''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

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:o

onya indeed!

I feel mean. the sound guy just asked to see me again and I've said that while it was lovelyto meet him, I didn't think there was that elusive spark. oh god, bet he texts me back and calls me all sorts!

why do all the men i like, not like me? and the men I think are 'alright' seem to be well into me?! pfffft.

i think you have been honourably honest snapes. best way. a lot of heartache would be saved if everyone was.

nods

ahw, I got a sweet reply. 'oh bugger, I guess it takes two sparks! not to worry x!'

you're right. best to be honest. :) next!

same here snape.
Glad that one took it well

'That one' ????????????????????? HE Since when do I talk about men as though they are a different species??

Awh Zany, that's lovely, I am so pleased for you .

Snape, honesty is definitely the best policy, that's the way this internet dating lark goes, you message, you meet and if you don't click you pass. Next.....! If they don't take it well then they are not the kind of guy you want to be involved with anyway.

since you hung around talking to bottom feeders on dating sites i'm guessing freak

zany - thats really nice, glad you are so h appy :)

snape - its never nice saying that to someone, always makes me feel awful, but if its not there for you, then its not there.

swallowed - blue eyes freak me ut too.

Zany - :-) xxx

Second date amazing!!! Been wearing a silly grin all day! Third date planned!

Trying to be cool about it all though!

Xxxx

Zany so happy for you :o

Time yeah it's all good. I know at some point I'm going to want the love stuff again but for now I'm making the most of my sudden aversion to it

Snape, the ones I like rarely like me also. Gah!

hello all, glad to hear things going well for some of you :)

I havent hidden my profile but I might as well have as I haven't had a single message for a week, and not seen anyone worth sending one to either. am amusing myself with twitter which I have been persuaded to sign up for and which if I can work it might be fun, the ongoing saga of my washing machine which is still not resolved, and work stuff - have a big interview next week for my boss's job, which I am v nervous about. especially as if I dont get it I'll have to leave!

Hi sponge . What on earth is going on with this washing machine? have you spoken to the manufacturer/supplier? I hope someone is at least trying to help you resolve it. As for the interview, when is it? We can all send you some positive vibes. I hope you get it!

You never know lubey, you might quite come to enjoy life without the love stuff and be happy to settle for 'curry' nights with your FWB

Its bad to get my hopes up isn't it before my "pre-date" coffee on Saturday!

I think it's natural to be hopeful newbaby, and if you've liked him via messaging and liked his photo's then there is reason to be hopeful.

Just so long as you dont have 'expectations' :)

Time, am going to start a thread re the washer it is such a saga! v v briefly i got a replacement yesterday which doesnt work - same problem. Ex has been helpful for once and agrees there is no reason for it not to work other than that it is faulty. Now waiting for engineer to come out next week. apparently. or i might just tell them to stick the bloody thing up their arses, get my £400 back and go and buy a decent washer!

interview is next thurs. send me good vibes any time between 9 and 5 it is going on all day...lucky me!

Sponge I would most definitely tell them to collect it and refund your money. You are going to wait for an engineer for him to tell you it's faulty and you need yet another replacement And what can an engineer do? He can only do something if it needs a repair and a brand new machine should not need a repair so another reason for you to demand your money back. You want a machine that works first time, just as you paid for!

I will be sending you good vibes all day next Thursday, don't you worry!

Lots of luck for next Thursday Sponge Definately try and get your money back, I think I would lose faith in that particular brand after have a few problems

2 years today since I left xh
Called him yesterday to check he hadn't done anything about the divorce before I started it off. He said no, could I leave it a couple of months so he could 'prepare himself for it'. He's had 2 years to do that!

Then at 1130 last night got a nonsensical text about something I was supposed to have said to someone about him deleting me on fb. Sent one back asking what I was supposed to have said to who and got one back saying "I know what you said. small town!" So called him asking wtf he was on about, he was obviously drunk and was ranting about a load of stuff that I couldn't even understand then hung up on me. Then called me back said sorry for hanging up then ranted a bit more, then denied everything he'd jst said (sooo glad I know about gaslighting now because when I was with him his habit of doing that used to make me seriously doubt myself) then hung up on me again! Decided to just ignore then got a text saying "dont worry about me you never did" then a bit later another one saying he'd met someone he really liked and he didn't want anyone to be sad and lonely. WTF????

Suspect he has made this person up tbh (two weeks ago he said he wasnt over me) but if he hasn't it DOES piss me off slightly. Not because I would ever want to be with him, the thought of that actually makes me feel sick, but
a) because he has been 'too busy' to have the dc lately so if he hasn't been too busy to cultivate a new relationship that means he is prioritising them over the dc and my children deserve more than that
and b) (channeling inner 4 year old) because it's not fair that he is as much of a twat as he is and yet he gets to meet someone before I do I'm a nice person, I deserve someone that makes me happy dammit!

he hasn't met anyone! and if he has, good luck to them (both!)

I often wonder that - my ex is an alcoholic with severe mental health problems, has two families that he has left and is onto his third...we get nothing from him financially ...and he's seen as a catch! (by some rather dull women, it must be said) then there's me, independent, intelligent, devastingly witty, reasonably attractive and I can't get so much as a sniff of a shag. damn you, standards!

I think it's the way of the world. theres that chap who has fathered 17 kids by 14 different mothers, he looks like a roughly skelped arse, yet still women sleep with him. it's a mystery.

Freak I'm betting that he hasn't met anyone, he is just trying to make you jealous. I used to get the gaslighting too from my ex, drives you mad andI would question myself loads.

Snape you could be in a relationship at the drop of a hat but you have standards are waiting until you meet someone who you fancy and can have a conversation with etc. I suspect he is with someone just for the sake of it. My XH has gone from relationship to relationship and I think this is mainly because he is outgoing and can talk the talk. A few months in and they realise that he is ALL talk.

well yes, but standards don't lead to fanny-batter, do they? (bloody standards!!)

at fanny batter

Wonders what Snape and Zany are referring to.....

Zilch happening in my love life. Don't think it's ever been so barren. Had a shudder running down my spine when I realised this was another chrismas without a man. Don't know why, I should be used to it by now. Still getting a couple of messages on POF off men who's profiles leave me cold.