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True love, Romance, how did your dh propose to you?

122 replies

Helenemjay · 09/01/2006 16:34

Do these things exist? did you get the romantic proposal you dreamed off? or did you settle for a less romantic one???

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wilbur · 10/01/2006 11:20

Love all these stories, really making me .

bosscat · 10/01/2006 11:25

Mine won't it is really unromantic. we were sitting on the floor of his new flat as there was no furniture. We were eating pizza and I told him I thought I might be pregnant. He said "I think we had better get married then" and I said "don't be silly you don't get married for that nowadays". I wasn't pg but he said that actually he did want to get married and went on about it for about 6 months finally giving me an ultimatum and I said yes. told you it was seriously unromantic!

majormoo · 10/01/2006 13:16

Had been in New York with work for a few weeks, and he was waiting at Heathrow, with a sign saying 'will you marry me'.

Frizbetheexpansionset · 10/01/2006 13:17

On bended knee on New Years Eve, in front of all our friends

NorfolkTurkey · 10/01/2006 13:22

In the pub and he sends me a text message. Thing was that I was sitting next to him at the time so I responded by text as well! Who said that romance is dead!!

Lasvegas · 10/01/2006 13:32

At my place (six weeks after meeting). He said I saw a lovely ring today (I thought he meant as Christmas present) and said I hope it isn't from Tiffany as their stuff is tacky. He was a bit put out and replied actually it was in Cartier and cost £3,000 so no it wasn't tacky! A couple of hours later he said 'You do know that I am going to marry you don't you' I replied 'You do know that I'm only going to see you three times a week don't you. The next day he asked what colour stones and how many. It took me about 6 months to make up my mind about the ring I wanted and we bought it together one lunch time.

For our wedding last month he bought me a Tiffany necklace and made a point of saying I know you don't like their stuff but they have a shop next to the office!

gladbag · 10/01/2006 13:48

I phoned then dp at work to see if he'd heard anything about a possible job relocation (he was in the forces, I was at home with baby).
He said yes, it had been confirmed, we would have to move 200 miles away in about 2 months time, and no, we wouldn't have time to sell the house, and no we wouldn't be given an MOD house in the new place unless we were married, and no we couldn't afford mortgage and rent, so could I phone the registry office and book us in asap.....

I asked if that was officially his marriage proposal, and he said, well yes, he supposed it was.....

How's that for romance

missd · 10/01/2006 13:55

I used to be quite jealous of all the lovely romantic proposals but at least I think mine is unique.

We'd been going out for 5 years, living together for 3. DH had been playing football and had been to the pub. For some strange reason I'd agreed to pick him up from the pub. On the way home he wanted a kebab - obviously!!. He then told ne about the conversation the lads had had. Apparantley they had all been going on about needing a good do to go to and had been egging him on about marrying me. So there in a Kebab shop in Streatham, slightly sweaty and smelly he says to me......... wait for it ........
I would f%&*ing marry you, you know!!

We got married 6 months later and have 2 dd's

mamandelion · 10/01/2006 15:40

Best one I've heard is about the guy who planned the romantic, fireside proposal - just him, his girlfriend and the dog. After a romantic dinner, he knelt down and asked her to marry him, to which she replied "shit the dog's on fire!". and it was - it's tail had gone into the fire and it was burning! what a great answer! the dog was ok and she said yes finally.

lapsedrunner · 10/01/2006 17:12

Over the phone from Saudi Arabia! That being said he had just started a new Job there. Definitely a case of "absence makes the heart grow fonder".

Art · 10/01/2006 17:21

We were having a big argument, and I was in the middle of a huge rant, when dh suddenly got down on one knee and asked me!!

petunia · 10/01/2006 17:22

I knew he was going to ask but it was still nice. We went to York for the Easter weekend (can't believe it's 11 years ago now!) and went for a Greek meal the Saturday evening. Afterwards he proposed on one of the nice bridges over the river.

puddingandpie · 10/01/2006 18:02

Boy did i miss the boat or what all these romantic proposals................... mine was "If i asked you to marry me, would you say yes?" over the phone from England. everytime we are back at his parents place we drive past the proposal phone box!?! Ring is gorgeous picked it myself in antique shop.

Auntymandy · 10/01/2006 18:30

Dh asked me by writing it in crayon on a table cloth whilst we were out for a meal!!!

Thell · 10/01/2006 18:50

We were on holiday in Greece. I woke up one morning feeling a bit delicate as I'd had a bad dream, and cuddled up to DH.
I explained I'd had a dream that I was pregnant, and no-one was happy about it.
He frowned and said,'Don't you want children?'
I said, 'Yes, but I'd like to do things in the right order - know I've met the right man, get married and have a family.'
He grinned at me and said, 'Shall we get married then?!'

We went shopping for a ring in the local market town whilst on our sightseeing day trip, and he proposed to me 'properly' on the beach at sunset!

(I forget how lovely it all was until I tell someone else,...)

justadad · 10/01/2006 19:24

I'll give my version of events and see if DW contradicts me!

Having been together since the age of 18 and survived being apart at different Unis, we were both post-grad students living with our own parents respectively. The thought struck me one night that this was frankly a silly arrangement and that we'd get married and then live together. So I purchased a ring with what student grant I could scrape together and borrowed my parents car to go round and pop the question. The ring was presented (in the kitchen!) as "a little something to celebrate the end of teaching practice" - but taken in the correct vein. Sadly my folks needed the car back in about an hour so I had to hot foot it out of there again. We got the ring re-sized the following day as it wasn't quite right.

In retrospect I'd have tried to plan it more "romantically", but I was so excited by the prospect of being engaged that I just had to get there as soon as possible.
18 mo later we got married (10.5 yrs ago!) and now have DD 2.5 and DS 0.5

dazedandconfusedmum · 10/01/2006 19:31

No romance at all. He just kept asking and asking until I gave in and said yes. He then tried to bokk it for the following year and I said no. Then I fell pregnant the folling year year and his second comment after finding out was that at least we can get married this year now (the first reaction was oh my god)!!

None of it is romantic BUT the wedding was, and we have now been happily married for nearly 7 years with 4 DS and a nice home.

So who cares about a romantic proposal it the rest that matters!!

Oh and the ring cost about £100 but he said he made up for it by buying the house, the cars and working hard every day so that I don't have to!!

slug · 10/01/2006 19:53

No real proposal. We knew if I got pregnant we would have to get married in order for the baby to have a British passport. So in effect the decision to have a baby was the same as the decision to get married. The first time he actually articulated it as something definite was when we were driving back from my sister's wedding (she got married on 6 days notice for the same reason) when he suddenly announced, 'Well when WE get married we're doing it at the Trafalgar Tavern' Which we did, about a year later, 7 months pregnant. Bless the Home Office, it's had a hand in 3 of my sibling's marriages.

On a more romantic note, he designed the ring himself and had it made by an independant jeweller.

Kathlean · 10/01/2006 20:23

Fantastic just mailed this thread to DP. Do you think he will get the hint? (-:

kate100 · 10/01/2006 20:26

This thread has really made me smile
Poor DH had to have several attempts at proposing to me, we went to my favourite restaurant and I was sick between the main course and dessert so we had to go home and go to bed ill. Then we went away for the weekend adn he wanted to propose at dinner but the tables were very close together and he didn't want anyone tp hear. So in the smallest, oldest lift in the world (literally about the sixe of a box), he blurts out, 'I've been trying to ask you to marry me all night', so he tried to get down on one knee and couldn't. SO he got down on one knee in the pouring rain in a field full of cows. I chose my own ring the next day, he said he couldn't face the responsibilty of choosing something I'd have to wear for the rest of my life, he needn't have worried, I lost it in the garden

tangerinecath · 10/01/2006 21:38

Mine's really unromantic... it was my birthday, the first one that dh (then dp) and I had spent together as a couple and I was somewhat miffed because he hadn't even bought me a card... we were in the middle of buying a house and were filling out some paperwork for unmarried shareholders in a house ie, who gets what proportion if the relationship goes tits up etc... he just said "We could avoid all this b*llocks if we get married couldn't we?" and I said "I suppose so" and that was that. We went out and bought a ring together, which I refused to accept until he got down on one knee and asked me properly

We were engaged for 3 1/2 years and have been married for 2 1/2 and now have a beautiful dd of 18 months.

tangerinecath · 10/01/2006 21:40

omg just realised that the 7 year itch is due sometime this summer

izzybiz · 10/01/2006 21:40

xmas day 2004, opened my pressies and dp got out another, i opened and found a pretty box with ring box inside. hed written will you marry me, and stuck it inside the ring box lid. i dont remember even saying yes, too busy snivelling!

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Helenemjay · 10/01/2006 21:47

Ooh i LOVE all these stories, its nice to know how romantic some people can be!

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hannahsaunt · 10/01/2006 21:50

It was the last day of my visit to New York - dh was doing his elective there. We went to Tiffany's just to see (as you do) and he asked me to try on an engagement ring. All very lovely, very romantic. Arranged to get same ring from Tiffany's in London (import tax/VAT stuff) but then when we got back they couldn't do it so we had to start again. Finally found a ring three months later and had to get it resized which took a week. Actual process of getting engaged then rested on the ring being posted and finding a suitable location to do the deed. Ended up being quite stressful as dh finished late that day, we had arranged to fly to NI to tell his parents the next day but had to tell mine in the interim - driving to Edinburgh and debating where to receive the ring in the McDonalds at Forfar wasn't a highlight! In the end we went to Arthur's Seat in brilliant moonlight and it was very lovely if quite cold and we had to hop straight back in the car to make it to mum and dad's before midnight.

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