DP accussed me with used condom

[PoorLuLu]

This morning DP pulled used condom out of the bin and said it wasn't the type he used and was more or less accusing me of shagging around.

Soooo he thinks your having an affair with someone who also recycles his condoms

So, he put it on the bin, which was full of other items to be recycled and then managed to fish it out today, from all the other stuff which had accumulated over the 2 week period? Really??

I even considered he maybe planted it there not a wind up folks, I sometimes feel like I'm going crazy. I couldn't explain it because how would I know why it was there but because I didn't know I stuttered and looked guilty even though I'm not. He's admitted now that he's in the wrong but I'm still a bit shook up by it.

not actually sure condoms are recyclable and if they were aren't you supposed to wash things out before recycling?

Do you mean a bin that is like a toy box- with no lid- or do you mean a bin that is a wheely bin with a lid?

So your DP studies used condoms outside and looks at them to see if they are his?

Hm..

Maybe you need to get on with your French homework.

Wayyy tmi there

IF this is genuine (which I doubt).. is your DP so insanely thick that he can't tell the difference between an 2 week old crusty dried out condom and one that would have been used very recently?

And WTF is he doing rummaging around in the recycling bin (which, by the way is not the place to dispose of condoms, pretty sure it doesn't highlight those on the 'what can go in the recycling bin' leaflets) looking for stray old johnnies?

I think (although of course, this may be a Jeremy Kyle research post, of course) that you may have problems a little bigger than the old french letter in the recycling so I am also going end my pearls of wisdom with:

LEAVE THE BASTARD.

and he thinks your town centre is a cattle market?

This is one very confused man.

Honestly not a wind up. I don't know how this happened. He has apoloigised now anyway so I suppose it doesn't realy matter but It keeps going around in my head.

Lol @ Fixit and their words of wisdom

Can they go in the 'food waste' caddy do you think?

Tell me he is 85 and I won't feel so sceptical.

No I think they're meant to go in the normal trash. The thing is our trash can and the recylcing trash can are the same thing but seperated inside by different compartments, one is yellow and one is green and he always forgets so must have put it in the recycling by accident.

Sorry OP know it's not funny for you at all but this thread has me in stitches....condom identification housekeeping issues washing out before recycling

Maybe it shows how obscured you DH is being.

I think what the OP is trying to tell us is that her DH doesn't trust her one little bit and goes to ridiculous lengths to find evidence of infidelity. That's the problem - and it's a big one.

Has he been cheated on in the past? Is it insecurity or is some controlling shit?

Nothing of use to add, except arf @ TheFantasticFixit

I understand it sounds funny but it wasn't this morning because I couldn't explain it and felt under pressure and thought he was actually going to hit me, it's not nice being accussed of something and not having the answers.

Hassled I think he has been cheated on but from what I know his marriage was over by that time anyway. He is insecure but I feel confused because why would he have stood there unwrapping stuff from the trash? it doesn't make sense.

Sorry OP. You have a different system. We have a green wheelie bin for recycling and a black one for landfill, plus a food caddy.

I think your DH is insecure if this is all true. Do you have any DC? I hope he wasn't waving the evidence about in front of them.

no they were at their dad's house thankfully. He's been fine all afternoon but I guess I'm kind of wordering what other evidence is likely to turn up out of nowhere in the future. Why wouldn't he have just assumed it was his? I would have done.

Could he possibly have suspicions you are cheating and this morning lost it a bit as thought he had finally found the evidence?

This needs sorting out - have you told him you feared he would hit you?

What a strange day you have had. Does he not realise that if you were 'shagging around' you would be unlikely to be putting the evidence in your bin at home. Am I thinking about this too much?

He always thinks I'm up to something though everytime I get a text or go out but I thought he was getting better. I did tell him I thought he might hit me and he said he'd never do that but when I brought it up with him later he said he'd have been mortified if he'd hit me which suggests he could have.

How can you have a compartmentalised bin for waste and recyclables? They need to go into separate vehicles.

What fresh madness is this?

Will no-one think of the planet????

So he is going round searching for evidence of supposed infidelity? He doesn't trust you at all, does he? And then the references (veiled threats?) of violence.

Can't make for a happy relationship - when the person thinks so very little of you. How do you manage to be happy with him?