Belting out Adele songs to your 27 cats... dating chat thread #5

[lubeybooby]

New one! Off we go :o All kind of dating, chat here.

Well you seem to be doing well snape Don't forget to update us!

Poppa might be very very busy

Pleased you had a great night lubey

As for seeing someone you know on a dating site, is there anyone else who keeps expecting their ex to pop up or is it just me?

Just got home. We met down at the beach as the weather was mild but nice (23 celsius here). Went for a walk, then to the pub for a meal, then to the shops for milk and smokes, then went our separate ways. I did my best John Lennon impersonation and said "Thank you very much for coming and I hope we passed the audition". She laughed and said we did. The voice isn't half an annoying irl as it is on the phone. So early days but looking good!

Yaaay! Brilliant Poppa So pleased for you!!!

Hay good news Poppa, are you going to ask her for a second date?

I have seen both my XH and an ec who I went out with at the beginning of the year keep popping up on OK Cupid. When I saw my XH he was wearing a jumper I had bought him and the things in the background were household stuff that I had brought when we were together but he took when he left - was very weird.

I just logged onto OK and saw Mr Yacht showing as 'online' but he didn't show as one of my favourites as being online. This dating makes you paranoid, convinced myself he has blocked me!

zany I know what you mean! Why don't you just send him a quick "hi" message? As for the ex, I doubt very much that mine will put himself on a dating site, he wouldn't know how to upload a photo for a start but that doesn't stop me from 'seeing' him in the thumbnail pics of other men. There are a few who look like him from a distance! I would be intrigued to see what he would write about himself though!

can all you daters advise me here please?

TIA

He went offline whilst I was panicking thinking about whether to send a message. He has been in contact as he sent an email on Tuesday to let me know he had booked a table and sent a couple of text's last night to see how I was. Of course he could be saying the same thing about me being online. Ahhhhhhhhh this do they like me/don't they drives me mad.

Right I'm done. Ahhh back to MN-ing, lovely :)

Yeah had a great night last night. Gorgeous curry and gorgeous other activites :o

Stay, no he hasn't put that he is in a relationship... it's not the 'who' that bothers him, it's that it's only 6 weeks since he took the last realtionship off his profile and that he hasn't told his son yet. It's fair enough for now, and even though we have had 'the talk' and been planning ahead it has only been what... three weeks ish after all. He can have a few more weeks before I prod him about it again.

Zany, don't rule him out just yet. I seem to remember something about a three to five day rule for second date contact. and :o at the helium balloons

Ballroom I love dogs as well as cats and my DD would give anything to have a dog but it's just not do-able here :(

Wriggly love the outdoor picnic idea. I've done that before and it was even in the rain with a big brolly and waterproof backed picnic blanket. It was one of the most romantic days of my life :o

Time sorry to hear of the dickhead overload. Been there so very many times but :o at Lulu having a mad half hour. I love it when mine do that :o

Re: exes on dating sites, I got my ex set up on Okc and edited his profile for him. Even though he was horrid as a husband we have an alright friendship and I'd love to see him happy with someone else, and we never had DC so I don't have any strained contact with him over that kind of thing. The friendship is getting more distant now and that's fine with me also! I've never seen any other exes on there though.

Poppa so glad the date was good and better than you thought :o excellent stuff :o

That was nice of you lubey, to help your ex. I don't think I could do that for my ex and still have a clear conscience though, I really do pity any other woman that ends up with him and would feel as though I was helping him to lure them into a life of abuse and misery. He really is not cut out for relationships and should come with a warning!

I just had a message "You had much response this week". What kind of a message is that? Is that really a chat up line? I'm beginning to wonder if I've got the wrong idea about all this dating lark!

Ballroom, just for the record we do love dogs too but like Lubey, it's just not workable for us. Lulu is just purrfect!

Time yeah I know what you mean. It did cross my mind, but I think most of our worst issues were specific for us as a couple and having grown apart and become too different. He wasn't abusive at all for many years, not until our politics and other opinions and values started to clash and he could well be fine with someone else who shares his views a bit more like I did when I was first with him.

That is such a crappy message. I never understand people who contact you asking if you're having any luck or wanting to talk about the site. It's too friendly rather than an attempt to impress you/date you and what would they do if you said yes I've got four dates this week... as if anyone would admit it if they had with a question like that. it's daft :o

Hurray poppa! Hope there will be a second date on the agenda

Lubey - ahhh yes I see why he would be reluctant, fair enough!

arfgh! found gorgeous eye candy man on okc on quickmatch and forgot to make a note of his name. he was SO beautiful that I just sat like a rabbit in head-lights for a bit. now having to trawl through thousands of eligible men again to see if i can find him. tsk.

'date' with banker-toy-boy is on monday. swift drinks, southbank. :)

can you look at your internet history snape and find him that way?

pfft. too many to choose between! think I shall search- 'order by % match' - he was somewhere in the mid-sixties, I normally go for a higher match (even though it is all random mumbo jumbo..) but I'd be willing to drop my knickers standards... I shall search! :)

poppa - very glad it went well, :)

Does anyone else think that Rihanna's song 'We found love in a hopeless place' is talking about internet dating

more like 'we found hopelessness in a love place!'

found him! messaged him! Rrrr! he's a tiny bit on the short side, but one simply can't have everything, can one?

I love your go getting and positive attitude snape.

Update... she's coming over tomorrow night and bringing takeaway Chinese! The cleaning was not in vain!

Excellent Poppa! A result!

Poppa :o :o

Oooh looks like quite a few of us have some potentials on the horizon - exciting.

Now then wise women of the internet dating thread, once more I need some advice... The guy I spent the night with on our (gulp) first date last Saturday is actually rather growing on me. He's been texting me and we skyped last night and I like him I think. He's fun and sweet and he definitely wants to see me again.

I thought I might go up to London for a couple of days soon to see him (and maybe tie in the visit with seeing some friends) but he has a new flat mate moving in so has said he will come down to me. It's a four hour drive to where I live. He plans to take a day or two off work so that he can fit in with when my children are away with their fathers, which tends to be at the beginning of the week. He's quite a well known human rights lawyer specialising in asylum litigation (he's googleable so I know it's true) and work is very full on for him, so taking time off is a big deal.

I guess I'm just wondering what his deal is. He's pretty heavy on the sex talk and has made it perfectly clear that he's looking forward to more shenanigans (I am too) but he's also generally quite attentive and nice. He's attractive and interesting and I find it hard to believe he really needs to drive an eight hour round trip and take time off work just to get a shag.

What say you lot? Do you think he's genuinely interested or is he just a total horndog? I'm wary and don't want to form attachments to people who aren't going to reciprocate.

Shineon, have you had a conversation with him about exclusivity? Did you agree to take your profiles down together? Have you challenged him about the fact that he's been logging on every day? And how much do you really like him?

Too many questions?

Cross posted Shiney - yes time for him to go I think. That's not on at all he is telling you one thing re: his seriousness and doing something which indicates totally otherwise