Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

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Off you go

You know what to do

I don't want an Intimate Encounter no, and I've made that clear in my profile so I am receiving messages from men who are wanting the same thing I am. I've not had many married men at all, probably because of my profile. I'm not suggesting you look on the net for casual, it just widens your search

Lubey it's been a brilliant afternoon!! I think the fact I am being honest about what I want brings out a different side in some men. I'm having some really good and interesting conversations, not all with men I fancy or want anything else from but it's good. I can't help but think that a lot of men go along with the idea of a 'relationship' because they think that is what women want and that is the only way they will get one, when in actual fact what I (and others of course) am offering is exactly what they are looking for! It's been non stop today! Thank you!!!

Time, 29 pages!!!!!! My God.

In all that there should be at least one or two who wouid.do for a fwb.

Date/ shag with Mr scruff planned for the weekend. If we hold out that long.

Well, there is one I am chatting to. He is on my wavelength and I'm enjoying the stimulating conversation but I keep looking at his pic thinking "could I shag you?" and I'm not sure I could. But time will tell

What day/time are you shagging meeting Mr Scruff?

Oh sorry I thought you had changed your looking for to 'intimate encounters'. I had mine set at 'wants to date but nothing serious'. Not sure what it says now.

There must be a couple of potential hotties from 29 pages that you can meet up with.

There isn't a section for 'Long term friend with benefits' so Intimate Encounter was the next best thing, and it worked! I don't want casual sex or anything like that and I don't want a bloke who is looking for a soul mate or marriage. I want one man who I can enjoy the company of, nights out with and fantastic sex without him wanting more from me. And it seems there are a number of men looking for the same thing.

I'm chatting to four men out of that lot, one I am really enjoying but not sure I could have a sexual relationship with. But who knows.

What are you looking for adams? Are you looking for someone with potential as a husband/life partner ultimately? I simply cannot imagine ever living with a man again, ever! But I would like some willy every now and then

I've just checked and my POF profile says I am on there for dating and looking for a relationship which sums it up. I have met quite a few people off the internet but only saw 2 of them for more than 1 date.

I had the arrangment you describe with a couple of men that I've know for many years, although one has moved abroad in the summer, so wouldn't want that from POF. I would be open to serious if I fell in love. I haven't been looking for that while DD has been my priority so have been happy with 'casual'. Will see how I feel once DD leaves home. Could be a good idea to hide my profile until then and just stick with the one remaining FWB, who has only just resurfaced so I've had a drought for a 4 months, which has been OK.

It must be worth meeting up with one or two that you have been getting along with, sometimes they are more attractive than the photos. Go on arrange something, you have been withdrawn from it recently and you seem to know what you want .

Yes, you are right, I'm nervous I suppose. But I also think I will know when I have hit upon someone worth meeting. I don't think I'm kidding myself?

This is your FWB who you are feeling slightly emotionally attached to isn't it? As long as that isn't the reason you are thinking of hiding your profile

Nice pics on FB by the way

Hello, I'm new to this thread and internet dating. Finally resolved in my head a 10 year relationship and feel able to move on and want to share life and do stuff with a partner. But only sometimes, I do enjoy having my own space and my dd all to myself these days :)
Bit intimidated but getting out there and meeting someone though as am quite shy.
Just made a profile on POF and will wait to see what happens...

Welcome pamplemousse and good luck with your POF profile

Keep us updated!

Thanks Time, have already had some complete weirdys contacting me, whats with sending a message that says 'hi, how are you?'
Am I being narky or is this making little effort?!
Is it very rude to just ignore them, or do you reply to everyone?

Pample, I bet you get lots of messages and there is nothing wrong with meeting someone with a view to just dating as Time and myself have just been discussing. Hope someone nice gets in touch.

Time, I'd be kidding myself if i hid it because of FWB!

Pample, I think men on there send a 'hi' message because they get ignored mostly so they havent wasted time on writing . Only reply if they are hot and/or interesting.

Yes, pample any you can't be bothered with or you don't feel comfortable with just delete or block. Don't feel obliged to reply, there is no need to be polite, emotions are not involved at this stage. My block list is huge!

Hi pample I have just started too. I only reply to messages that show that they have read my profile and are actually interested in what I have to say. My best one so far is a message that just said "you'll do". WTF!

I have been talking to a nice guy, he seems very sweet. He is at my complete upper age limit though so I am a bit unsure.

so - time.... i must say, i like your tactic, and actually thats something that i might do in the future.

pample - you dont have to reply to anyone you dont want to.

i have just told the bowling one i dont think we have anything in common, i hate letting people down though, but last night he was talking about how much he admired jeremy clarkson because he says the things that people think. jeremy clarkson is a knob. i could not date someone who thought he was somone to aspire too. grim.

Good on you for getting out of it watch. Jeremy Clarkson! Why oh why.

How long do you normally chat to people for before arranging a date? I don't want to get stuck talking to people for ages and then meeting them and realising I don't fancy them, but also I don't feel mentally ready for my first ever internet date.

i have NO idea - that teamed with the whole 'clubbing' thing just put me right off...

i think it depends on the chatting thing, some people its right to meet quickly, others its best to chat abit first. I like to chat about 2 weeks first really, you can usually work out if its worth your time to meet up or not. The bowling guy who i just said no to, had asked me out for this weekend and we had rearranged for two weeks time.... but in that time, as we have chatted more i have realised that not only do i not fancy him at all, conversation is stilted and we have nothing in common at all, so the date would have been as waste of time. Some people you can chat to and you know really quickly that you would get on, there isnt a hard and fast rule, you just have to go with the flow.

I changed my 'seeking' to 'intimate encounter' on POF at 11.32AM

I changed it back at 11.47AM.

32 messages. working my way through them just now, but initial investigation would suggest 'yuk!' & extremely bad grammar. :)

I am tempted to go and do it now as well just to see what happens

You haven't given it enough of a chance Snape, you have to sort the wheat from the chaff. My initial reaction was just the same as yours but I've come across some really nice, intelligent men. Out of what is now 42 pages of messages I am only chatting to 3 men so that tells you how much chaff there is! BUT, there is no denying that you get the traffic through 'Intimate Encounter'. It's a bit like posting in AIBU on here

I'm tired today!

Do it DGQ I had a whale of a time yesterday

You just have to keep your eyes open for The One and close your eyes when the cock pics get flashed

Tis not for the easily offended and has been quite an eye opener for me.

it is terrifying! seriously. i panicked!

at least i 'spose I could get some....

Lubey and Watch kept me calm. I nearly ran a mile within the first two minutes but stuck it out.

Gooooo ooooon Snape, have another go, if only for the entertainment factor

It just goes to show what most of them are really after and I'm wondering how they get alerted to a new potential so quickly Do they get flashed via text 'hey get your knobs out.