DP accussed me with used condom

[PoorLuLu]

This morning DP pulled used condom out of the bin and said it wasn't the type he used and was more or less accusing me of shagging around.

If you can afford it- and even if you can't as they will accept donations sometimes- book yourselves into relate for couples' counselling.

This man has issues and you need help.

I think we're talking about a kitchen bin here. One of those ones that has 2 removable bins? Ignoring the used condom bit for now, how the hell do you manage to not fill one of those bins within a week? Even the recycling side?

If a used condom can stay at the top of the recycling bin for two weeks, you are lucky it was your partner that found it and not one of your children.

Perhaps a little pedal bin and liner for the bathroom would be better.

If you think he did it on purpose you might be right. He could be gaslighting you, to make you doubt yourself. Read about it here:

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/power-in-relationships/200905/are-you-being-gaslighted

LOL

OP - how long have you been with him and has he always been controlling?

Oh God, it's XH again... how that man does get around.

(I won't tell you the condom story but this is the man who offered me a second-hand pregnancy testing kit because "you may need it".)

What? Had someone else already pissed on the stick?

Not quite that bad; it was one of those two-part packets and they'd only used the first stick.

Phew. Although still WTF??

your partner is a nob-end

You should tell him if he's that worried, maybe he should get the spunk DNA tested to prove it's not his.