Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

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Off you go

You know what to do

watch I know- he was asking me about a (v v v brief) thing I had with another colleague ages ago. It was all a bit flirty from both of us (though I had the excuse of being tipsy, he was sober), and I think I'm starting to fancy him a bit even though he could not be less my type at all. there were loads of men out last night but once he went home I felt all sulky liking him is not a good idea for MANY reasons so I may just have to avoid drinking round him for the foreseeable!

forgive me whats the story with mcs? why is seeing him a stupid idea (given the above i am clearly no stranger to stupid ideas!)

exciting re date with biologist though! where are you meeting?

watch it is absolutely not a good idea to go near mcs!! He is a knob!! And he has a girlfriend!! Why would you want to go near someone who can't even treat his girlfriend properly??

Have fun on your date with the marine biologist though!!

sponge Stop faffing around, stop making excuses, stop being so sensible and go for a drink with the colleague you are now beginning to fancy! He is leaving so there will be no conflict of interest and even if he wasn't leaving I would still be telling you to give him a chance. You are seeking a man, a partner, a relationship. He could be just what you are looking for, but you won't know unless you give him a chance. Don't self limit your choices!!

sponge I forgot to put a after my first sentence, just so you know I wasn't being bossy! I do think you should go for it though

Time at bossy! honestly though it really wouldn't be a good idea, he is a bit of a disaster and v definitely not the one! But it's cheered me up though, I feel as though no-one has fancied me for AGES, its nice to know one man does even if I'm not going to do anything about it :)

whys it not good? is he maried? or the one in the open relationship?
but see - you can attract suitable men :)
and you looked very thin in your pics on fb. i am jealous. i keep eating cheese.

the story with mcs is i ' met' him via a friend of a friend ( he who shall not be named) just over two years ago. I do fancy him. Hes a nice guy.Two issues, one small one being is hes army and i vowed never again ( though he is an officer) and secondly, without going into too much detail, or painting myself in a bad light ( i hope) but i know him from a rather difference scene, and i also know i would be way way out of my depth. Which is why, despite him asking loads, and me being serioiusly tempted, ive not, because i know i would probably regret it. However, its always just at the back of my mind, yoiu know, and he called me last night.... and said ' right, enough of this, im coming to see you int he new year' and i just said, ok, bring it on. like a fool.
and although i have enjoyed his calls and texts these last 24 hrs i know without doubt im way out of my depth.

the date with the biologist is tomorrow in this little country pub. he asked to take me to lunch but i said no, and a drink is fine. he seems nice, but dont they all? lol

time - mcs is not the one with the girlfriend.

mcs is most definatley single.

But sponge you don't know him in a dating capacity, you only really know him in a work capacity so he may not be such a disaster once you get to know him under different circumstances. And you do like him, you said it here, you did, you said you are beginning to fancy him. Even if it amounts to nothing you might end up having some nice times

watch, if you always do what you've always done you will always get what you've always got. If you are completely happy with what you are always getting then continue doing what you have always done but if you want things to change then you have to change what you do. Now, there's a right gob full!

Ahh, gosh watch, we need a spreadsheet just for you! I'm getting confused!

As for you thinking you will be way out of your depth with mcs, is this in the safe way you felt out of your depth with Mr Beautiful aka He Who Shall Not Be Mentioned.

no - this is in a purely sexual way as the man is more of a deviant that me!

and, ahem i happen to know his various sexual kinks and they make mu jaw hit the floor, which is some feat.
hence the being out of my dept thing. being a naturally inquisitive girl i know that this would be a road likely to end in my tears. which is why ive wisely battered him away for two years. Saying all that, hes a very nice man, totally trust worthy, doent lie, and is there when ever you need him, evenm 2am phone calls.
hes on my fb - initials mcs. have a look.

sponge - i agree with time. he might be reallyt different in a non work capacity. i thin you should give him a chance, especially as you say youi fancy him a bit.

time - i dont always do the same. i vary between ' lets do proper dating, no toucnhing me till the 3rd date and a kiss on the cheek thing' or ' ah, fuck it, lets just have lots of sex' and then everything in between that as well. It just depends very much on the other person and my frame of mind at the time. lets not forget i was a born again nun for almost a year!!

im also very curious about mcs. but curiosity killed the cat, didnt it?

OOh I will have a look. Just a thought though watch just because he is rather a sexual deviant doesn't mean it has to be when he is with you. If you want to go there then you could always call the shots and have things on your terms, it doesn't have to go his way. Might be worth a go, especially as you don't have any cat's to risk

Gosh! yes watch!!! Yes. I can see why you might be curious!! He is loverlee!!!

I know..I wouldn't be half as interested if he wasn't so deviant though. LOL
We arent talking a relationship, we are talking an oportunity for experimentation prior to his afgan tour next year.

Mmm, I'm just wondering if you will be able to resist. I bet if he turns up on your doorstep you won't be able to hold yourself back!

ooh watch! blimey, if my boss looked like that there is no way something wouldn't have happened by now

thank you for saying I look thin btw! According to the BMI I still have 2.5 stone to go to, so am persevering...I do miss cheese though. And kettle chips. And chocolate. Sigh

Give low carbing a try sponge, you can eat cheese then. I've lost 11lbs now but have decided I would like to lose at least another stone.

Is the guy who fancies you on your fb photo's?? I want to have a nosey

See, I don't think hes all that good looking. I just think he looks like a squaddie. Having spent 13 years around them it doesn't do anythihg for me.

But I am tempted.

Even if would be a mistake. Because, being honest, we arebt just talking a little non vanilla, er are talking quite the other side of the scale. Like, WAY tge other side.

watch, the most non vanilla thing I've ever done is have sex in a car and use a bit of chocolate spread so I need to know more details I'm clueless!

And I think he is very good looking. Looks as though he might know he is though

I have a weakness for men in uniform - I still have very fond memories of a Dutch marine I snogged many years ago I have to say though I am the most vanilla person so this would all be way beyond me! but if from what you've said he's a nice guy, would there be no chance of a compromise somewhere closer to your comfort zone maybe?

time, he's not in any of my photos, prob because I was too busy fluttering my eyelashes and flicking my hair when he was there to be taking any photos! trust me though you are not missing much

time I am more vanilla even than that

I am so pleased it isn't just me who has led a bit of a sheltered life sexually sponge!!

And I love a man in uniform too, don't know why because they all have the same bits when they are out of it!

I think it best if I.don't say!!!!! If I.say he almost took me to TG once then you might get more of an idea, but don't Google if you are easily offended.
But he is a nice guy. Of course I wouldn't do anything I didn't want to. The problem with that is I know I would want to, and then would regret it.

Sponge, you need to Take a pic by stealth. We need to see

Well, I've just googled TG and it came up with TGI's, so yes, I can understand why you would be wary

I think it's best if you do say cos me and sponge need the education!

I think I know what TG is..I had an idea but it came up first on my google search! - do you have a filter on yours Time?