Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

snape!!! change it back... you dont have to reply to any of them, do like time has done, and lubey said, just delete the crap ones, dont be offended and sift through them.... a nice fwb arrangement could come out of it....

im thinking of doing the same actually. im not entirely sure that mr scruff isnt going to turn out to be flakey, and since my libido has now reached epic peaks thats to the filth he was sending me ;) then i need to do something about it. or bulk buy batteries.

I suppose it is going to be a nice wee confidence booster if nothing else

@ "get your knobs out". Men are strange aren't they. I could never imagine thinking a way to attract a mate was to show them a picture of my vag.

where can I find a FwB?

Can'tthink, POF profile, looking for Intimate Encounters, seems to be attracting lots of attention.

Watch, I thought you already had yours set to that .

I will watch with interest but not join in. I haven't had a cock pic so far and don't fancy getting any [catsbum mouth] .

no adams. i havent.
I know you think i sleep around, but i really dont. From my dates last year, ( including the ones i had forgotten about) i slept with somethng like 5/25. So thats 20 men, that i didnt sleep with. and only five men that i did, over the course of a whole year. A WHOLE YEAR.

Im young, i dont want to live like a nun. I like sex. I always make sure im safe and i never do anything i dont want to do. I am also not being used, as i only ever sleep with someone if i actually want to - ive had plenty off offers than i have refused, but damn, if i fancy someone, and i want to have sex with them, then i will. And i dont ever feel bad about it.

dont be so judgmental.

threesome! I've been offered a threesome!!!

Hey I meant getting the pics!

Do it Watch!! Come join me

snape what watch said. You come join me too!

Cantthink what adams said, put in your profile exactly what you are looking for, ignore, block or delete the undesirables and enjoy getting to know the ones who float your boat. No word of a lie, I have 'met' some nicer men through doing this than I did through my 'regular' profile and as I said, I think that is due to the higher traffic. My profile contains just a headshot and no seediness so I'm not flashing the goods or anything, there are just men out there who are looking for a FWB. Simples!

Adams what watch said. You are coming across as very judgemental. And showing your age

watch no need to justify yourself

Me too Snape I declined. boring

threesome! I've been offered a threesome!!!

it's early days yet snape, you might be offered a few before the day is out!

so snape - are you going to take them up on the offer? :) lol. I am going to speak freely here, apols in advance. But i have participiated in one of two ( or lots of ) threesomes. I was younger. They were always with people i knew. Two men... and actually, that was it, i never did it with anyone else other than those two, although i was offered.. but no. Just those two. I trusted them. You need to trust them and for there to be no feelings involved bar lustand i dont think i would do it with strangers...
It was fantastic.
I cant say anything bad about it at all. I was centre of attention and if you think of the pleasure you get from one person, just double it.
Ive never regretted it, but wasnt sure if i would do it again now im older and saggier but if the situation was right, i suspect i probably would.

Maybe I am, but I think you are all too good for this I honestly do!

Perhaps I will just read instead of posting. I'm not a prude at all, I've said I have a NSA atm and I've been on a few blind dates from POF but starting off with the assumption that it's for casual sex is a bit dodgy. Look after yourselves.

Adams believe me, I have made it perfectly clear on my profile that I'm not looking for casual sex, I'm looking for exactly the same as you are having with your FWB. Yes, there are men who haven't read my profile and think their luck is in but I just block them. I am amazed though by the number of men who do want a long term 'relationship' with one special woman without any pressure. Not married men either. You have to be experiencing it to understand it I suppose, it's hard to explain on here.

watch my invitation to a threesome was with a guy and his wife. He gave her username so I could assess her attractiveness but the damn thing didn't work! Anyway, I've led too sheltered a life to ever do anything like that

PS adams there are many of the men on POF telling me I'm too good to be on there and to take care, so there are some decent ones around

but what if some of us arent all that sure that we want a relationship? or a committed relationship? and just want to get laid.. because we are human and not robots?

doesnt make us less of a person.
in fact, having casual sex doesnt make someone less of a person either.

time - yeah, i would not do that. Husbands and wifes. yuk. no way.

I totally agree with you watch, imo relationships are over rated and there is far too much emphasis put on them. I am loving the freedom of choice I have, to be able to do what I want, decide what I want to do and who with. Having my cake and eat it springs to mind.

Each to their own, there is no right and wrong.

Been reading with interest on the intimate encounter profiles and have made one. BUT I don't want to put a pic on as I want to keep my original profile and don't want men to see both profiles and them to cross over at all. Also scared as you aren't supposed to have two profiles, has everyone else put a pic up?

I can't believe how many messages I've had in last 10 mins - that's without a pic (tho if I stick a photo up - it might be less )

I've put a pic up but even before the pic went on I had messages! Now, I reckon those must be the guys who just want a shag, no matter what .

Got lot's of married men looking for some action today, daytime must be prime time for fishing when you are married.

I'm a bit on the fence about all this. I suppose because I'm still actually hoping (against hope!) for a 'proper' relationship of some kind (though certainly not with any of the social rejects who mail me on POF!).

On the other hand, I think 90% of men on dating sites are really only after another one-off notch on their bedpost tbh - even if it takes 2-3 dates to get there, then you wont see them for dust. There's prob another 5% who genuinely want a girlfriend, and a similar no. who want something regular, not just a one-off but no declarations of love etc...

I do think setting your profile to IE probably makes it much more clear who's just after a one-nighter. And I'll bet its a lot of the guys who say dating or long term on their profiles

I have heard absolutely nothing from my old boss. I think he has forgotten me. Boo :(

I'm bored of the whole dating thing. For the last few months, almost every man that I have got chatting to online has wanted to wave their willy at me over webchat or move to texting... you get the willy pic or people asking you to come to their place, which you know means they want sex. I'm fed up of men wanting sex without the effort of at least having a drink first

I'm more than ok with casual sex but I do want someone to show a little bit of effort and not just see me as wank fodder or any old orafice

Going to see what shows up on my second profile, I've been very honest with what I'm looking for - drinks, conversation, snogging with sex if both attracted on a fWB status. No one yet floats my boat but we'll see

the threesome offer-er is rather nice looking actually - it would be a MFF...

frankly I have enough issues with one person in bed, et alone worrying about 2. they'd gang up on me ( sounds better than it is meant to...)

I've had a few mff 3 some offers in the past, I'd consider it with someone I already knew but with strangers I think too much potential for awkwardness

There's been a mini surge of quite good offers on the casual dating site..perhaps it's a new year resolution related phenomena.
I'll probably need to wait for my sap to rise in spring before I can find the 'oomph' to actually start interviewing again

POF - Plenty of Fish?