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Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

999 replies

Zanywany · 05/12/2011 14:31

Off you go

You know what to do

Xmas Grin
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TimeForSomeAction · 09/01/2012 16:39

Sponge, I think 90% of men in general would be up for a notch on the bedpost if it were offered, I don't think that is limited to men on dating sites. The difference is, when you are on a dating site it's obvious what you are there for so people are generally more direct and can be more outspoken, especially when hiding behind a profile on a screen.

A guy who eyes up a woman over a bar is more likely to be thinking "Cor, I'd like to give her one" than "I would like to marry her" but he's not going to spoil his chances by asking you outright for a shag, he wants the same outcome as those on dating sites but he takes the long route, buys you a drink, whispers sweet nothings in your ear while dancing with you, wins you over, then shags you. And we fall for that! That is deemed acceptable.

You have to be in it to win it. If a person wants a relationship then they have to put themselves out there. There has to be a first point of contact and from there you are able to establish what you want. A profile set to Intimate Encounter doesn't mean you have to have one but the increased traffic does mean you have more chance of someone seeing your profile, liking what he see's and getting in touch. You spark up a conversation and if it goes in a direction you are both happy with then bingo! You have achieved your aim.

It's all a game at the end of the day, you just have to know how to play it. Watch and Lubey are excellent teachers Grin

TimeForSomeAction · 09/01/2012 16:47

Cant yes, POF is Plenty Of Fish

makeyerowndamndinner · 09/01/2012 16:53

Update! Went out with Clandestino and was not terribly impressed. He was certainly handsome but came across as being a rather angry, unhappy person. But then I went out with another bloke (dancewithme) and despite the cheesy username he was brilliant! Such good company. He was funny, interesting, knowledgeable, and just lots of fun. I had a great time with him. I have sent a text asking if he fancies doing it again some time and am waiting to see what he says...

Also next week I have a date on Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday. I am dating my little socks off at the moment.

TimeForSomeAction · 09/01/2012 16:57

Brilliant update make! Sounds like you are having fun! Grin

watchoutforthatsnail · 09/01/2012 17:27

time 0 that is an EXCELLENT post. i wholeheartedly agree with all you have said there.

TimeForSomeAction · 09/01/2012 17:38

Thank you watch Smile

Snapespeare · 09/01/2012 18:04

time i luff you! :) that's absolutey it.

make :) sorry he was a bit of a tit but for the very full dance card! :)

regretfully declined mister 3some. apparantly his lady-friend doesn't 'mind him playing away' Hmm i am expecting a cock shot any time now... (even though i did say that might lead to cocking blocking

TimeForSomeAction · 09/01/2012 18:33

Awh, thanks Snape Smile

I've just been hit in the eye with a cock shot. You should have seen the state of the finger nails of the hand holding it, disgusting they were. Needless to say it got blocked, I can't be doing with dirty finger nails!

makeyerowndamndinner · 09/01/2012 18:49

Woohoo! Just had a text back: "Yes let's meet again."

TimeForSomeAction · 09/01/2012 18:54

Grin brilliant! You are on a roll!

HedleyLamarr · 09/01/2012 20:00

Oi you lot! Go and have a look at Stratters' thread in _Chat!

TimeForSomeAction · 09/01/2012 20:25

Oooh yes, I've been following that! Off to have a look!

CherryMonster · 10/01/2012 01:36

new into the trying to date scene here. am looking for my prince charming now after several failed relationships which have ended in my having 4 kids. i need to know what the best free or very cheap dating sites are, as i have very little money. i want to be able to chat to guys and send messages etc without having to pay £20-£40 a month to do it.

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/01/2012 10:03

so, hows the IE experiment going?

Im tempted to change mine over for a few hours, see what happens.AH - fuck it, ill do it now.

cherry, pof and ok cupid are free.

make - whooohoooo, sounds fab.

i think mr scruff is a flake. Ive had no contact for over 24 hours. Ho hum, , was a good way to brighten up a sunday :)

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/01/2012 10:10

HOLY CRAP!!!!!

25 messages in about 2 mins.

TimeForSomeAction · 10/01/2012 10:13

watch, I am seriously inundated. I have pages of unread messages which I can't face reading! I think I am going to have to hide my profile to give me time to catch up on the messages I already have.

I've been giving some more thought to this. I have the same photo on the IE profile as I have on my regular profile but haven't had a fraction of the interest on the regular one as I'm getting on this one. I've had a few men message me and say "I know you are out of my league but..." so, my conclusion is that with a regular profile it's quite possible that men could take a look at as and think they don't stand a chance and so don't contact us. I think the alternative profile shows we have a different side to us that perhaps makes us more approachable to men who might not have the confidence to otherwise contact us. Just a thought.

Let us know how you get on watch, my bet is you will be swamped!!

Are you still on for meeting Mr Flake Scruff? Maybe he is a leetle bit scared Grin

TimeForSomeAction · 10/01/2012 10:13

Seeeeeeeeee!!! Grin

MsCellophane · 10/01/2012 10:15

My experiment is going swimmingly! Over a hundred messages yesterday, loads of marrieds and people who hadn't read what I had written but a couple of seriously gorgeous men who I am chatting to and I have 5 mobile numbers lol It's slowed down this morning but have had 15 messages today already

I didn't put a pic up on profile but had it as private and sent to the ones I fancy and it hasn't put them off (yet)

Shame about mr scruff, he looked promising (in more ways than one)

TimeForSomeAction · 10/01/2012 10:19

Fifty two pages here! That's not including the ones I have deleted or blocked. It's crazy! I don't have time to reply for reading. I definitely going to have to hide my profile, I need a rest! Grin

MsCellophane You might notice a pattern, the marrieds seem to come out during the day, and those who don't work, some ugly ones trying their luck. I like the evening crowd better Wink

TimeForSomeAction · 10/01/2012 10:20

We probably won't see watch for a while now Grin

Snapespeare · 10/01/2012 10:28

i think I could make a huge amount of money filtering peoples IEs and whitling out the tossers. :)

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/01/2012 10:28

lol

hahahaha. you will :)

loads of marrieds, but ltos of men my own age who feel the same ( and are fit) and who arent being sleezy at all. hmmm - this is really interesting.

ok - so my pan is to find someone half decent, to get laid on my next childfree weekend. 10 days away. possible?

TimeForSomeAction · 10/01/2012 10:34

It is interesting watch, I can't help but analyse it Grin

My conclusions so far are that younger men (of breeding age) are looking for relationships which lead to marriage. Men my age and older (post breeding age) are looking for a relationship with one special person but don't want the constrictions of living together. Just like me! Grin

It seems a woman who is not looking for marriage or cohabitation is a man's dream woman!

MsCellophane · 10/01/2012 10:35

totally possible watch - I've got a possible date for thurs and offers for the weekend which I can't take up as I'm out of town

The ones I'm chatting to are so far being lovely, no sleaze, no text speak, no asking to see my boobs! I'm enjoying this Grin

TimeForSomeAction · 10/01/2012 10:40

Grin The difference is quite amazing isn't it? It's a lot more lively than the 'regular' dating side.

And yes watch, I would say it's entirely possible that you could get a shag lined up for your next free weekend. More than one if you wanted Wink