Here's hoping on finding a decent guy/girl under the mistletoe who doesn't use hun or text speak. Dating thread No.7

[Zanywany]

Off you go

You know what to do

they all would ;) im good at pulling plonkers!!!!!!

If you are after sex, or something casual, its very easy to find someone, i could do it in under 24 hrs i suspect, quite, quite easily. Its finding someone a little bit nicer than that that proves more difficult.

AND - i bloody drank hot chocolate yesterday, pub was heaving so we went to the tea shop! lol

Then you just have to keep trying I guess!!

I had a quick look on POF yesterday, I was considering unleashing my profile and perhaps getting a date lined up ready for the new year BUT, after having a browse of what's available I might just stay hidden until 2013!!!

BUt Time I always wear flowery dresses, cardi and Jesus sandles but I wear socks with mine

Mr Yacht met my DC's om Saturday and it went really well and they both like him, expecially my DD but then again she is a flirt like her mother [happy]

Zany!!

That's great news re Mr Yacht and your children! I am so pleased it went well. Do you have plans with him for Christmas? It will be so lovely now he has met the kids, you can spend some really special time together

Thanks Time My DC's are with their Dad on Xmas Eve and so he is coming over to mine seen as he isn't seeing his DS's. All my family are up for New Years Eve so he is going to meet my brother/sisters/parents then. Hopefully it won't come across all 'meet the family' seen as my family are really down to earth and like a good New Years Eve party [fhappy]

I am panicing though seen as I can't spell I have hardly bought any presents yet. Both my DC's were ill and off school last week and now my DS is off today. I think I need to spend some time on Amazon later

Ooh yes, get the across to Amazon You have until the 18th of December to still get the free delivery in time for Christmas so no need to panic yet. Mines all done, wrapped and hidden. has been for weeks nothing to do now which is a bit dull actually

Your New Years Eve party sounds great! And it will be nice for you spending Christmas Eve with Mr Yacht

Ooh Zany Amazon have launched their January deals today so you might get some bargains!

zany glad all went well with the meeting of the dc it all sounds really positive! My dc are with their dad from lunch time on Christmas day. I am actually considering working Christmas evening as I won't be doing anything else and could do with the money as Christmas is seriously skinting me out. Roll on January!! [insert unfestive emoticon here]

Zany - really happy for you! :)

Watch. 17 dates is good going, but a lot of effort!

me = first dates = 2. this is 2 more than 2010!)
2nd dates = 0
sex = 0.

things may have to improve in 2012!

I can imagine it will be quite nice working in the bar on Christmas evening stay, if I was in your situation I would definitely be doing that, beats staying in with the Quality Street and crap TV!

My love horoscope says my love life is going to take off from the 14th of January. I have marked that date on my calendar.

I was planning on watching christmas films and drinking copious amounts of wine time but money wise, working would be the better plan!

Excellent news zany! Your kids liking him makes it all the more comfortable hey? I forsee you and the Zany Bunch having a great Christmas and New Year!

I've almost finished my christmas shopping now. Just waiting for those t-shirts to arrive and an Abby Cadabby beanie for the GD. The daughter's moving back in here with me while she sorts things out with her hubby, starting the week before Christmas. She's going to see one of her mates Christmas Eve which is going to feel weird. One way or another I've always seen at least her if not her plus a subset of my tribe on Christmas Eves since about 1981. She will be back here later in the Eve, probably pissed and all gushy and sincere and good tears will flow! My casual lazy lunchtime bbq has now morphed into a major bloody masterchef / my kitchen rules evening meal complete with salads, desserts, matching disposable plates and bowls and somewhere in amongst it all the actual bbq. My rules of the kitchen are that a meal should take no longer to prepare than it does to eat, and that there should be no more utensils used than there are plates to serve the tucker on. It looks like we'll have 10 or 12 people so that gives the daughter the green light to go berserk with cooking, and on top of that we suspect that the ex (daughter's Mum, aka The Breeder, who she refers to as the "self absorbed robot") and her latest marital victim will probably rock up on Christmas Eve with a shitload of food and expect to whack their caravan somewhere here and settle in, complete with his yappy spoilt bloody miniature rat of a dog that's terrified of my good-natured and playful border collies! Thank fuck for cool grandkids... at least they're fun to hang out with! Despite my usual minimalist approach to alcohol I did buy myself a bottle of Southern Comfort and a bottle of Jim Beam today, so I may just sit down with the GD who wants to learn (bass)guitar get myself quietly and happily pissed.

It seems as though it's gone a little crazy in the dating world lately.

Man that broke my heart (known elsewhere on mn as WC) has been back in touch and has apologised and asked to meet to clear the air. Haven't decided yet, I'd like to have it out with him but it took me a very very long time to get over him and I'm worried seeing him would bring it all back and I'd fall for him again. He was someone that I'd instantly clicked with and was always competely comfortable with, could talk about everything, or not talk at all, nevre uncomfortable or awkward. And for me that's a huge deal, I'm very shy and socially a bit awkward so it was very special for me not feeling that way with him. This will sound cheesy but being with him felt like being wrapped in a big cuddle all the time And I guess I'm worried that if I saw him again I'd feel just as comfortable with him and downplay all the shit he put me through... So dunno.

Also got offered sex again by the one I was seeing at the end of the summer. Refused him.

And the vanisher, well I told him I couldn't meet today, although I could have done really it would have been a rush and you all told me you thought he was a liar so I took that on board and decided not to. He then sent me a message saying that he was sorry we weren't able to fit in a coffee before he went abroad (he is going away on sat until the new year) because he did really want to meet me and that if it was ok he'd text/email me while he was away and again when he got back to see if we could arrange a date in Jan. He also said I seemed really nice and interesting, well educated and well rounded as well as very pretty and he really hoped I didn't think he'd been messing me around because he did really want to get to know me. Verdict?

freakoid never look back. You have moved on. Will meeting him to 'clear the air' actually achieve anything? He obviously hurt you badly, I would be very wary.

With the vanisher, I would see how it goes whilst he is away. If he makes an effort, then maybe meet in the new year. :)

Stay love horoscopes on FB, I know it's tosh but it has all been eerily accurate! That and tarot too.

Poppa That all sounds manic but lovely It's just me and DD for Christmas lunch but I having the matching table cloth and napkins for our very tiny table for two, it's going to be fab!! I shall not be drinking but I shall be eating chocolate!

Freakoid To be honest I wouldn't be getting involved with any of them! A heartbreaker, a sex pest and a vanisher. Nah, you can do better than that, save yourself for someone who deserves you

Loving the term 'latest marriage victim' Poppa sounds like a busy but lovely Xmas.

Freakoid I'm not si sure its a good idea to meet up with the heartbreaker. All your own feelings may come flooding back which can be hard to then turn off. I made the mistake of meeting y heartbreaker in the summer and it just brought more heartache although bth it did bring me closure.

Sadly Freakoid, I'm inclined to agree with stay and time. I'm sure it would be very easy to settle back into a disfunctional but in some ways comfortable rut with him, but would it really get you anywhere, or would you be looking back this time next year feeling decidedly uncomfortable while he's moved on... again?

As our sexually frustrated yet very caring, platonically loving and wise born again virgin friend time always reminds us... standards!

Zany, she's had a string of partners, all of whom have had all life and vitality (and often money) sucked from them leaving just a crispy dried out husk to be blown about the deserts of life.

Indeed Poppa, indeed!! Standards!! Although I'm not feeling quite so sexually frustrated at the moment, I'm too busy looking forward to Christmas!! Sex can wait until I've got nothing else to think about.

Freakoid Poppas post says sums it up nicely.

Time, you can be like Santa... he only comes once a year and that's down a chimney.

Oh dont mention christmas any more, I am going to end up selling a kidney on ebay at this rate! Oh for the days when christmas was not about spending your last penny on some plastic tat that will be broken by boxing day and missing half the pieces!

Having a good laugh checking out horoscopes bullshit on the web. I will check out the fb one, I used to be quite the believer and have actually read tarot cards since the age of eight but these days I am quite the cynic. I am getting old and boring!

Quite like the thought of your christmas papasmurf bit of guitar and getting pleasantly pissed sounds great!

"Taking some time apart is always a good thing, mentally and physically. If you find yourself thinking about that special someone constantly, try and distract yourself with productive activities. If you find yourself spending too much time with your partner, make some space. You?ll end up missing each other, and your romance will be that much sweeter. "

Now that is funny! Cant get much further apart than opposite ends of the country or time apart of nearly a month at a time!

stay, TJ, my 11 year old tween GD is starting bass guitar at school next year, so I'm lending her my bass and an amp and I've ordered a Bad Girl strap and pink pearloid custom picks with TJ printed on them to get her started. I got her the Led Zeppelin "Stairway To Heaven" t-shirt so I think we might make a start with her learning how to thump out the bass notes of the chords. It's actually not a difficult song so it'll be fun, musically a good start for her, and help bridge the generation gap. She already thinks it's pretty cool that her Poppa Rob knows a strange Pommie muso and she saw a pic recently of him with Jimmy Page, so learning a bit of Stairway will take us full circle. Or I'll just get quietly sozzled.

I need to keep some major coolness now!!

Been speaking to a fantastic bloke...need to arrange to meet up, but, this seems like a good choice this time!

Oh, and hello all!

Way to go Knickers! Go for it! and report back