OMFG!

[DooinMeCleanin]

I actually have what I what I want! It is has taken tears and tantrums and god knows what but I have access to the savings. I cannot breathe. I need to leave. I am drunk. What do I do???

It can be used in a link machine. I've checked before. We are there. I have what I need. We're gone. Bu bye, Ser you later and all that. All I ever wanted was a deposit and a bed for my kids. The rest I can work for, can't believe I have what I want!!!

Scary but here goes a whole new life :D

Still shaking. Need to sleep but can't. Cannot believe I actually have the card.

I need to be careful, though, he will be 'sorry' and he will 'love me' and feel 'regret' and wot not, but we'll cope. I need to tune into my 'inner nana' (anyone who is really, really, realy close will get that last joke).

Well obviously I'm not cause I don't get it :o but tune into whatever keeps you strong and happy the next few days :)

Dooin, I've seen at least one of your other theads, the plate-flinging one. I can't do anything practical, but I'm cheering from the sidelines.

I doubt anyone one here is truely close, even my beloved, but banned DBF and Reality, who whether she knows it or not helped me with her no nonsense advice.

Regardless I am gone. I have what I needed. Sia-nara (sp?) See you later. Bu bye my dear.

Best, best, best of luck with everything.

I miss DBF too. Have you posted on The Place That Shall Not Be Mentioned?

Did you go and look at any of those places you thought you could rent?

What are you going to do tomorrow?

Does he know you have the card?

Chipipng, good god, I am loosing the will to type , I have not rang back those placas but I did ring in the first place. I know I have a place to rent, dogs and all.

I have not posted on the place that shall not be named just yet but you know I willl, eventually.

I have THE CARD. All I ever wanted

I'm so so thrilled for you :) A place and the dogs can go too

Are you going to move out tomorrow?

Are you sure he wont find the card? Does he know you have it?

How long will the savings last you? Or is it just enough for the deposit & the beds?

I have NO idea what's going on but it sounds like you deserve a huge cheer! Well done, well done, well done!

Are you able to spend time tomorrow putting documents together and maybe a few necessary clothes without giving yourself away? If not then don't jeopardise anything. Do be careful. Well done and all the best.

I take it you know the pin number as well?

Good luck!

Dooinmecleanin

Well done you for getting out
I miss seeing DBF around as well but I know you 2 were very close, I hope she is "watching" and supporting you the whole way
I wish I could physically help but suspect it's not possible, will try to be here for emotional support if I can
Glad you have found somewhere that will take the dogs as well

Dooin - having seen some of your story before I am another cheering you and urging you on from the sidelines. Good luck and I hope this all goes well for you. Stay strong.

Dooin - I remember you made a brief appearance on the abusive relationship thread but you didn't stick around, after an AIBU thread where you were fed up about your H calling you fat, iirc. Haven't seen your other threads, but the way that AIBU thread developed it was clear how controlling and insensitive your H was. If there has been plate-flinging and financial abuse as well, then YES thank goodness you are getting out.

A word of caution though: you mention giving the card to your father for safekeeping, but then also call him "not so dear F".

I wouldn't be surprised if your parents are toxic, as a precursor to you choosing a toxic H. If that is the case, please don't involve them in your escape, if at all possible (speaking from experience here). You need to be free from all emotional leeches in order for your new life to start.

I have absolutely no advice for you Dooin, but I wanted to wish you the very best of luck. We'll be rooting for you over here :)

I think you need to get some money out straight away because he'll be able to put a stop on the card when he finds out it's missing

Good Luck with your quest.

Ohh what fab news :) I wish you well and good luck in your new place!

I have seen you on a few threads and am so, so happy that you are out. Well done you! :)

This card.... Do you know there is money there? For sure?

How did you get it?

Good luck! Have seen a few of your previous threads, am so glad you're getting out :)

are you actually out of your abusive situation ?

I am not understanding the glee involved here

surely the celebrations should start when you get away, not when you are still there contemplating "the impossible"

can you update ?

Well done you! X