Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

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I agree Adams but what choice do we have, I have had several conversations (dull ones) and wouldnt want to meet up with them. The only one who was interesting and amusing I have already dated and been dumped by :(.
Sent message to ex from 28 years ago and am waiting for the result :)

Purple, we might have to start going out again or something. Hope your blast from the past is nice. I've had a few of them and IME nothing changes except 20 years older

I had someone with a tights fetish message me a couple of weeks ago! I told him where to go that I wasn't interested.

hey all.

hope you all have had fab christmas's and are now pleasantly stuffed and firmly planted on the sofa.

Time - well dont for hiding your profile and i have to say, your new pic on fb is SOOOO pretty. Keep your profile open, just delete the crap... just because you are on there doesnt mean you have to actually go on a date with anyone.

Sponge - update!!!!!!!!

snape - so, the doctor is still in contact... any future meets planned?

adams- i totally agree.

lubey 0 that chart is genuis :)

and hi to tall the newbies :)

so - the surfer never called me, despite promising too. Cant say im that fussed. I unhid my profiles yesterday when i was feeling a bit more like ' you have to be in it to win it' hiding myself away isnt any more likley to produce any results at all. So - ho hum and the dating starts again. Ive been asked out by 3 decent looking/ sounding men, - one for saturday, but i cant be arsed to go then, so have said to do something the following weekend.
New rules for this year are: Meet quickly, quick coffee drink only, no txting all day. Unless of course it looks like a no strings thing and the guy is super hot and my hormones have got the better of me. I was also talking about dating over the xmas period to a newly single friend, and i remembered seveal other dates i had been on, which took my total dates up to around 20.... which is a staggering amount i think and a little embarassing... but , you know, i dont do things by half :)

Watch I don't think meeting someone for the first time on NYE would work, it's bad enough that it's all forced fun on that night as it is. Much better to wait until the holiday season is finished with. I like your NY resolution but what's changed? .

Battling, you normally cannot tell until you meet. This one might not be fanciable and he might not be nice to you either. Go with you gut instinct, meet him if you want to. Some of the less attractive ones don't get any replies so are going to keep chatting when they do. He might be really nice and just what you need at the moment. I think it takes a lot of duff dates to work out if it's worth meeting someone.

I sound so cynical don't I? Perhaps I shouldn't be posting on here atm. Still waiting for a reply to a message off someone, he might have disappeared. I do think it's novelty has worn off, internet dating. I remember the old days of dating agencies and it was a much smaller pool and the people all wanted to meetup as they had paid etc. I joined one once, met a few and had a relationship with one but we were too different at the time. He was a country boy and I was more a girl around town. Not any more though.

I'd better get bathed and dressed as I'm picking DD up from work and going to get her a dress with her vouchers for NYE, she has a party, I'm in on my own,

I am on my own too adams, both DDs out partying and I'm stuck at home. Ah well.

I could go out with a couple of mates but cannot be bothered. Been thinking surely someone is having a house party, it's so expensive to go out and eat on NYE. We are going for a meal tomorrow night instead. I really must stop being a hermit in 2012.

Adams, I said I.couldn't be arsed and would re arrange for tge week.later. it wouid only have been a coffee date anyway.....

Ive been invited to a few parties, but I'm not going, ive got dd and I want to be with her. Plus I'm hosting a family new years day party, to celebrate the new year with those that matter, and dd can be included in that ( she's Good at party prep too)

I changed my mind because I'm pro active, no one ever got something without going after it.

Yes, I read that you decided to arrange it later, that's what I meant its probably better than NYE.

Glad everyone had a good Xmas I have eaten far FAR too much, feeling quite bloated and unattractive at the moment, just in time for New Year (which for once I dont have the boys for yet absolutely no plans. typical! hoping I can persuade some friends out otherwise I'll be stuck in on my own, at least normally I have the DC for company!)

My update...went to drinks last Fri, had a lovely time. No snogging but there was a kiss on the cheek tho v close to the lips . And lots of hugging, and some holding of hands He has my number for work purposes so ball is in his court. Which means I will probably never hear from him again, not even with an offer of a job...

Had two messages today, one called me babes and asked how i was getting on with the site, the other proceeded to tell me he was coming down with a tummy bug!
Found a lovely chap but he lives too far away :(
Onwards ever onwards :)

Hi, hope you don't mind me joining in the chat.
Have been separated for a year and decided to bite the bullet and try a bit of online dating but to be honest i'm a bit scared!
Can anyone give me some tips, for example do you wink/message blokes or wait for them to contact you. Ive had loads of views but no messages

bits - its up to you, some of us like to be proactive and message people, and some like to sit and wait for the men to do it.

well, last night was a hard hitting reintroduction into online dating. Got chatting to this nice normal looking man, who according to his profile wanted something long term and no messing about. Swapped onto msn to chat easier. Then he started talking about how his drink had been spiked with viagra and how big his cock was. etc... etc... i told him i wasnt interested in being a free text wank service, and he said i had got him wrong and that wasnt the case at all. He asked me out and we arranged a date for next week, then he starts talking about his tattoos and said he would show me, and before i know it,his webcam is on. and hes naked.but to show me the tattoos ( apparently) i said lovelbut that i didnt want to see him naked and then hes telling me he has a hard cock. so i blocked and deleted. ffs.

How bizarre Watch, another keeper! Still had no cock pics, must look frumpy and dowdy in my photos.
On the positive side since I have included in my profile about grammar I have had some well written messages, all of them dull, but at least they are spelt and punctuated correctly. Must have taken some of them hours!

welcome new folk! :)

non dating moan - my wages have cocked up so I am £490 down this month! bills can be paid, I now have £97 (pus child ben) to last me until 3 weeks today when tax credit comes in. I am going to spunk £24 of that on two bottles of champagne for new years eve on the off chance that platonic man actually does what he says for once and we end up on the roof, surrounded by fireworks and seeing in the new year together...

also STBXH has left his DP and is now staying at my unsellable house in glasgow. the fear and worry of making the month on £97 does not compare to the sheer unsisterly delight of him leaving her. what goes around comes around indeed (this is the woman that kicked my 15 year old daughter out on the street for stealing her moisturiser and eating the posh jam and having an 'empty' when the pair of them fucked off for the weekend and left her in the house alone ) I am fucking delighted about this (whilst regretting the STBXH being in more pain and unsettledness and worrying about their DD) because I am basically not a very nice person! yay!

going to dye my hair today (had already bought dye...) take some new profile pics & ramp up the internet dating for new year. :)

Hi everyone

watch thank you for the compliment and the pep talk, I will leave my profile in situ and just see what happens.

I did actually get talking to a really nice bloke, thought I might have hit the jackpot actually. His pic was nice, good height and great exchange of messages. Then he decides to tell me he is married, the pic he posted is a guy off an Australian website but everything else about him is genuine . Apparently, he loves his wife and isn't looking to leave her but he isn't in love with her and he no longer feels the butterflies or excitement. Bastard. Needless to say he is now blocked.

Not quite as bad as your creepy guy though watch. that's disgusting!!

Snape is there any chance your wages can be sorted out? It's never a good time to be such a huge amount down but it's especially not so good just after Christmas.

I don't think I am the only one on the thread who will be hoping that you and Platonic Man get it on over New Year

Sponge Think positive! ]smile]

Hello to everyone else and welcome to the newbies!

Hello everyone!

I'm still not interested at all in dating. In fact I shudder at the thought of going back to it! I'm still here though and always reading.

I'm just making the most of being super happy by myself I think. I have a FWB sex curry thing planned again in Jan and that will do for me.

Watch UGH at the creepy twat!

snape :( is it sortable? i know its shit, im still struggling after losing so much during my tax credit incident... have a fab new year though and get him to pay half for the champers :) beans or soup for a month isnt so bad.... think of it as an easy diet :) im planning on not spending more than £30 a week on food for this month, ive two ( yes two) freezers totally full of all sorts, mostly bits of left overs, so im going to make some space and thats what we shall eat.

time - oh for gods sake, men!! how on earth did you get him to admit that? and yes, they guy i was speaking to was discusting. I said very early on i wasnt interested in that, and i thought that was what he was aiming at. i even said how much i hated it when you got talking to someone and then suddenly tyou have a pic of their cock. so he kew, but just carried on anyway - at one point he said it didnt matter if i was naked because it was just me and huim?!?!?!? wtaf? and then when i said i was going because he was a sleeze, he said he did want a relationship, but he also wanted fun. pathetic.

oh and snape - you are allowed to feel pleased about it :) karma and all that.

watch he offered up the info because he wanted to be honest with me, he wanted to meet with me, he isn't looking for one night stands he is looking for 'one special woman' In other words he wants his cake and he wants to eat it. Bastard!! But so arrogant too, these men who think they are entitled to have a home life with a wife but a bit on the side to cover the extra's, where do they get off? I suspect that because we had been exchanging messages for a couple of hours he thought he had me hooked and so was safe to tell me he was married. How wrong was he!

I don't get these guys that flash their cocks either, what is it with them? I mean, what IS IT WITH THEM???

And yes snape you are definitely allowed to feel good about the downfall of a shitbag ex, in fact, you must enjoy every moment of it!

Time, so he didn't think you would mind???!!! Unbelievable. Men are such Cocks.

You might expect such behaviour from a 19 year old boy, but from grown men its quite disgusting.

Obviously not watch that's why I think he is arrogant, to assume that I would understand his pathetic situation and think him such a wonderful human being that I would want to be his bit on the side. Crazy!! I feel so sorry for his wife, he loves her but she isn't exciting enough for him anymore so rather than invest in her and the relationship to make things more exciting he puts himself on a dating site. Bastard!! See, this is why I have no faith in men, it's why I find it difficult to muster up any respect for them.

Yes watch, men are cocks!!

I think the 'cock shot' brigade get so fixated on their members that instead of being a minor alter ego the one eyed mini me becomes the dominant personna.
Ergo a picture of his cock is tantamount to a picture of him..since it is the essence of him

or to put it another way..he is a cock