so I'm re the postings here. Mind you, I have retaliated by saying I don't see the point in sex once you have children

Chilfren s/be children of course

My DP proposed to me about 8 or 9 years ago (still not married - have finally pinned him down to this November ).

He (said he) planned a really romantic proposal. He bought the ring - a beautiful solitaire, and was going to wrap it and give it to me Christmas day and propose once id opened it.

Unfortunately, to pluck up some dutch courage, on Christmas Eve he visited his mate, they drank a litre of scotch together during lunchtime, and he came over to me at my parents house. Drunk as a skunk with a flashing bobbled santa hat on he forgot his plan and sat my dad down and slurred something along the lines of asking my dad for my hand. (in front of me and my mum).

To try and save his embarrassment i jumped up and said yes but he drunkenly insisted on finishing his speech! .

Anyway, he was so drunk he barely remembers it - or Christmas day for that matter, and was very disappointed that he didnt wait until Christmas day as he'd planned.

Never actually got a proposal, more of a "why don't we buy you a ring for Christmas and call it and engagement ring - on the understanding it won't happen for at least 5-10 years?".

This was while we were in the Dominican Republic and the jewellery was cheap............

I agreed but have since made him promise that wehn we actually do tie the knot (some point after this baby is born) he asks me properly.......and he hates any mention of the 'proposal' as it was so rubbish. Bless him

It was June, we played Scrabble, he was really nervous (which was good, 'cause he wasn't concentrating on the game and i won) then...'why did you turn the fire on, it's summer?' '...oh, because it's cozy' then while we were watching the movie Dave he suddenly was on one knee in front of me with a little box. I'll always love that movie!

he walked past me at work and said i love you i said love you too. then he walked past the other way and said 'do you wanna get married then? how about august?' oh the romance.....

This thread is so uplifting

Wonder if would work if I print it out and "forget" to hide it from DP ?

When we decided to have a baby, he said he wanted to get married. I was really not keen having been divorced once already. I cannot emphasise how much I did not want to get married. If I were a man and dh a woman he'd have been one of those women always complaining that their dp won't marry them, but as a man he just accepted that I had my own issues with marriage but still loved (and still do) him. He loved me enough not to push and to accept me as I am without wanting to change me - Don't you just love men sometimes !!

Once I was pregnant dp (as he was then) was worried about his lack of rights as a father without marriage and in all fairness I agreed with him so married him to give him legal rights to his son.

Anyway no romantic story here I'm afraid. I've become really suspicious of romance (after being addicted to it in my twenties and early thirties). Now I don't do romance - I just try and be honest and have an equal partnership with dh and I get ten times more satisfaction from that than I had from any 'romantic' gesture in the past.

I always joke that we did things completely the reverse to what is the 'normal way' of doing things - i.e. pregnant, honeymoon, wedding

When we decided to have a baby, he said he wanted to get married. I was really not keen having been divorced once already. I cannot emphasise how much I did not want to get married. If I were a man and dh a woman he'd have been one of those women always complaining that their dp won't marry them, but as a man he just accepted that I had my own issues with marriage but still loved (and still do) him. He loved me enough not to push and to accept me as I am without wanting to change me - Don't you just love men sometimes !!

Once I was pregnant dp (as he was then) was worried about his lack of rights as a father without marriage and in all fairness I agreed with him so married him to give him legal rights to his son.

Anyway no romantic story here I'm afraid. I've become really suspicious of romance (after being addicted to it in my twenties and early thirties). Now I don't do romance - I just try and be honest and have an equal partnership with dh and I get ten times more satisfaction from that than I had from any 'romantic' gesture in the past.

I always joke that we did things completely the reverse to what is the 'normal way' of doing things - i.e. pregnant, honeymoon, wedding

Yes these things do exist. DH wanted to organise it all and suprise me. Took me ring shopping 6/8 mths before just to get an idea of my taste and then nothing more was said or mentioned.

Then while we were on holiday in Cyrpus (with 2 other families) we had a night out together and booked a sunset cruise - we snuck up onto the roof of the cabin and as the sun went down he went down on one knee and propsed .

Sigh!! very romatic and then went back to the villa to tell everyone. They'd wondered and i was clueless.

He did manage to drop the ring twice while on the boat and nearly lost it over the side once - all of which I missed, all because I'd suggested he wore a different pair of trousers that didn't have zips on the pockets. So I nearly scuppered my own proposal.

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Being a hopeless romantic and addicted to all weepy romantic films, my partner obviously knew me well when he proposed. I proposed first of all and he said no!

He later proposed to me and I said no, as I was still hurt at him saying no to me. I then said yes as I did want to get married and really loved him and could see he was hurt by me saying no. He explained that he has said no to me as he had always dreamed of proposing to 'the one', I told him that I had always dreamed of a romantic proposal.

We went ring shopping and after weeks of searching found my ideal ring, which needed resizing. When he went to pick it up, he dressed up as richard gere out of an officer and a gentleman (One of my favourite films with my fantasy scenerio) and got down on one knee with a bottle of champagne in one hand and my ring in the other. I cried and he cried!

After now doing things the wrong way round and having our daughter (according to MIL) we marry this October with our daughter as our bridemaid.

How cheesy!!

My DH and I got engaged TWICE!! The first time, I was 17 and he was 19 and he took to me to Dieppe for the day - after dealing with the massive nose bleed he had in the middle of a museum - he got down on one knee and proposed to me on a bridge by a river with little baby ducklings quacking away and the lovely breeze blowing on a nice summer's day - Very romantic - Ahhhhh!! We chose the ring together - a blue topaz ofset with 2 diamonds, which at the time, cost over a month's wages (Bless- holiday job in Sainsburys!!)

Then all hell broke loose and my mother decided that I could either be engaged or get out of her house - Too young, rah!!!! So as it was my 'A' Level year we decided to call the enagagment off - Boo!!

Then in my first year at Uni, I was 18 and he was 20 and having a really crappy tough time on his teacher training course - I was trying to be as supportive as I possibly could and gave some people that were hasling him a piece of my mind in the Student Union Bar. walking out of the bar into the frosty November air, he turned to me (while standing in the middle of a puddle) and asked me to marry him - in the middle of a car park in Bognor Regis!!! It was MUCH more romantic and I said "yes" (again) and he realised he had left the ring at home - Whoops!

We married a year a half later when I was 20 and he was 22 and have now been Mr and Mrs for 3 and a half years and already have two gorgeous DD's!!

We got together when I was 15 and he was 17 btw - Bless - Childhood Sweethearts - I have been DH's only girlfriend - What a cutie!!

In Italy.

In a castle.

Overlooking the lake.

In the moonlight.

Very romantic.

Chose my own ring a week later.

we had been dating for 10 years and one sunday went to sunday lunch at the bosses house she and dh had it all planned her daughter and I set the table all nice (flowers and candles)after all it was sunday lunch then when all seated and ready to eat the boss asked dh to pass the salt in the draw of the welsh dresser ehind him next thing I knew he was on one knee with a rose ring box in hand very long waited, unexpected & romantic

Ooooooooooh, this is a lovely thread - I've got warm fuzzy's!!

Mine is very cheesy !!
DH and I were 15,(been going out seriously since 14, but on/off from 12) we had got the bus to Gloucester (ooh romantic)to buy clothes.
I was eyeing up rings in a jewellers which was closing down and everything was 1/2 price.
Dh said lets get one now, so we went in all giggling, chose one which was £200 reduced from £500, spent ALL our clothes money our mums had given us plus £100 of his paper round money on it.
He then said I couldn't have it it took it off me !!
Bought some lunch and sat down on the green infront of Gloucester catherdral to eat it, and he got down on one knee and said I love you, please marry me, I said yes and we hugged or about an hour !!
We told out families that afternoon and said we would get married in the millenium ( 6 years away). We did get married in 2000, and have 3 children now, I love him more every year

Ooooh- mummyvicky - that is lovely!! Thank you for sharing with us!!

On my 25th birthday at a restaurant with all the family. I went to the loo and when sat back down there was a ring box in front of me i opened it and in side was a piece of paper saying 'marry me', i couldn't stop crying neither could his dad. I was 8 months pregnant at the time.
We are getting married 7/07/07.

It was my first Christmas without dd1 (she was spending it with her father) so he had taken me away to Dubai so I wouldn't have to experience "tradtional" Xmas without her.

He booked me into the spa for a massage on Boxing Day and (unbeknownst to me) whilst I was there, raced in a taxi to the gold souk and raced back again before I got out. I was very suspicious as I had the feeling he was up to something, so checked in the safe and noticed his credit card had gone.

That evening we were getting ready to go to dinner and I could hear all this rustling paper and sellotape in the bathroom. I asked him what he was doing and he said he was wrapping a small gift for me. I was convinced it was a ring so when he came out of the bathroom with a flat square box about 7" each side, I burst into tears (I'd got myself so worked up waiting for the proposal!). He insisted I open it and inside was a beautiful white gold and diamond necklace that I'd admired a couple of days previously, and a note saying "in lieu of a ring - will you marry me?"

I said yes of course and we bought the engagement ring in Dubai airport on the way home!