Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

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Bloody hell Lizzie! What site was that?!

Well I have been chatting to a few people, but nobody special I don't think. I think okcupid is quite full of the young, free and single type. Well I am young and single but dd means I am most defiantly not 'free'.

One guy sent me a message, seemed fine. I went to check out his profile and he had two paragraphs dedicated to saying how much he disliked children. My profile clearly states I have a child. Idiot.

Hi, sorry was feeling down last night because DD and I were discussing a big birthday and realised that a party would be tricky because of complicated family circs but turns out she isn't fussed, so thats good

I will hide my profile though as although I've chatted with some decent looking men recently for a change I cannot face meeting up.

I honestly havent had any feeling for my FWB before last weekend but doubt he feels anything except that we have a fab time together once in a while, which is how it's been for me mostly. Having feelings won't stop the occasional nights together unless it becomes a problem.

Will have a read up later but won't post much as I haven't much to say .

cat, "7.45 on a Saturday morning is a reasonable time". Do they still do 7.45 on a Saturday morning?

Welcome to the new people!

Lizzie, did you vomit in our mouth a bit when you got that message? Masturbating on video, calling you hun and wanting to meet that night! That's got to be every girl's hat trick of romance surely?

My daughter and I spent a fantastic afternoon reconnecting with a stepdaughter from my second marriage. We've been FB'ing a bit, hadn't caught up in the flesh for years but she's moved back from interstate so she came for a visit and I got to meet her 5 year old daughter. Pics on my FB for those who are FB friends. Truths were told, tears were shed, promises were made... a very cool time was had by all. Some of us made mention over christmas of spending time with the people who really do matter, especially family, which has led me to the conclusion that I really dig my kids, stepkids and grandkids! :)

Poppa, I can tell they mean the world to you. That's something I have to look forward to, Grandchildren but hopefully not for a few years yet.

Thats lovely poppa

People keep adding me to their favorites but not actually contacting me...does that mean they want me to contact them? one of them is very lovely looking

Dressingown. I had one of those 'wants to meet' from a hot guy ( usually ignore the other 10 a day) so I added him to favourites then he eventually messaged me and we chatted for a while but he deleted his profile, he did tell me he might and he lived about an hour away, so we couldn't be bothered to meet.

I would ignore anyone until they send you a message.

Thanks adams, thats what i'll do then. Hey, if he wants to get in touch he will right!

Hello. OKC novice here. Been lurking - can I join in now please?

I've had "Hey babe. Wanna have some fun?" Hideous. Needless to say I did not reply. I get a few one-liners just saying "Hi. Your picture looks nice." And that's it. I mean WTF do you do with that??? That's no way to engage someone in conversation is it?

dressinggownqueen, I would say that I have done things like added people to favourites and 'winked' at people in the hope that they would look me up and message me back. Sometimes, I just don't know how to start a conversation.

Some of you get lots of responses... I'm starting to wonder if I'm ugly or just writing sh*t on my profile page....

I'm messaging one guy I get on with but of the three photos he's got on his profile, you can't see his face in 2 and the other one just looks like I'm not going to fancy him. But it's wierd, he went away for Christmas and New Year and I really missed him! He did suggest meeting up but I said no as it was quite early on and I wasn't ready. I'm now wondering if I should arrange a meeting to see for sure.

You may as well meet up taekwondo, what have you got to lose!

There is one guy I have my eye on but I have no idea what to write in a message! I hate all the 'Hi, how are you?' ones, but I can't be witty for the life of me

I'm a bit jaded at the moment because when I first message someone, I always try to kick things off by referring to what they've written in their profile, to demonstrate I'm genuinely interested, and then I get nothing back. And the ones who message me first all start with some inane sh*t like "Hi, you look nice" or like the ones I quoted above.

I think you are doing it the right was taekwondo. The only messages I have replied to are the ones that reference something I have written. Don't feel jaded! I think it is just chance whether you get a reply or not sometimes. Don't dwell on it

Taek- I agree with dressinggown, dont dwell on it, and meet that guy.
Also the meet me thing is a pile of poo, like Adams said. Pay no attention to it.

Adams, how you feeling today?

I'm not going bowling with that guy. I.don't fancy him..the constant texting is pissing me ofd and he doesn't really have anything to say, I don't want to reply, it doesn't.seem to.flow, so there is no point in meeting. Plus several of the things he is into are big turn offs for Me, and my idea of hell - clubbing in ibiza???!!!!

Plus my interest has been sparked by a rather scruffy, dark haired tree surgeon, after chatting for a few hours we swapped numbers and, well, yeah. Fancy him already. Hes asked me out for rum as soon as I am free :) I.expect it Will be a rum and sink breaking type evening....

Well there is no point going if you don't fancy him watch. I agree...clubbing in Ibiza no bloody way!

I went out with a tree surgeon once...lovely arms

:) I'm.sure they were.
He plays guitar in a band, is all dark haired, stubbly and scruffy. My hormones have got the Better of me :)

Obviously am not expecting this to be the romance of the year. I do however, expect it might start the year off with a bang. Literally.

I am such.a sucker, everytime, for a bit of scruff. I should know better really.

God I love scruffy guys. I'm going to go and put that on my profile right now, see if I can attract any

New options of limited quality post. No cock... But for those that want a look.

I'm fine thanks Watch. What is 'option of limited quality'. Noticed Shiney put this on facebook but I don't want to ask on there. Think I will log onto POF and see if it tells me.

What a fun afternoon/evening I have had! It's amazing what changing your 'looking for' to Intimate Encounter brings

Time???? Spill, what's been going on .

29 pages of messages since I switched to Intimate Encounter!! Lot's of erm, 'variety' but not all bad at all. I'm talking to a few quite nice, 'normal' and seemingly intelligent men. So, even though I'm not exactly looking for an 'Intimate Encounter' it got me noticed and it's got me talking to men that might not have otherwise noticed me.

Other than that, it's been a very entertaining afternoon with cock pics and I haven't half enjoyed sending snotty messages to certain users

PS adams it does seem that the majority of men are looking for a 'relationship' but one that is casual-ish, which is just what I'm looking for.

You should give it a try and see what happens!!

So you won't be meeting any for an intimate encounter then? Glad to hear it but guess it would be OK if that is what you wanted. Was this on POF? So that would mean that the men must be searching women who are wanting intimate encounters. I suspect alot will be married or in relationships.

No, I don't need to look on the internet for 'casual' .

Time :o pleased you're having some fun with it

Definitely worth doing I think when it's not strictly a relationship that you want. Worked for me anyway many times