Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

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Off you go

You know what to do

But why would such men assume that ladies want to see a shot of their cock? Is that supposed to draw us in, make us want to meet them for coffee?

Personally, I would rather see a pic of his wallet

I guess he doesnt have the mental dexterity required to put himself in another persons shoes and imagine what they might want..he stays with the default postion which assumes that other people like what he likes.

Plus the abundance of cultural messages reinforcing his cherished belief that women are only too happy to put mens sexual needs above their own

time I think it's a sort of magical thinking..men associate their penises with sexual pleasure...he feels (as opposed to thinking it through rationally...these types of men as we know have a very minor capacity for rational thought)
..he feels that a woman looking at a pic of his cock with be suffused with the sexual pleasure he gets from jerking off

just a theory off the top of my head of course :)

cocks! :)

it's not so much the ex and his downfall, we've been over for 11 years or so and I've reached a casual nonchalance/friendship based on us having children together, I hope the woman he left me for and then subsequently had a son with (who as far as I know was always lovely to my kids and now has a smashing little boy) is rubbing her hands together with glee that the woman he left her for (keep up!)will now also be a single parent and have to arrange some form of emergency childcare as XP was a SAHD.... this time there isn't another another other woman involved, as far as i know - but the latest OW was an absolute fucking cowbag to my children (telling 15 year old DD that she was 'coming between' her and her dad and therefore had to leave their home and sofa surf for the duration of her exams) and then had the temerity to state that her DD wouldn't end up 'fucked up' like my kids (!) so i am enjoying the distance and the uncertainty that she will be facing, because, fuck the sisterhood, I'm enjoying what she will be probably be going through. That's what happens when you enter a relationship with a man with small children (OW1 & XPs son was 9months old when he left...) I'm not a nice person, i care not! :)

wages unlikely to get sorted anytime soon, we will be living on the child benefit for ajnuary - and the freezer/store cupboard. we'll get by. :)

time the man is a cock! the idea that you would be falling over yourself to be his bit on the side. although vague kudos for him actually telling you the situation, rather than you finding out 3 months down the line. his poor missus.

I doubt me and platonic man will ever get anywhere, but it's immensely frustrating fun trying in it's way. guess it's better than sitting in on my own at new years (done that..) he is the very best company, so it will be fun, if not sweaty and torrid!

watch eww. just eww. where are all the Fit, Interesting and available men?? who keep their cocks to themselves until asked politely

I might agree internet dating has had it's day. Us London/ South East ladies should arrange a mass speed date :)

I wonder, do the ones that send cock shot's actually expect to meet up or are they just after a bit of wank material at that particular moment. I mean, I can't imagine sitting in a cafe, ejoying a coffee and a custard slice with a guy who's cock I'd seen before I'd even seen his face in the flesh.

I spose they get off on imagining the womans admiring reaction.
I have sometimes asked why they do it and the reply is that women will want to see what they are getting..of course this is an after the fact justification.

I think they get a sexual buzz out of exposing themselves, kinda like the old style flasher in the park...

Thought I'd pop back on - especially as we are back to cock shots

I seem to only attracted these people, almost every single person I have added to msn wants to show themselves on webcam. I have no idea why, they seem to think we/I will be so overcome by viewing and will hit heady heights of self love. They don't get that looking at a dick playing with a dick isn't a turn on. The worst ones are the ones without their own webcam and actually think you will be happy to show yourself in your entirety for their pleasure.

Not had any dates since the last spate but am negotiating for one this weekend. Only trouble is I am 45 and he is 28, he is physically very fit and I shop in Evans and he is only 5'6 and I am 5'3 - so lots of But, he can type and spell and hasn't shown his willy - so thinking why not

bunch of chances MsC,
They watch women in porn and extrapolate to real life..pretty sure real life tells them in no uncertain terms that women are not prepared to perform for their pleasure.
I guess they just keep tryin' their luck..
28 yr old sounds like he might be worth a whirl:)

I must be very dull indeed Ms Cellophane never happened for me. I send initial message get a reply I respond and they vanish :( I must be a very dull conversationalist.

HELP!

Talking to someone on POF, sends me a message today saying not ignoring you had really bad news this morning, tell you later, really like you, xxxx

I reply hope everything is okay, oh I like you too.

So I sign in and he is online but not messaged me, surely if he was interested he would have replied to me? Or is he playing? I hate players and don't want to be wasting my time takling to someone who isnt interested.

I agree multiple kisses in early stages appear decidedly asinine..multiple exclamation marks even worse !!!!!!

I'd suggest wearing what you feel comfortable in catwith..or are asking about what would be appropriate for the venue?
Possibly jeans would be too casual?

I prefer to dress a bit down for a first meeting, I mean I make a point of not wearing anything short/tight/low cut, I find it's easier in the (all too common) event that I dont fancy him at all.

twilight

catwithflowers that is hilarious

I got an interesting one this morning, photo of man with large carp and a poem about eyes to the soul etc- puke!

Had lots of older men messaging me so maybe I should settle for s sugar daddy

Oh My word! This would be fun if it wasn't so tragic.

I got "hey girl" My block list is almost off the scale!

too funny catwith
'I much prefer exercising mind and soul to the body workout' = he's a big fat blobby bloke who thinks he's clever but is actually pretentious and full of cliché and cod philosophy
'it would be nice to meet someone who can still be a little girl' = he wants to meet a woman who wont make him feel intellectually threatened

lol at catwith and carp poem man.

I got a msg with a marriage proposal this morning Obviously not from someone I would ever consider marrying! On the plus side I did also get a msg from a man who (if he isnt a complete bullshitter) is probably the most interesting & intelligent person I've ever seen on POF. Now Im struggling to compose a suitable reply!

couple of messages on OKC/POF. they're not hideous, i'll consider replying next year!

I have curlers in and am doing my nails. good grief.

:) at 'the times' reticent perverts.