OMFG!

[DooinMeCleanin]

I actually have what I what I want! It is has taken tears and tantrums and god knows what but I have access to the savings. I cannot breathe. I need to leave. I am drunk. What do I do???

Please. I am sat shaking. According to him I don't deserve what I want. BUt I know I do. What do I do?

Please. I feel sick.

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transfer some to your account? I have no idea of the history behind this...

It's a post office card. I can't do that. I can give it to my Dad who H wouldn't dare take it off, but I hneed to leave, while I am pissed enough have the guts enough to.

I need to think. Cn't see. Too many tears. What do I do?

Can you call your dad to come and pick you up? Get a taxi to his or to a friends?

I cannot mention my not so dear father on MN but let's just assume blood would be spilt if I went there.

H would never lay a finger on me or the dc. He would not dare. I need to leave for self esteem reasons and the fact that while he loves being in love H does not love me, nor does he and his controlling side deserve me.

My Dad only knows half a story, so I cannot go there.

I've been waiting to leave for years. I finally have the card. He knows I wish to leave but I don't think he really believes it. What do I do?

Could you please explain your situation? The ones of us who don't know you have no idea what you are talking about, but would love to help.

Short answer 'D'H is a twat ho has been undremining me and putting me down for years.

I have always threatened that one day will br enough. I guess today is that day. I hate and despise him for no real reason more than any other than I hate him and I deserve more in my life.

Where is your H now? At home too? Just call a cab, bundle the kids into it and go to a friends house. Or a hotel. Just go. Passports etc can all be re ordered.

Have you got access to these savings online and are you able to transfer them to another account?

Or have you got access to a magic piece of plastic that will enable you to take the savings out of an atm machine in cash or go on a shop till you drop spree either in person or online?

Do you have to make a decision tonight? If it's a piece of plastic, what's the chance of him finding out you've got it? Can you hide it?

Could you go to a hotel? A friend's?

Take a deep breath and let it settle for a minute. And one more deep breath. Try to slow your breathing and heart down si you can think clearly.

If you're leaving tonight, have you packed what you need? Are you taking the children? Do you have passports, birth certificates, etc ready to take?

YES

YES YES YES YES YES

YES

Well done darling girl, well done!!

Okay, calmly, or at least I think I am calm now. It is a mere inconsquential bit of plastic that has caused all of this. I am, despite popular opinion, worth more than plastic.

Dh believes I am not worth more than plastic, that is fair enough, I guess, it's his choice one way or t'other. I will not lower myself enouhg to beg. I am worth more than that.

I now have this silly but oh so important bit of plastic in my posesion. Once I have my deposit and etc. I will go about helping Twattish with his/our debt so as to help our children,

Is there any way to move the money out of that account and into one in your own name tonight?

How are you sweet?

Dooin, you are worth way more than a piece of plastic.

So, what's the next step? What can we help with?

What type of account is it? Some PO accounts allow you to withdraw up to £1000 in cash in any one day from PO machines and from Link ATM machines.

No there is now way. There is also no way he will find this plastic. It's over. The end. It's sad but that's way the cookie crumbles and all. I for one will be better off. Plastic is hidden good and well.

If you wait until Monday and take it in to a PO, ask if it can be used in Link ATM machines as that way you won't have to keep to PO hours to withdraw funds.